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Sunday, March 15, 2015
Go With The Flow
I've been trying to "go with the flow" instead of "make things happen" to see if there it makes a difference. This applies to dating, working, et al. I think I'm in a funk.
It just sounds like you're really into finding the right formula for dating and it's clearly not working. You ask people what site they used, how old they are, who contacted whom, who was the pursuer... but there's no real formula to how relationships are going to work. I know few relationships that worked out the so-called traditional way.
Yes, I want to know what others have done because I've done just about everything else and it hasn't worked out. I will admit, I think that's because I love being single, not necessarily because I'm not doing the right things...
It sounds like you only date one way, which is following The Rules. You also can't expect to be in a successful relationship if you aren't open to it. It sounds like you're pretty closed minded and only care about being married because society tells you to, not because you want to share your life with someone. If your life is full already, which it sounds like it is, why do you bother dating? Societal pressures are bullshit. Do what you want.
You and me both, sista! I thought my funk was PMS, but it's been going on for a month so can't just be hormones. Gah.
ReplyDeleteLOL, it's not easy
DeleteNot totally related, but I keep seeing articles that make me think of you! And I think this can be applied to dating as well:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/03/the-power-of-good-enough/387388/
But to address your post, I also feel in a funk and have to keep telling myself to just roll with it. We're all in SF - what gives?
Hi TJ, thanks for the article! I hadn't seen it yet
DeleteI think it's lack of sun and gloomy SF weather?
It just sounds like you're really into finding the right formula for dating and it's clearly not working. You ask people what site they used, how old they are, who contacted whom, who was the pursuer... but there's no real formula to how relationships are going to work. I know few relationships that worked out the so-called traditional way.
ReplyDeleteYes, I want to know what others have done because I've done just about everything else and it hasn't worked out. I will admit, I think that's because I love being single, not necessarily because I'm not doing the right things...
DeleteIt sounds like you only date one way, which is following The Rules. You also can't expect to be in a successful relationship if you aren't open to it. It sounds like you're pretty closed minded and only care about being married because society tells you to, not because you want to share your life with someone. If your life is full already, which it sounds like it is, why do you bother dating? Societal pressures are bullshit. Do what you want.
DeleteI agree, societal pressures are bullsh*t and I'm not that open to dating, but I sometimes do it because of FOMO.
DeleteSo, tell me, why does it sound like you are irate? You are also coming off as preachy and judgmental, why?