Greg

I went from thinking Greg is a nice guy to Greg is a douchebag. He is arrogant, always hanging around my apartment, makes himself at home, but expects me to fetch him things even though I am not his host (my roommate invites him over). I kinda hate Greg.

Girls don't like douchebags. Too bad there are so many of them out there.

Advice and Q&A

Okay, I am going to star doling out advice. Yeah yeah, all you read about is how I meet strange men in San Francisco, but you know what? I know how it works, how guys think, how they behave / misbehave, etc.

I get approached by guys all the time! There are ones who I dismiss immediately, those who grow on me, and those who disappear and reappear.

I get tons of questions from my friends (guys and girls) daily. I am going to start posting the interesting ones.

Need advice or thoughts on guys, girls, dating, etc? Email me adventuresaurusgirl@gmail.com. I will not disclose your identity.

Google Voice Update

Okay, I finally used my Google Voice invite. It took me about 3 hours to pick a phone number. It would have been easier if they just picked one for me, but they didn't offer that option.

The 415 area code must be the largest in the US. Google Voice kept giving me options for towns I have never even heard of (Novato, Stinson Beach, Bolinas, etc) and towns I have heard of like Sausalito (which is not "in the city").

It took 5 minutes of hitting "Next" to finally find one exchange for San Francisco, 935; the other is 742. So, if you want a San Francisco 415 number, search for 415-935 or 415-742. I just saved some people a lot of time out there.

I heard Google Voice was originally meant for homeless people. I wonder if this is true.

Google Voice

I have been invited to get a Google Voice account. I am not too sure how to use it yet, but I think I want it.

It took about 2 weeks to get the invite (for those who are thinking about requesting one)

They Just Wake Up One Day And Decide It's Time

Okay, did a little more research and learned guys wake up and think, "Wow, it's time to start looking for a wife." Mostly due to age and if their friends are paired off.

What's with the fronting?

Filling in the Holes

Okay, some of you might have noticed, there are some holes in this blog. I leave out locations (names of bars, restaurants, grocery stores, etc.) a lot because I don't want to be made.

I am going to start filling in the holes. Why? Because maybe other single girls in SF are reading this blog in hopes of getting a date or not getting a date.

Methodology...after a month or three weeks have passed, I will go back and add the names of places I visit. Yes, three weeks is arbitrary, but I think people will have hopefully forgotten me / encountering me by then?

Eventually, I will add in more details about these guys too...

Growing On Me

I find that letting someone "grow on me" actually works. WTF? It's like that marketing concept which says the more you are exposed to a brand via advertising/exposure/etc, the more you will think highly of it even if you have had no direct relationship with it. For example, liking Ivory soap even though you don't use it and never have. However, you have seen enough ads for it that you find it to be a favorable product.

This works with me and guys. For example, Felix. Nothing wrong with him, but when I first met him, eh. Now, he is a pretty good candidate for dating. I am easily mindf*cked.

No Younger Guys

Top 3 Reasons Why I Don't Date Younger Guys

1. They don't know how to treat a lady
2. They are arrogant. They haven't gotten kicked around by society enough yet to become modest/more reserved
3. Most of them are broke

Oh That's Becoming

Can you hear the sarcasm?

I went to an event tonight. Saw some people from last week's event. Didn't meet anyone dateable, but did meet some potential job leads. Also met some guys who would be great friends (funny, personable, and totally not my type...think looks).

The standout undesirables:

• A chump who was clearly nervous and defensive at the same time? Yeah, I cut him off pretty fast.
  
• A 45+ year old guy who is unemployed and wants to take me out. Yes, it would be more okay if he had a job, but I still wouldn't go. He was totally heinous and rotund. Shutdown, next!
  
• A young guy who is naive and eager to talk to everyone. Too bad his enthusiasm came off as desperation. The poor guy actually thinks he will meet a nice hot girl at these events. Good luck. Nice, maybe. Hot, no way.
  

I actually feel bad for some of these guys. I chatted with a couple of guys and learned they met through these events FIVE years ago. Yeah, five years and nothing. Still super single.

I cannot turn into that!!!

Oh to be a single girl in SF. Yes, this is the dating scene...

Felix did not accompany me this evening which is why I met over 15 guys.

LMAO

I only spoke to 2 new guys on Friday night (which is really quite unfortunate). I was seriously cckblocked all night. Anyway, we exchanged names, chatted about facebook, etc. Well, both of these 2 guys have asked me to do something in the near future. Hilarious.

Is Felix sleeping on his watch? Hehehe.

Magnet

I am a magnet for Asian guys. Either:

1. This is new OR
2. I just started to notice (this is much more likely)

The Bragger (yes, that's what I have named him) from Friday night wants to meet up some time. Not surprised.

Quid Pro Quo

Gross. Networked and tried to find myself a job. Unfortunately, there are a lot of scumbags out there. One guy would be more than happy to get me a job, but what will I do for him in return?

He can go f*ck himself. I flat out told him not interested.

Mother f*cker.

2 Types in SF

There are 2 types of guys who I deal with daily in SF:

1. Chatty Guy - guy who can't stop talking even though I am bored to tears
2. Staring Guy - guy who keeps looking at me, but will not say anything to me

Nice...

Event

Went to an event tonight in Nob Hill. It was eh. Talked to a couple of guys and hung out with Felix. Felix wouldn't really let me out of his sight. I am really thinking Felix could be potential. I never really gave him a chance, but...

One guy was bragging about how he sold his company to a large computer company (think one of the most common OS companies). He also couldn't stop bragging about how smart he is, blah blah. Snore. Maybe he can help me find a job.

Then there was the guy from a couple of months ago (short sweaty guy) who did not understand "Go away" then and didn't understand it tonight.

And the guy who is clearly a dork, but thought he was much more. He was nice, but...

It was nice to go, but no good leads.

No Surprise

No surprise here. Spent an hour at the grocery store. A guy was following me around for 30 or so minutes. He had potential to be cute, but with the baseball cap on...

Instead of tailing me, he should have just said something. Of course he didn't because this is SF where boys are sissys.

Just Saying

I have noticed that a friends of friends are paired up. This would bother me if the guys were remotely desirable since that lessens the pool I have to chose from. They are not. These girls are not all that either. They are typical SF girls (wow, that's not nice).

I feel like I am getting pickier. I didn't even think that was possible.

Oh yeah, why is Greg always at my apartment?

Is That a Line?

This dude asked me, "Is it laundry day today?" Sadly, I am pretty sure he meant that as a conversation starter. Apparently, he has seen me around the laundromat. Sigh...

I Knew It Would Happen

It was only a matter of time... Went to a bunch of bars tonight. Saw Aquaguppy, but he didn't see me. Never forget, SF is small. Escaped with no issues. Aquaguppy is clearly still looking for a girl. Pretty sure Odie and Felix are, and wouldn't be shocked if Rocketman is too. Yeah guys, there are a lot of girls who want to go home with you at the end of the night, but are those the girls you want to keep? I thought so. I call woodworks (as in, they will jump out of the woodworks) on all of the above.

2 things I learned tonight:

1. A lot of guys get married around 30. Guys with MBAs get married really young ~25 or a bit older ~35+
2. A lot of SF girls are aggressive. Meaning, they see a guy they want, they go for it that night thinking it will lead to much more. Yeah, I think it is easier to get struck by lightning

I don't think there is anything wrong with being picky. Come on really though, in any other city, the perfect dude would have found me by now.

The Art of Conversation is Dead

Boys don't seem to have very good conversation skills or pickup lines. I went grocery shopping in North Beach today.

Safeway Guy:
"You should totally get the chocolate pudding."

I ignored him. He kept talking to me as he was walking away.

Trader Joe's Guy:
"Do you think it's weird that I didn't flirt with that girl who just walked by because I am in the middle of a great song?"

I gave him a 3 second blank stare and turned away. He didn't stop there.

His next question, "So what are you listening to?"

I didn't bother looking in his direction or responding to his question.

WTF?
Seriously. Do I have a sign on me that says, "Go ahead, try to talk to me. I am friendly?"

If anything the opposite is true. I was wearing a baseball cap and had headphones on. So, you would think, "This girl wants to be left alone" wouldn't you?

Okay, I'll admit this, if either of these guys were cute, of course I would talk to them...too bad for them, they were not cute.

Dance Class Is A Dead End?

Salsa classes may not be the best place to meet guys. I can put them in 3 categories:

1. Guys who are socially awkward and cannot get girls to talk to them outside of a classroom setting. Engineers, programmers, "losers," dorks, etc
2. Guys who have a complex of some sort. Napoleon, serious foot fetish, etc
3. Really old guys looking to meet sweet young things

I have talked/danced with guys who I would never talk to/look at outside of a classroom setting. Blech. I think this might be a problem because these guys get their confidence built up way too much.

And What Do You Have to Offer?

I have met enough guys who have NOTHING to offer. Yeah, this sounds obnoxious, but let me explain. Most of the time when you meet someone new, you think, "Wow, this person is so hot or smart or funny or something."

Recently, I have been meeting guys without:

• Looks
• Personality
• Sense of Humor
• Money
• Wit
• Common Sense

Spectacular.

Randoms

Where do these randoms come from??

Went out with Young Guy last night. He is just a friend, calm down.

I don't like to go out on major holidays. July 4th ranks pretty high up there. Met one guy who kept asking me the same questions over and over. I was just being polite by talking to him since Young Guy was talking to one of his friends. Did he seriously think he was getting somewhere by making me repeat myself several times? Then there was the really tall guy who does something with ships...mechanic perhaps. Really dude?

I have started to tell guys my educational background to get them to stop talking to me. This usually works quite well with guys who didn't go to grad school and guys who went to sh*tty grad schools. Unfortunately, this did not work with dumb*ss 1 or 2 last night.

This is why I don't go out all that much anymore.

Yadda Yadda

Been really busy (not with anything super exciting).

I haven't had much to report. Rocketman is done in my book. Does anyone ever really stay done?