Hope He Shows

Hmm, the wrong guy showed up to salsa today...the older dork showed, but not Preppy Guy.

I hope Dance Guy shows tomorrow...gonna be upset if he doesn't...

Oh, Too Cute

Okay, so I have noticed this about myself that might be strange? I have great difficulty dancing with someone who I find cute, but no problem dancing with the whatever guys. Perhaps this is because I have to be chest to chest (yes touching) and cheek to cheek (not that one...).

It's a good way to see if they are in shape though...

Crap

Crap, half of you are saying ditch Aquaguppy, the other half is saying give him a chance. Come on guys!!!

Okay Really?

Okay really? Aquaguppy wanted to meet up today. I said, I would be free for 1 hour. He said he probably can't (waiting for me to beg or plead or something) and wants to do something next weekend. Silly boy, I replied with, "K, have a good week." Get in the friend bucket!! Enough of this nonsense, next time I see him which is TBD since I am quite busy, going to lay it out.

Went to an event at the dance studio tonight. Not many of the students were there, but it was fun. Chatted with a fellow student (guy who sometimes dances as a girl when there aren't enough girls) who has danced with Dance Guy before. He said Dance Guy seems like he lacks confidence. At first I thought, "Hmm, that's a plus." However, Ivan pointed out after the last guy with no confidence (Odie), I shouldn't get too excited.

Meeting up with the lawyer later this week. As of right now it is lunch, but I have a feeling it might morph into dinner if I am okay with it. We'll see how I feel later this week.

Web 2.0 at Moscone is this week. I am going. I bet it'll be interesting.

Hmm, How To Fix This?

So, Aquaguppy invited me to a party filled with couples tonight.  Is he insinuating that we are a couple?

1. He's still inviting me to things?
2. What's with all these couple events?
3. Um, how do I transition this to, "Hey Pal?"

He is persistent. Perhaps I should meet up with him at some point and give him the friend vibe? I really thought I did it the last time I saw him. How to do this so there is no doubt in his mind?

Fun!! I Should Go Out More Often

I am seriously tired and still smell like vodka. Actually, my whole room smells like vodka with a hint of lemon (the lemon part is quite curious). Nevertheless, last night was awesome.

Networking Event
I went to the event at Supperclub by myself and am glad I went. Got there kinda early and got a good seat (close to the door from the bar). Chatted with a girl (who was also by herself) sitting 5 feet away from me. Uh, interesting girl...she didn't go to any of the schools (it was a school specific networking event). The boys started coming in and that's when I got distracted...poor girl, not many guys approached her. Talked to a couple of geeks, glad they got the "shoo" hint.

Next, the doctors approached. There were 3 of them (to start off with, the rest of the crew showed up later). They all had lovely schools under their belts (Yale, Johns Hopkins, Harvard, etc). 2 really got my attention; 1 was MD/MBA and really cute, too cute...if he was on "Grey's Anatomy" his name would be McYummy. Girls were throwing themselves at him. The other was super nice and cute, but not as good looking as the 1st one. Pretty sure he was about to get my contact info since he reached in his pocket for his phone, but the non socially skilled guys jumped in the conversation. Argh. So, now, doctor #2 wants to add me to facebook and meet up sometime (uh, he thinks he can remember my name on his own)?

One of the doctors asked me if I was just going to sit in my spot all night and wait for people to approach me...uh, yeah? It's working isn't it? PS, he wasn't even the first dude to say something like that. All the doctors were very nice. I offered to be wing girl for a couple of them because they really needed help (think super smart, shy, awkward). One of the guys who I offered wing girl services to got my contact info. Wouldn't be surprised if I see these guys again intentionally or because we are on the same party circuit.

Cute boy from my dance class (one of the newbies...seen him 2x?) came in. I grabbed his arm and he gave me a big hug. Chatted briefly and all the doctors disbursed, but came back after dance cutie went to catch up with his boys. Learned dance cutie has a PhD in biotech or something like that...brains = hotter. He wanted to buy me a drink, but I didn't feel like drinking (damn Asian burn). I was always in his line of sight even though I was trying not to be. Caught him looking at me (or maybe the 6 dudes surrounding me at any given moment...I am not sure if he thought I knew these guys before last night). He asked me what I was doing after the event, I said probably meet up with my roommate and that was it...hmm. He's one of the guys I mentioned from previous posts...pretty sure he is interested (or maybe just likes to look at me), let's see if he asks me out now. He totally should... However, I do find it curious that he did not seek me out to say goodnight when he was on his way out...hmm.

Met some cool people. Ran into Christie (which was totally random, love her, she is fun) and her husband when they were on their way out.

Theory
It's quite interesting being a girl in SF. I sat down by myself and boys kept coming over. It was like I was holding court or something. Of course not all of them were princes and there were a couple of frogs. SF is too easy. I was wearing sneakers in a club and it didn't even matter. I actually think I do much better when I go places alone. It's better to go somewhere by yourself vs. with a/some nasty girl(s).

Question
So, how does this work...let's use the doctors as an example. 6 doctors, but I would only be interested in going out with 2 of them. How do they figure out who's got dibs? How do I figure out who is interested and up for grabs? This is good info to have for next time a situation like this occurs.

Part 2 of the Evening
Met up with my roomie after the networking event. I am THE ultimate wing girl :) It was a ton of fun, but nothing of interest to report. See below...dudes of the Marina (at Circa)

• Roommate's friend (calm down kids, not Odie)
• Really tall Morrocan guy who thinks I am pretty (he was so tall that I didn't see him, ran into him, and got tripped up by his giant shoes)
  
• Dorky guy I felt bad for so I gave him my number (he was working sooooo hard)
• Ex Citi guy who wants to meet up for coffee (did not give him my number, he thinks he will remember my name and add me to facebook...good luck with that drunk guy)
• Touchy guy (eww, don't touch, but thanks for the drink)

Let's count potential boys (as of right now) that I would like to know more about

1. The Lawyer Guy I am supposed to meet up with for lunch this coming week
2. 2 of the doctors
3. Dance cutie (Dance guy)
   

Aquaguppy wants to meet up this weekend. He is sooo nice, but really not my type. So many other fish in the sea and the bar just got raised WAY up.

There is no point in counting the boys who have no future potential...don't hate the player, hate the game...

Great Night

It was a great night. Trashed. More in the am/noon...

More Boys?

Hmm, some more newbies showed up at salsa today...very interesting. Wouldn't be surprised if one of these guys ask me out. I really think single guys are taking dance classes to meet girls. Girls were outnumbered 4:1 tonight.

Looks like I have a lunch date (why do guys aim for dinner?) early next week with a new boy (not dance class related). I haven't decided if he gets a name yet. We'll see what happens at lunch...

Trying to decide if I want to go to a networking event Friday night. Yeah, I'll probably end up going... I should since I am ditching a networking event Thursday for dance.

Yes

New thing, just going to say yes to guys that ask me out. Of course, I will still have criteria, but they will not be as stringent. You never know right?

Pretty sure 2 guys from class want to ask me out. Even though neither of them are my type, why not... They are both kinda dorky, but one of them seems to have a better sense of humor and is more sociable than the other one...he's also taller (going to name him Preppy).

Strangely Productive

I have been strangely productive today.

Been called picky by 3 different people in 2 days. Okay, so I am a bit on the picky side.

Met up with Christie (Annette's husband's cousin) at Starbucks for coffee. Christie is super fun! Hope to see her again...

That's Weird

I watched "Millionaire Matchmaker" earlier today...it's a pretty funny show. I've actually met one of the millionaires on today's episode. Anyone guess who? "Sextoy Dave."

No More Late Night Dinners

I am still awake. Yes, it is almost 5am. Went out to Mangarosa for dinner with E; we stuffed our faces. No more late night dinners for me.

Evil Is Hot, No?

Anyone else watch "Gossip Girl?" Chuck Bass is my type...white guy, dark hair, classy, and evil. Perfect!!

Dan Humphrey and Nate Archibald are too whiny.

Is San Francisco Really That Small?!?!

Went barhopping in the Financial District around Happy Hour. Ran into some of Aquaman's friends at Royal Exchange. They were totally trying to figure out who the dude with me was. I could feel the flurry of text messages being sent in the 20 minutes I was at that bar. Also passed 2 of his pals on the street last night after dinner in North Beach with my friend E. Is San Francisco really that small? Why do I feel like I am in an episode of "Sex and The City?" Haha.

This might be confusing for some of you, but Aquaman is getting renamed to Aquaguppy. A much better name for this character? Thanks bro...

There were a ton of cute boys out tonight! Too bad they were all glued to the TV. Gotta love March Madness.

I Just Don't Think I Can

Been doing some thinking. I don't think queer eye can help Aquaman. Neither can money unless his net worth is in the upper millions / lower billions...even then I am not entirely convinced.

Too bad, because he is great on paper...

Please Do Not Stare

Wish these newbies would stop coming to salsa class and stop staring at me when I have to dance with them.

Actually, scratch that...how about they stare at my feet and make sure they don't stomp all over my toes.

Guys Just Don't Listen To Me

Why is it that guys just don't listen to me? Went out to lunch with Aquaman. He worked most of the time via Blackberry. Nice. Anyway, I told him, "I am not a very nice person." He didn't believe me! LOL, as you all know, this is me telling it like it is and absolutely something people should believe.

Apparently I am sketchy because I don't like to disclose every little thing (where I am going, with who, blah blah). Is this really any of his business? Or, anyone elses for that matter?

Still think he's nice, but not really feeling it...it's the whole "type" thing coming into play again. I am just not attracted to him...at all.

What Would You Do?

Would you go out with someone totally not your type (physically...think height, weight, hair color, etc) that treats you incredibly well? Or, someone who is more your physical type that doesn't treat you as well?

This is a toughie I haven't figured out yet. I really didn't think I was THAT shallow. Come on, take a look at Odie!! I thought he was cute, but this is the Peanut Gallery on Odie's looks:

• Ivan: "...he's too ugly to be even close to datable. If you and him were to ever walk down the street people would think you're a high priced Asian prostitute."
• Lynn: "...he is not "eh" he is 100% unfortunate. I can't believe you even considered him - there is not enough alcohol in the world to make him look even passable. Yes, he really is that bad. Good thing you have friends to tell you these things. From now on I will require a photograph of any and all potential candidates"

I Think She Likes Me

I think a girl in my salsa class that likes me. Um, she is nice, but I am just not into girls. Must think of ways to get this across...

Okay, so it's probably partly/mostly my fault. She dances the guy's part. I was trying to concentrate on steps...I was concentrating so hard that I didn't realize I was staring at her chest. Nice. Why didn't I just stare at her neck?? LOL

Next?

Sigh. Aquaman is super nice and we get along quite well, but as of right now, I am pretty sure he will be tossed into the friend bucket. Really had an open mind, but sigh...I don't think he is my type...at all. He is so nice that I know I could destroy him and put him in therapy for years. I felt kinda bad when I was giving him hints on eh...

God, I have a different picture of what my guy should look like in my head.

Party was fun. One dude needed to be taken out and shot. He was so boring that I started texting while he was talking. A girl slapped my ass...haha.

I might have acquired a girlfriend to go adventuring with...nice!!

E, if you are reading this...sh*t, I don't wanna lose the bet!!

Date Set

Is it bad that I have a habit of rushing Aquaman off the phone? Getting picked up around 7 tonight. More later...

Oops I Did It Again

Okay, so I have this problem. My guy friends don't want to be kept as guy friends. Oops I did it again. I went over to my friend Greg's apartment for dinner and movies. Unfortunately, I get the feeling he is into me at times. For example when he wanted to sit closer and and the many minutes he spent watching me watch TV (I pretended I didn't notice). Greg is a sweet guy, but I just don't see him like that and I thought he knew??

We discussed Aquaman; Greg was with me when I met Aquaman a couple of weeks back. His thoughts on Aquaman?

• "You can do so much better" (Hmm, I was impressed by his stats)
  
• "I think he was just trying to get laid" (Let me reiterate, he did not try or suggest anything)
  
• "He was way to aggressive...to the point of desperation" (Hmm, aggressive = not lazy in my book)
  

Theory
Guys aren't catty? Correct, they are much worse. Always slamming the competition, even if they don't have a realistic shot. Because Aquaman was trashed, I actually think more of him.

I guess I won't be bailing Saturday night...too early to tell, but I am more motivated to go now vs. before I saw Greg.

Eject!!

Okay, f*ck. I really really want to bail on tomorrow night. Is it too late to book a flight somewhere? This is soooo typical of me. LOL

Let Him Come To You

I am a firm believer in not talking to guys and letting them come up to me. Let's take the bar for example. I go to bars a lot. I walk in with my crew. I know at least one guy will inevitably approach me. When that happens, it's because he is interested. Maybe he wants to get to know me or maybe he wants to go home with me (yeah, I put the brakes on that one with a quickness).

If I talk to a guy first, he might talk to me just because I am there, not necessarily because he is interested in me. He might think, "This chick is into me, let's see if she'll come home with me tonight." No guy is going to turn down free easy ass.

Let's Meet For a Drink

When I meet a guy and he eventually texts me "Let's grab a drink," he drops 2 points. He can have those 2 points back when I respond with "I don't do drink dates" (or something along those lines) and he comes up with something else.

Theory

I don't like drink dates and always suggest something else.

• It's kinda hard to weed a guy out when I am tipsy
• Very loud place
• He's probably trying to get me drunk = bad intentions

And I Thought I Was Busy

Weekend Plans?

Aquaman called tonight to discuss getting together in the near future. Tomorrow doesn't work for me (he totally wanted to know what I have planned). He seemed to have forgotten how packed his weekend would be. Anyway, instead of issuing a raincheck, he invited me to dinner with him and a small group of his pals Friday and an apartment party on Saturday. I was very eh about all of the above, but he insisted he wanted me at one and/or both of these events. Passed on dinner, said maybe to the party.

Theory

I don't know about you all, but I would NEVER invite some guy I just met to meet my friends (you guys) and don't recommend it. Why? Because if stuff ends ugly, you would still have to hear "Hey, whatever happened to Guy X?" That would be seriously irritating and the last thing you would want to hear. Also, this means he can't really hit on other girls that are there unless he wants to be dismissed. He could be vetting me, but isn't it a bit early to go this route?

Memory Loss?

He admitted he does not remember everything we talked about when we met a couple of weeks back...blame the booze. He claims he remembers what I look like; can't really say the same for him...LOL

Back To Class

Dance Class

• A very awkward boy who has probably never touched a girl in his life was shaking like a leaf and sweating profusely...gross
• A boob level (short) old guy kept trying to get me to look him in the eyes...no thanks
• On my walk home some guy kept shouting "bonita" at me.  So I replied with something I figured he would understand, "I'll cut you"

Staying Around SF

I thought about going down to LA this week / weekend. However, I really don't want to miss salsa class and just got back from AZ. So, just decided to stay around SF...

Aquaman and I discussed getting together Thursday or Friday night earlier this week. Haven't heard from him, so I made plans for Thursday (which don't include him), still figuring out Friday...

Back from the Southwest

I am back from the Southwest. It was a nice trip. Things of interest:

• My friend Annette's mom tried to hook me up with a bartender at a wedding
• Time moves backwards down there
• Don't pick/eat the oranges off of random peoples' trees
• Watch out for roof rats...yeah, rats that live on roofs / in trees...awesome
• A lot of professional athletes live down there
• Totally tired, feel like I partied, but I didn't
• Actually got up before noon today
• Made some friends that live in SF...this might turn into something very fun and interesting...

Guys, Open The Wallet

Paying For Dinner
Sigh. I know a guy who complains about taking girls out on dates and how he always has to pay for dinner. That's how it works!!! That's the price guys pay for wanting to get laid. Maybe if he wasn't such a dumbass, he could figure out a way to get laid without having to go on dates. For example, go to the bar around 1:30am (right before closing time) and find the drunkest girl.

Yeah yeah guys, it's not fair that you always have to pay on dates blah blah. However, 1) it's more cost effective than getting a good hooker and 2) it is part of the wooing process. So only ask a girl out if you really like her, not just to get into her pants.

Theory
As a girl, I expect a guy to pay. It's the least he can do since he is vying for my time. I have other invites with people would be more than happy to treat and might even be better company than some chump I randomly meet.

Funny Story From A Couple of Years Back
I met a guy in Borders and agreed to go out for coffee. The check came and I did the fake wallet grab. He said, "I got it this time, but you can get it next time." Hmm. I never saw him again even though he called me 3x/day for 1.5 months...

A Date

Aquaman called. Still TBD, but looks like a date later this week... Apparently I am sketchy...LOL.

A New Spin On Socioeconomic Class

It Matters
As much as I'd like to think a person's childhood socioeconomic class does not matter, it does. At first I thought I wanted a guy who grew up with a silver spoon in his mouth. However, after spending this past weekend with my college friends Annette and Sarah, I have a new theory.

Theory
The guy who grew up poor (or just anything not rich) is most likely a better guy because he knows how to work and appreciates more things in life. It is also likely that he will work his ass to avoid being poor again. The guy who grew up rich isn't used to working and is more likely to be less ambitious and incapable of being self sufficient. He might not even know how to tie his shoes.

I like this theory...no more trust fund brats.

I Know What My Problem Is

I know exactly what my problem is; I have a tendency to like the idea of things more than the real thing. I am aware of this, but sometimes it's a bit difficult to separate the two.

For example, guys. I'm sure a lot of you remember hearing about Odie. I really liked the idea of him; he's great on paper. Nice job, education, apartment, clothes, car, cute, etc. Unfortunately, he lacked personality and common sense (although we did have some really fun times). For months, he appeared at bars where he knew we would be and talked to me while ignoring everyone else. He never asked me out even though at times I thought he wanted to.

Some thought he was into guys. Some thought he had never hooked up with any girls in his 20 some odd years of existence. Others just thought he was a p*ssy/an idiot. I got over the idea of him when I spent more time with him and came to the conclusion that his lack of assertiveness left more to be desired.

I'm Just Bad With Texts

I am just bad with texts.

There were some texts going on between me and Aquaman last Saturday night. Apparently, it was my turn to reply? I forgot about it and replied on Wednesday agreeing to meet up. He'll call me next week...meaning the one coming up. We'll see...

Denied For Content

I am traveling and stayed in a hotel last night. I tried to check my gmail in the hotel business center. "Net Nanny" denied me because of "drugs and alcohol." I tried to update my blog, but "Net Nanny" flagged me for "adult content." Guess I am doing something right? LOL

Long Lustrous Hair

I heard sometime ago that guys looooovve long hair. I think it's true. I've been growing my hair out. A lot more guys are approaching me at bars and on the street. I read somewhere that it's because long hair = sign of health (good diet, genes, etc) back in caveman times.

So girls, try this out for yourself if you have short hair and let me know how it goes...

Besides Edward

Okay, Edward from Twilight is simply dreamy. However, I am also a big fan of superheroes. Bruce Wayne and Tony Stark...swoon! They don't have superpowers, they are just extraordinary humans. Where should I go to meet one of them? LOL.

The Allure Of Married Men

I can now understand why some women are enticed by married men. No, I don't like married men thanks, but I get it!

It works like this...if someone out there thinks he is good enough to marry, well, then he might be a pretty good catch. Yes there might be some things wrong with this over simplification, but that's the idea behind it. However, just because someone else wants him doesn't necessarily mean he is great...

If I find out that a guy is getting setup by all his pals, I start to believe he is pretty good. Think about it, would you try to setup your friend if you knew he was a tool? Of course not, it reflects poorly on you too.

You Want What You Can't Have

I am sure you have heard "You want what you can't have" at some point in your life. Some argue the statement makes no sense and is erroneous; I disagree. Perhaps I am just easily mindf*cked, but I become much more intrigued by something I can't have or something that I think I can't have.

I think wanting something I can't have is more of a guy trait. That would make sense since I tend to think more like the typical guy than the typical girl.

Oops, Slipped My Mind

Oops, realized I never wrote back Guy 2 from last Saturday (2/21); just sent a reply. I am going to rename him "tall guy" since I don't remember much else about him...well, he was also very well dressed.

I Am A Weeder

I consider myself a weeder. I like to find reasons to end a conversation / never see someone again as soon as humanly possible; my time is valuable to me. I have never understood people who make excuses when they meet new people. For example, "Well, maybe she is somewhat slutty with me because she really likes me" or "Maybe he's not always this angry when he drinks."

Interesting Character

I met an interesting character last night at Bigfoot Lodge. I was in the bar for about 1.5 minutes before he pulled me over to join his group. Early 30s, MBA from a school better than mine according to the rankings, cute, nice, and ex military (the special division?). Hmm. Pretty sure of it, but not positive; he didn't spell it out, but I can put 2 and 2 together...I think. Also a bit fuzzy on how tall he was... He was surprisingly coherent for someone who had been drinking excessively.

Some History
I have actually dated (went out a couple of times with) a cop and a diplomatic security service agent. What's with me and this type? Better yet, what's with them liking feisty girls?

I go through phases. I thought I was in the GQ / Euro / ambiguously gay phase (I'll go into that another day).

Aquaman (renamed)
Aquaman was very good at asking questions which would lead to incorrect answers regardless of what I said...training put to good work, I guess it comes in handy when he chats with girls at the bar. I was even better at not answering these questions. He hung out all night with me and my crew (yeah, the one that kept ditching me and going to bars down the street) for 5 hours. I gave him plenty of opportunities to leave. Surprised he stuck around and didn't have a headache. If I had to hear me dodge questions and talk in circles, I would...

He walked me home and made sure I didn't get run over by a car or jumped by a madman; I like protective guys. He didn't try anything. Maybe this is because I told him 3 minutes into meeting him that if he was looking for a girl to go home with / bring home, he should go talk to someone else.

He wants to go out sometime. If he calls, he calls, if not, no biggie...