Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!  Let's meet our goals for 2014!

The Brain is having another NYE party.  I am not going because I want nothing to do with him.  If we didn't have friends in common, I would tell him I want nothing to do with him.

Smart Guy and the Older Guy have both contacted me to wish me a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Too Many Emails

I guess there is such a thing as sending too many emails...a guy on match sent me seven emails back to back without me even logging in.  It's better than not sending any though...thanks for the enthusiasm!

Oh Look

Oh look, another article about dating in Silicon Valley.  This stood out because it similar to what I've seen, "There are tons of guys, but they tend to be socially awkward, career-obsessed, and prone to a Peter Pan mentality."  And where are the 30 something year old guys?  Great question!

Merry Christmas!

How is already Christmas?  Well, Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday (for those who don't celebrate Christmas).

I've been pretty nice and Santa still hasn't brought me a non dchy guy...Santa, what's up with that?

Another Interesting Read

Came across this a couple of weeks ago, another interesting read.  According to the article, guys just love the Asian ladies.  I guess I do get contacted online a lot, but doesn't mean the guys contacting me are all that great.

What A Turnoff

Yuck, such a turnoff when a guy is a clingy!  I agreed to go out to lunch with a guy weeks ago.  Monday, week of, he emailed me the location and time, I responded with agreement.  Then, he emailed me on Tuesday to tell me to come up with topics to talk about on our date.  What?!  That irritated me to no end.  I am busy, I don't have time to sit around and make a list of things to talk about.  At this point, I am already thinking, this guy is f*cking annoying, controlling, and a micromanager.  And, is he assuming that I would have nothing to say if I didn't plan something ahead of time?  Then, he emailed me on Wednesday reminding me of our upcoming date.  So, he thinks I am forgetful or just needs some kind of constant reassurance?  Then, he emailed me on Thursday asking me for my phone number because he wants me to call him if I get to the restaurant before him.  Afraid I am not showing up?  Then, he texted me on Friday reminding me that we have a date coming up.  Because he thinks I forgot again?  Then, day of, he texted me to say he got to the restaurant early.  When I saw him outside the restaurant he was pacing and a ball of anxiety/frustration.  Great.

I wanted to cancel, but already agreed to go out with him and so I went.  He was one of those interrogators, I guess I knew he would be based on his emails.  No, I am never going out with him again.

Bragging

To a certain degree, all guys brag.  There is a huge difference between:

1. Bragging to make you think he is worthy, and
2. Bragging to try to make you feel inferior

I meet a lot of guys in category number two...or maybe they are trying to be in category one and are really overdoing it.

A Date A Week

I've been dating a lot recently and averaging a different guy or two every week (this is a lot for me).  I haven't written about all of them because there isn't much to say and I don't want to rehash train wrecks in great detail.

So, a nice summary...you already know about the older guy I went to dinner with.  Then there was a younger guy I went ice skating with.  He was nice, but there was no chemistry.  Then there was the attorney that I didn't find attractive; too bad, he was also nice.  I declined a dinner invitation from surgeon with his own practice because he chastised me on the importance of marriage and serious relationships before we had even met.  Then I went to a party with a tech guy as his date ("just a friend" is how it was sold to me), he was patronizing.  Oh yeah, he was also acting like I was his girlfriend. 

Besides the younger guy (mid 30s), the others are 45 + year olds.

Just Send An Email

I've had several different online dating accounts for years.  I've noticed that many guys think winking, favoriting, living, visiting, rating, etc is enough.

Guys, if you really want a specific girl to notice you, send a message.  I joined match.com.  In the first 24 hours, I had:

• 150 views
• 18 photo likes
• 7 favorites (guys favorited me)
• 8 winks, and 
• 6 emails

I've only read my six emails.  I don't have the time or energy to look at 183 other things.  I know some guys wait for a girl to look at their profile/wink back/favorite back/like back and then send an email (or even worse, wait for the girl to email him).  It doesn't work

Good For Him!

If this is true (I've heard this is not true), good for him!  I think plastic surgery is fine, but the guy should probably know what you used to look like before getting married if you want children (you know, because looks do get passed down this way).  This would be the same if the guy was the one who had extensive plastic surgery.  If kids aren't in the cards, then no point in disclosing!

An Improvement

I've been meeting a lot of guys...a lot of guys that I'm not interested in.  Oddly (or not oddly) enough, two software engineers stand out:

1. Software engineer complaining about how his life is so very difficult because he has five job offers and they keep outbidding each other.  This is a problem?  What a tool.  It didn't even register with him that other people would kill for his "problem."  He was arrogant and entitled (no surprise here)
2. Software engineer hitting on me and one of my girl friends.  We were trying to be very polite in brushing him off.  Our politeness must have caused him to think we wanted to talk to him?  He wouldn't even leave when I said, "It's been nice chatting with you, have a great night"

 However, I must say, kudos to them for approaching!

This Could Explain It

Yeah, this could explain the older guy thing I've been encountering.  And yes, at least two of the older guys who have approached me are indeed millionaires.  It's hard not to be when you own tons of commercial property, are a partner at a big law firm, or are a partner at a Private Equity firm.

Older Guys

As you know, I've been out a lot.  I haven't gotten into this all that much because I thought it was a fluke, apparently not.  We already know awkward software engineers sometimes approach me.  Well, I've noticed that older guys have been approaching me a lot

Google Glass

I don't know much about Google Glass, but don't wear it out on a date.  Besides what it does (not clear on this), it looks ridiculous.

Hahaha

The Brain has called and texted me a couple of times in the last two weeks.  Things must not be going well with his flavor of the month.  Not my problem!  And like I said earlier this week, tis the season...

Tis The Season

Tis the season to be stalked by exes, guys you've given your number to, guys you've gone out with a couple of times, etc.  In the past week, Smart Guy has contacted me five times and I've responded to zero of these attempts.

A part of me does wonder what goes on in his head.  It's like, girl won't respond to any message I send her in 12+ months, but I am going to pretend everything is okay and ask her out anyway?  At least try to throw in an apology, usually someone has done something wrong when the other person straight up stops talking to him/her.

I have no respect for him, not because he keeps contacting me (this is not unusual, almost every girl I know has at least one guy that won't stop contacting her).  I feel bad for him because he acts like he's better than everyone else (for example, he used to make fun of total strangers when we went out, when these people did nothing to him) when he's really a miserable, insecure, and desperate ass who intentionally or unintentionally makes people around him feel bad about themselves.

It Was Surprisingly Okay

Went out with the older guy over the weekend and it was surprisingly okay.  He was very polite and didn't try anything naughty.  Maybe he's one of those lonely guys that just wants someone to talk to?  Hahaha, probably not.  I think he's got a history of dating younger girls.  He doesn't look as old as I think he is, maybe because he has a very healthy diet/lifestyle/drinking habits (he lives a healthier lifestyle than many of the 30 something year olds I know).  I think he was interesting?  Must stop drinking on dates to be entirely sure of this.

7 pros in dating an older guy (my sample size is tiny, but this is what I've noticed so far), he:

1. Knows how to have a back and forth conversation (meaning it isn't a soliloquy where he blabs on and on about his job/startup, his education, his properties, etc)
2. Takes things at face value (I didn't feel like I was getting the third degree)
3. Doesn't seem to think he is soooooo great and that I'm lucky to be in his company (I've met a lot of guys who behave this way)
4. Offered to pick me up, automatically reached for the bill, and didn't constantly check his phone
5. Was okay with compromise, it's wasn't all about him (I've gone out with a lot of guys who pout when they don't get their movie choice, restaurant choice, etc)
6. Is secure enough to not compete
7. Doesn't seem to have the whole fear of missing out thing

He wants to go out again; I'm pretty busy and so is he, so it was left as him giving me a call in several weeks (yes, I told him not too soon because I am really busy).