Monday, December 21, 2015

Tinder Response

I've noticed tinder response drop offs as being quite high.  I will take a lot of the responsibility for this, it could be somewhat of a deterrent for those communicating with me because I check it once a week...  However, if he was very interested, this probably wouldn't be a deterrent.

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  1. Tinder is one of those instant gratification apps, so it's not surprising that people would give up on you after a week of no response.

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  2. It's not an app people use for real relationships, generally. If you're only checking it once a week, why use it at all? Why not spend your time on a site/app that's more about dating and not hooking up? It can't be diversification because most guys on Tinder that actually want to date are also on Happn, Bumble, Hinge, and The League.

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    1. I've heard of a lot of people meeting on tinder for more than short term relationships? There are too many apps out there, trying to stick with the big ones

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  3. In other words.. if he was "desperate" "creepy" "a bot" or "socially awkward", this probably wouldn't be a deterrent...

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  4. But how is he supposed to be "very interested" if he hasn't even met you yet? He's just supposed to fall in love with your looks and your mind from the picture and your few written exchanges? But then, you'd call him creepy and too desperate... I don't see a win here...

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    1. There's a difference between patiently waiting for a response and then writing vs. sending 20 "where did you go?" messages

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    2. Different Anonymous here. I think you're putting too much weight on superficial online communication. Unless he's insulting you and he's met enough of your criteria that you swiped right, just go out with him.

      You've said many times that you hate when guys message you too much and too often, but that's the name of the game. The dating pool is wide and you are not that much in demand - no relationship-minded woman in her 30s is. If you want to date a man you meet online, you have to play the game. Nothing is handed to you, including relationships.

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    3. It's SF, you'd be surprised how in demand women are regardless of age

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