Happy Thanksgiving!

We all have something to be thankful for, remember this, especially when things aren't going that well

Speak Of The Devil

Speak of the devil, that older guy just called to ask me out.  I agreed to dinner this weekend.  I don't want to get his hopes up because I don't really think he has a shot.  He's in his 50s (according to the Googling I just did, maybe late 50s? Oy).  And yes, for those of you who are interested, he does very very well.

Must Continue Online Dating

I am sick of online dating, but it looks like I should continue because of this article?  So, for those of you ready to throw in the towel, let's keep trying!

A Long Text

The older guy texted me a really long text with his travel schedule for the next month today.  Uh, okay, thanks...I guess?  Lol.  Extremely busy with a lot of holiday events, don't care if he does/doesn't call

Dreamforce 2013

It's only Wednesday and I'm exhausted.  Even though I have no business attending Dreamforce or the Dreamforce parties, networking events, and happy hours (because I am not in tech nor am I an official attendee of the Dreamforce conference), I've been attending.

I ran into Aquaguppy (a guy from 2009, 2010, or 2011...can't remember) at one of these parties.  He was looking over my way and I was pretending I didn't see him.  This happened about four times.  Then I left.  Many years ago, I ignored several of his phone calls and texts.  We had gone on two dates; date one was a party filled with couples, date two was a lunch or dinner where he kept taking calls (very long calls).

Sure, Why Not

I was an an event over the weekend and it was filled with a much older crowd.  Apparently, these are the guys that are into me.  These guys (mid 40s, late 40s, and 50s) were smiling at me left and right.  They were even trying to talk to me!  (Yeah, something that guys nearish my age guys don't normally do.)  It was a sit down dinner and I ended up sitting next to a guy...from what I can gather, he's probably 15 years my senior.

At the end of dinner, I had to go.  He asked for my number and I gave it to him.  I don't expect him to call, but if he does call and wants to go out, sure, why not

Salary

Since we've been talking about salary a lot, read this item I saw on linkedin.

Don't Move In!

I don't think I posted this back in June, but I really should have.  This article talks about living together and breaking up.

I personally do not want to live with a guy before marriage because I feel that it makes it too easy to call it quits.  If you are ready to say, "This person is the one," a "trial run" should not be necessary.  If you are really into him (into him enough to say yes to a proposal), you can deal with the toilet seat being left up, or get one of those high tech ones that lower the seat on its own.  She's a slob, get a housekeeper.  He monopolizes the closet, use another or go to Ikea to get something.  She likes reality TV, doesn't mean you have to watch it with her.  You see my point.

It's too easy to quit things in general these days.  Don't like an app you downloaded, delete it.  Don't like your new phone, trade it in/sell it on eBay.  Don't like your job, get a new one.  Remember hearing about the days where an employee would be with the same company for 25 years?  Not saying that's a great thing to do, but it does show the ability to work it out.  I am sure being at the same company for 25 years is not all puppies and rainbows, but people had the ability to compromise and make it work.  Switching costs in most areas of life is just too low these days.

I want a guy that will try to work things out rather than just bail.  Yes, sometimes it's inevitable to bail, but at least put in some effort to make it work (or choose better).

Won't Quit

Smart Guy won't quit.  He emailed me again on OkC.  As you know, I don't ever plan on responding; you'd think he would have figured this out by now.  Although he is not a software engineer, he does have that arrogant geek thing going on.  It wouldn't surprise me if he's thinking something along the lines of, "This girl is a b*tch.  I don't understand why she won't talk to me.  I went to a top school, make over 150K/year, and am so awesome."  Awesomely delusional.

I've really been thinking a lot about the SF dating scene, guy/girl dynamics here, etc.  It seems like people think they are "special" here more than anywhere else.  For example, you have the guys that say, "I went to Stanford" and think they are so so special because of this.  These guys need to remember that going to Stanford doesn't make them unique and so so special.  Although Stanford is a good school, hundreds of thousands of people can say, "I went to Stanford."

Another Dating App

Dating apps are hot hot hot!  Looks like there is another one making news by getting funding.  I've never tried Tinder, so not sure what that is like.  From what I've read about Hinge (this new one), sounds kinda similar to Coffee Meets Bagel?  I'll probably try it out anyway.

Cute Guys

I've seen some really cute guys in SF...they've all been in their cars.  Where do they live?  Where do they hang out?  If they are driving around the city at 9 am, I am going to guess they are commuting to work from east, south, or north bay?

Computer Engineers

Goodfella introduced me to a guy not too long ago (very sweet of him, I really appreciate it).  I went on a date with this guy.  Really nice, smart, and tried to be interesting.  He was boring.  He talked about work and marathons, two of my least favorite topics.  I even told him I am anti marathons!  At least, now I can say I've given computer engineers a shot (over the last 10 years, I've met several computer engineers, even dated one, and was not wowed).  I'm still not wowed.

One of my good friends is a computer engineer.  Not to typecast people, but I think a lot of computer engineers share the same traits (he actually pointed it out), they:

• Are arrogant (lots of the ones I've met went to great schools and work at the top tech companies)
• Enjoy talking about work because they don't multi task well, if work is on their mind, that's all they can handle (maybe spend 90% of their free time talking about work)
• Are not very chivalrous or maybe it's just a lack of manners/social education (do not say "thank you" to waitstaff, do not hold open doors, etc)

No, not all of these applied to the guy I went out with.

Help The Man Children

Why not help man children stay man children? A lot of companies in the Bay Area have great perks like free breakfast, lunch, dinner, and all the snacks you can eat with or without vomiting. Employees can wear whatever they want including baseball caps, sweats, flip flops, shorts, etc. At Google in Mountain View, employees don't even have to do their own laundry, wash their own cars, etc. With all these perks, it's no wonder that these guys are children...they aren't tasked to take care of themselves!

It Doesn't Work

From what I've seen and heard from my guy friends, it just doesn't work.  What doesn't work?  Girls "chasing" guys.  I was at a party with a guy friend.  We were sitting on a couch talking to each other, just the two of us.  Then a girl and her girlfriend sat down next to us.  One of these girls kept interrupting us.  Eventually we (me and my guy friend) got up to walk around.  This girl got up, followed us, and kept talking to us (more him than me).  After ambushing us another six times in the evening, she gave up (well, maybe she didn't give up, we left the party).  I asked him why he didn't want to talk to her.  He said, "She's not my type, I wish she was because she was sending very clear signals.  It would take a lot of beers to convince myself to be into her, and even then, I don't think I could."  I didn't see anything wrong with this girl!  She wasn't fat, she wasn't ugly, she didn't seem dull, etc.

Coffee Meets Bagel

I've heard so many great things about Coffee Meets Bagel.  It's a small world, two of my good friends (who don't know each other) know the founders.  Even though I was invited to join in December 2011, I signed up in October 2013.  I wonder if I'm still eligible for the free lifetime membership.  Well, hopefully, I won't need this for the rest of my life...

I've heard the quality of people are better on this site (it works through facebook).  Many of my bagels (potential dates) aren't even through people I know.  I have been interested in 1 out of my 20+ bagels.  This guy happen to like me too, so we both got a text that we were supposed to reply to.  He replied days later, I had already forgotten about him, but I did respond.