Smart Guy

Is this a test or does Smart Guy just not care anymore?  He still makes an effort to see me.  However, he doesn't seem to be trying to do much more than that.  He was wearing paint splattered clothes from head to toe.  He didn't open the car door, something he usually does.  He's on his phone.

He still wants to see me again and talks about future dates.  What?!?!

What?

I was on a date a couple of weeks ago.  The guy told me he was having dinner with a person he met at a party the next weekend.  Did he tell me he is going to be on a date next weekend?  If so, what an idiot!  If not, he wants me to think that, what an idiot!

If this is a competition in sketch, I won!

Doubts and Divorce

Saw this article about doubts and marriage and think it's a great read!  Basically, if you are a lady and having doubts about getting married to a specific guy, your chances of getting divorced four years after the wedding are 19% versus the 8% that were divorced and did not have doubts before the wedding.

If I were to date The Brain, I would have doubts.  If I were to date Smart Guy, I would be apathetic.  What's worse here?

Oddest Weekend

Had the oddest weekend ever.  After not seeing The Brain for years, spent the weekend in his apartment, sick in his bed with him happily taking care of me, and making sure I ate.  He did not stay in the bed with me.  I think we are friends and I am sticking to it!  No, I don't believe friendship was his motive, of course not!  I am sick, not sick in the head.

People keep telling me The Brain has changed and asking me what I think of him.  He seems a lot more relaxed these days.  He could give me the Cessna, multiple vacation houses, 10 cars life that is somewhat appealing.  Yes, there is a trade off too.  This is a "problem" I'll think about if it should really rear its head.

Wasting Time

I am not trying to waste my time or Smart Guy's time.  Really don't know what I think of him!  Was talking to some guy and girl friends.  The guys were saying, "If you say you aren't sure or don't know about a specific guy, it means you aren't interested."  They were also saying that at our age, we should be able to determine if someone is a good long term potential partner in fewer than six months.  Is this true??

If I didn't think Smart Guy was cute, I probably would have disappeared a while ago.  Maybe this says something?

Bi

I don't respond to Bi guys who contact me.  There is nothing wrong with being gay!  Just don't want a guy who isn't really sure what he is into.

Counter Intuitive

This is a bit counter intuitive, but every time I meet a guy that seems pretty great, I try to meet more guys to see if Guy A is really that great while others want to hold on as tight as they can.  My friend Sabrina (actually Penny on Sabrina's blog) talked about a mathematical model for when guys choose to settle down on her blog which led me to Michael Trick's Operations Research Blog.

Michael Trick is correct in the whole accept/reject decision process that takes place in a dater's mind.  This just proves that we should all be doing what I am trying to do, meet as many people as possible before having to make a decision.  I am not the girl who asks "Where do we stand" after three dates.  I don't want to know where we stand after three dates!  Three dates is not enough to determine whether I want to make someone my boyfriend or not. 

Also, think about opportunity costs.  Let's say on date #3 I decide to make a guy my boyfriend and we date for six months.  Let's say this guy does not turn out to be someone I would like to continue dating.  That means I was off the market for six months for no good reason and could have missed out on the right guy for me!

Then there's this whole "sampling phase" thing Trick talks about.  I actually think it's just not having to make a decision before you are comfortable with what you have already seen which is why everyone should take their time.  We all want to end up with the right person, why rush?  If that person disappears because it took too much time, then he/she isn't right for you anyway.  As hard as it is to really advocate, I want guys I am dating to be dating a lot of other women.  That way if we select each other it's because we believe we are right for each other, not because I am his only option.