My Bad

My bad, I haven't logged in since my last post over a month ago.  I have 150 unread emails.  Totally plan on getting to them!

I posted some comments people left for me.  One was from a post I wrote back in December about Valley Guy.  Gosh,  the comment guy sounds mad...a little too mad.  Hitting too close to home?  Here are some of my favorite lines with my commentary:

• The entries on this blog paint the portrait of a woman who is unbelievably condescending, narcissistic, judgmental, shallow, rude, and self-entitled.
• I would agree with condescending and rude (at times, I am not always condescending and rude, but look at what I am working with here)!  Some of you readers actually know me in real life, so it's quite humorous that I am being called narcissistic, judgmental, shallow, and self-entitled
• Their only crime seems to be that they possess some ridiculously unimportant "flaw" that is a automatic dealbreaker for you ("too short" "didn't go to a good enough college", etc).
• I think the guy may have gone to a sh*tty college and is probably short.  Well, his comment was pretty well written, so he probably went to a good college and is short
• Listen, we are all trying to find the "right" person.  My "right" person went to a good school and is taller than me.  I don't go around telling people that the characteristics they are interested in finding are "unimportant."  Pal with the long comment seems like he is judging me, wouldn't you say?  Er hem, hypocrite!!!
• You also seem to have an irrationally supreme belief in your own universal appeal to the opposite sex - even in one entry assuming without question that you could immediately break up an existing couple (Surfer Guy and his girlfriend), despite knowing next to nothing about the state of their relationship. Do you really consider yourself such an catch that any man would just leave his existing partner for a chance with you?  
• Yes, the opportunity has presented itself several times.  Two of the guys were married with kids; one of those had a newborn.  Of course, I turned them down!  As for Surfer Guy, he has made it abundantly clear late last year.  No thanks.
• The reason you're having so much trouble is because you are competing with girls who are, frankly, better/nicer people than you are.
• This guy definitely doesn't know me, I don't compete and I never said I was nice!

No Drinking

No more drinking on first dates.  I hate drink dates.  They are stupid.  I need a clear head to fully evaluate the guy sitting across from me and drinking makes this impossible.  I think guys know this, which is why they like drink dates.  I haven't met many girls that aren't friendlier after they get a drink in.

I went out with this guy a couple of weeks ago for drinks.  I thought he was hilarious.  Then I saw him again sober...yeah, not that funny anymore.

Holiday Parties

I am glad it is the end of the holiday party season.  I have eaten too much, drank too much, and met too many people I never want to see again.  I guess the last part isn't that true.  I have been to some really cool parties and met interesting people.  Unfortunately, not interesting people I would want to date.

Guy Update

Valley Guy (this jackss) sent me an email wanting to know how I am doing.  Well, I was mighty fine before I received that infuriating email.  How dare that guy contact me????  I shouldn't let him pss me off, but come on!

Sucks To Be Her

I was at a cocktail party.  Knowing me, I was not in cocktail attire since I just had a full day of work.  I didn't even have on proper footwear unless athletic footwear is proper for a cocktail party.  I was standing on the outskirts of the party activity.  A guy approached me and started talking to me.  He was tall, pretty cute, and gay?  Apparently, I was wrong on the gay part (starting to see a trend here).  His girlfriend walked up to us (I didn't know it was his girlfriend until later).

Girlfriend:  Oh how do you two know each other
Me:  Standing around in this very spot.  How did you two meet?
Girlfriend doesn't say anything, ignores the question, gets one of her guy friends to talk to me and pulls the tall not gay guy away.
She starts making out with him (this is the part where I figure out he isn't gay).

Sucks to be her though to know her guy is standing around at parties making conversation with other girls.  I wasn't even trying to steal her man, imagine if I was...great that i can do it regardless of the setting and my attire.

Entitlement

There is too much entitlement out there in the dating world.  I am sure I am one of those people, but I am at least conscious of it and trying to change my way of thinking.  Yeah yeah, I am educated, easy to look at, fun, have a great sense of humor, yadda yadda yadda.  However, I also have some not so positive traits and might not be the warmest person in the world.

I see these guys out there who think they are the sh*t and deserve to get the hottest supermodel in the world because they are rich, smart, handsome, have a nice apartment, went to Harvard, etc.  They need to remember, this is SF, there are tons of rich, smart guys, with nice apartments and Harvard degrees.  Notice how I left handsome out (it's in the eye of the beholder anyway).  I have met some truly unfortunate looking guys who think they are handsome. 

Back to the topic at hand, these entitled guys need to remember, they aren't perfect either, so learn when to stop chasing after perfection.

OkCupid %s

After reading The New Yorker article, I think more highly of OkCupid.  I never had a problem with the site, just the guys that were contacting me off of the site.  There are hundreds of questions that users can answer.  With all that data, I think the % could be quite helpful providing that there are enough answered questions to make the match % statistically significant.  For example, if I answered 400 questions, but some guy answered 14, the match % could be garbage.

Is compatibility in the OkCupid sense really that important.  For example, is how messy a guy is a good indicator of how he would be as a husband and how that would factor in with my messiness/not so messiness? 

Too many things to think about.