Still Don't Get It

It's been months and I still don't get it.  This Guy never reached out to me.  Really?

1. That doesn't happen to me (I am just telling it like it is, not an ego thing, just 98% of the time thing)
2. He loves Asian girls (so, this is like a fat girl turning down cake)
3. He said he would reach out to me (he really didn't need to say this if he didn't mean it)

Yeah, it bugs me a little because I didn't hear from him.  It shouldn't because we actually don't have much in common, probably don't have any chemistry, etc.  Out of his four hobbies, I hated three of them.  And I didn't like his voice.  I can be stupid, so if I ever heard from him, I probably would go out with him just to make sure he is really not the one for me.

Good Idea

I am not saying Patti from Millionaire Matchmaker is a genius, but I do think she has some very useful points.  For example, she tells everyone that they need to have a list of five things that are must haves.  Five is not very many. 

A new one to my list...ability to be comfortable with him.  Yes, this seems like common sense, but I find myself forgetting it a lot.  For example, going out with The Brain.  I was never comfortable with him and he turned out to have some serious insecurity/anger issues.  I was actually pretty comfortable around Valley Guy, maybe because I am also kind of a douchebag?  Just a little...

Millionaire Matchmaker

I know some of this Millionaire Matchmaker show is scripted, but I think it's really interesting.  I think there are only a certain number of kinds of guys out there.  This show has showcased many of them.  For example, the perfectionist, the guy that chooses really dumb girls, etc.

I think guys and girls can learn something here.

Talk Much?

I think it's pretty funny that guys try to talk me into going out with them. Unfortunately for me, this works every now and then. What possesses me to agree with such nonsense?

1. I think I am being a "good person" because I am giving them a chance. Who knows, maybe they will wow me with their conversational skills
2. I don't mind a free meal
3. I have nothing better to do

Analysis:
I think the answer might be choice #1.

Let's examine the other choices. #2, a free meal really isn't that hard to come by. Also, remember there is the opportunity cost of my time. Is a $40 meal worth 2 hours of my life that I can spend doing something else? Eh. #3, I do have better stuff to do. I could be sleeping, looking for jobs, watching tv, hanging out with friends, etc.

Have the guys who talked me into going out with them been successful? Not really. Yes, I went out with them and gave them a chance. I already wasn't into him all that much, so unless he really wowed me, he would only be digging himself a deeper grave.

Advice:
Guys, yes you might be so charming that a girl will fall head over heels for you across the table at dinner if she didn't even want to go out with you in the first place. However, it might be more likely that nothing will come of it unless she is desperate or really bored.  You don't want that, right?

What Happened To Valley Guy?

Yes, back to Valley Guy.  This is hilarious.  I am glad I can find humor in everything.

All sorts of things came out of this guy's mouth on the third date, such as:

1. How many dates is it going to take for us to hook up?
2. Why haven't you made a move on me yet?
3. Are you ever going to put on a sexy black dress for me or do you like dressing like a 17 year old boy?
4. How do you not think that is funny?  You are stupid.  I am just kidding (nope, didn't seem like he was kidding)
5. I thought I had you figured out, but I guess I don't (this has got to be the funniest.  More often than not, I appear ditzy.  Yeah, sometimes I really am ditzy, but that doesn't mean I am not watching/keeping notes)
6. I am really smart, much smarter than you (really?  See #5)
7. I don't believe you don't want me

He left the ball in my court last time I saw him.  I really thought he knew he was cut.  I think he knows now...  He has only called once and driven by my apartment once.  Yes, he really did drive by my place (how many times, I don't know, I only caught him once).  How embarrassing is it for him that I caught him driving by my apartment because I was standing at the curb talking to a friend?  LMAO.  Yes, most girls would be scared of some guy driving by her place, but I was not; I am used to it, this kind of sh*t happens to me ALL the time.

I am sure he means well and no, I don't wish him harm.  I think he is really immature and a mama's boy.  He whined and threw tantrums.  He even tried to use peer pressure, "Everyone is doing it."

NEXT!

Why Do I Do This

Against my better judgement, I went out with the Valley Guy again (this guy).  I didn't do it because I thought there was something there.  I did it because he was so persistent and I became curious.  He sent me several messages (unreturned messages because I just didn't reply).  None of these messages were scary/stalkerish.  They seemed nice and he seemed interested.

So, we went out a couple of more times.  The first date was fine, he was funny.  I didn't learn a single thing about him that I didn't already know; purely superficial conversation.  The second date was dinner...at his place.  I was under the impression that we were meeting up at his place and going from there.  That's what he told me we would be doing.  No real conversation, watched TV.  The guy has a car and didn't even offer to drive me home.  At this point I shouldn't have even agreed to a third date; I wasn't planning to.  Then he called with a daytime activity that sounded fun.  Third date was fun in the beginning and I wish I saw him in daylight earlier because this guy looks old.  I wouldn't be surprised if he was in his early 40s and lied about his age.  I knew on the third date that I would never see him again.  I thought he understood this, I was wrong.

Pen Pal or Therapist

What is with guys who want to exchange 100 emails, but never ask to meet up?  I am not looking for a pen pal, nor do I have the time to write 100 emails.

Even worse, guys who keep wanting to talk to you on the phone.  How does that help anyone?  I don't want to be a therapist, I don't want to know about your day, I don't care what did over the weekend.  Why?  Because we have never met and I haven't even decided if I would consider you a friend.  Sure, you can spend hours on the phone with someone and then meet them in person only to realize, there is no chemistry.  That is the ultimate waste of time.

Guys that date online need to: stop trying to have a phone conversation and stop exchanging several emails without asking to meet in person.