Happy New Year

I can't believe it's already NYE.  Where did this year go?  Happy New Year!

San Francisco Rent

As all of us in SF know, rents are crazy.  This is a colorful map showing averages near BART.

New Year's Eve

The Brain invited me to a New Year's party a few weeks ago.  No thanks!

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate

Much Older Men Article

Harrison Ford is 71?  He doesn't look it.  Remember how I was talking about much older men?  Just came across this article about dating men in their sixties.

Insecure Women

I know this woman, well, I know many women like this...they can't be without some kind of booty call, boyfriend, whatever in their lives.  For many of these women I know, this stems from insecurity, they don't feel like they are anything special without a man.  Or maybe they feel fat, ugly, unwanted, whatever.  If you are one of these women, try snap out of it any way you can.

Why am I even talking about this?  I have a neighbor, we've been neighbors for many years.  When I see her, we always chat about the men she cycles through.  And, she always says, "I'm done with him, I haven't been single since I was 14, and I want time to myself."  She's in her late 30s now and has never stuck to this.  This morning I saw her with a guy from a few months ago.  The same guy she used to have screaming matches with and who she also literally cried herself to sleep over for months; the walls are thin.

I Am Cancelling

I am cancelling tomorrow night's date with the Much Older Guy.  I don't see this going anywhere and I don't want to waste my time.  I am not attracted to him no matter how I splice it.  His age is not the problem, his weight is.  He's a bit lecherous and very obese.  I can feel the angry comments coming, so no, I don't think there's anything wrong with being obese, it's just not for me.  If you'd like to call me shallow, fine.

Another Date

Much Older Guy asked me out for next Saturday just now.  This is how it should work...none of that spur of the moment sh*t.  He seems nice and I'll go, but I'm not really feeling it.

Age And Divorce

A commenter left this and I had some time to take a look.  So, it basically says my go older thought will surely lead to divorce.  Well, I think more important than age gap, is the at age at which people got married.  I have many friends in their late 30s and early 40s getting divorces.  Most of them got married in their mid and late 20s to people who were very close in age (usually they met in college and graduated the same year).

So, What Now?

I said something about having to go out to East Bay to the much older man (I think it's fair to call him much older since he is around 20 years older than me, I don't know the exact number).  His solution?  Borrow a car out of his fleet (he did not use the word "fleet," I did because it's the best description), each one is more than $150,000 (he didn't tell me this, but he did list models and I'm no car novice...European sports cars, SUVs, and top of the line sedans).

Some of you might be thinking, he's trying to sleep with you.  Probably.  But so is the lazy 37 year old who texts me at 5pm to meet for dinner at 7pm (a dinner where he probably expects me to pay half), the 48 year old who emails me on Friday night to do something the very next evening, the 37 year old who contacted me nine months after we had met for coffee, etc.  So, the guys who are trying to meet up with me and closer to my age 1) might also just be trying to hookup and really lazy about it or 2) just aren't that into me.

Go Much Older?

A new girlfriend of mine who is my age (mid 30s) married a man in his 50s.  She is incredibly happy, they've been married for five or six years.  I just met him, he is sweet.  I thought, hmm, I like older guys, maybe I should go much older.  Well, ask and you shall receive.

The man I met is also in his 50s and he's really trying.  He respects my time and is chivalrous.  The guys I've been interacting with (mid 30s- mid 40s) are spur of the moment, which I think is obnoxious.  Texting at 4:40 pm to meet up for happy hour at 5pm, emailing me at 10 am on a Saturday for dinner at 7 pm, etc.  On a Saturday?  Okay, thanks for trying to make me a backup because someone else fell through, no thank you.  Even if that wasn't the case, still obnoxious because it illustrates the lack of respect for my time and assumes that I will be free or make myself free to see him.  (This is someone I saw months ago and I never agreed to a second date.) 

We All Assume A Lot

I didn't read this very carefully, but I think it proves what we all know...we assume a lot about someone just from looking at them.

Yeah

Yeah, Silicon Valley dating scene

Did I post this already?  It's making all over fb again

This Is Terrible

This is so terrible.  I don't know much about this site, is it reliable?

HBO's Silicon Valley

When is Silicon Valley coming back?  This is hilarious.  Be aware, there is profanity and the topic of conversation is not for the workplace.

Dating In SF Is Hard

Dating in SF is hard.  I've heard this from men and women over the past six years.  It's been a long time since I've dated in another city (besides a couple of weeks in NY over the summer), can't really compare.  Maybe dating has gotten hard everywhere?

I'm back to not dating for a while.  I hear about these tech guys who are done with dating, which is why they throw themselves into work, startups, marathons, etc.  I totally get why they do it.  One of my girlfriends decided to throw herself into her new job so she can get promoted, make a ton of money, and not worry about finding a husband (she is in her late 30s).  It doesn't sound like a bad idea.