Same Issues?

I went to happy hour and feel like I meet these people all the time. 

1. 20/30 something gal with trouble in the dating world.  Tonight's story was about really hitting it off with a friend of a friend (guy), only to have nothing come of it.  She said they talked at the party all night together and she made it pretty clear she was interested.  He never called, texted, emailed, etc.  He never even responded to her social networking connection request.  Mother f*cker, seriously?!?!  I just don't get it!  The first part of the story really sounded like my Odie tale.  Should I be happy or sad that other people have almost identical stories?  She even said guys in SF want assertive women.  Well, how about the guys in SF be men!?
2. Really flamboyant guy (could be gay), but all the ladies loved him.  I then learned he is an absolute hit with the ladies; gets girls left and right.  Wtf?  Okay ladies, we know everyone likes a gay pal, but let's try not to date them.

This having the same issue thing is sad.  We are all looking for the same thing, someone to spend forever with.  How can this be so difficult, especially since we all have the same goal and are actively looking??  Have we been corrupted by Hollywood?  Do we think we will "just know" when we meet that special someone?  Are we being totally unrealistic in our searches?  I know I am picky and a part of me wants to "just know," but I know that probably won't happen.  I hope I am not the only one who knows this.

Glutton For Punishment

I must be a glutton for punishment.  I met up with another newish guy.  This one might actually have potential???  He is in his 30s, white, and smart.  Excellent start.

Also, he seems straight!  LOL.  Yes, as some of you may know, I have gone out on two dates with two different "straight" guys in 2011; straight my *ss.  So, this whole being straight thing is a vast improvement.

We'll see what happens...

Nothing Against Gay Guys

I truly have nothing against gay guys; I just don't want to marry one.  I don't want to be divorced because my husband turns out to be gay.

WTF

Yeah, that's right, wtf????  I am finally ready to talk about the other date from the past weekend.  The guy is great on paper, tall, white, well educated, funny, etc.  However, he talks like a valley girl.  Yeah, for f*cking real.  I think I am pssed at SF guys.  This is not the first guy I have met up with who talks like a girl.  Holy f*cking sh*t.  This could mean several different things:

1. There are a lot of gay guys in SF and do not realize they are gay yet
2. I am only meeting guys who could be gay
3. These guys I think are gay because of mannerisms, speech patterns, etc are actually straight (this is the scariest possibility)

Why is #3 the scariest possibility?  Because that would mean the categories for organizing people would fall into: heterosexual, homosexual, and heterosexual homosexual?  This can't be right!!  I have been wracking my brain trying to think of women out there who act like guys, speak like guys, sound like guys, etc and AREN'T lesbians.  I cannot think of one.  I have also been thinking about flaming gay guys I know (no disrespect and no offense, many of these flaming guys admit they are flaming guys) who aren't actually gay.

Bottom line, wtf???  What is happening?  It's no okay for straight guys to behave like gay guys?  Or gay guys to really deny they are gay?  Or all I meet are gay guys?  I am really starting to think it is time for a new city...

I Need To Process

I need to process exactly what happened this weekend. 

A new girlfriend happened to be with a guy she thinks is perfect for me (this was Friday night).  She is obviously a new friend since the guy she brought with her is Asian.  I really have given Asian guys a chance.  It all boils down to: I am not interested.  0 spark.  That's too bad because this Asian boy is ridiculously rich.  We also agree on some stuff and he is nice.

I am really convinced everyone has a type.  My type is not Asian, truly unfortunate since I live in San Francisco.  This place is 50% Asian??

Two Dates, Two Days

Two dates in two days.  More later.  I don't think either of them really have a shot, but we'll see.

Okay, Fine, I Read It

Okay, fine, I read that New Yorker article because none of you wanted to read it for me.  It was sooooo long that I had to break it up into five different sections.  I believe it was over 10,000 words; hope the author got paid by the word.

Anyway, I think the article was arguing that online dating is actually a pretty good way to find a match.  For example, Okcupid has huge amounts of data which they use to create statistically significant theories/algorithims.  I think I am going a bit too nerd right now and no, I cannot say with 95% certainty that I am summarizing all the points correctly.  However, I do know the article talked about how online dating could really help folks find their match.  Enough for me, let's do this.

By the way, Okcupid was started by a bunch of Harvard math guys (they love data).  Okcupid was bought by match.com.  I think it would be safe to assume that match.com has integrated some of the okcupid data handling techniques.

Potentially Interesting Article

This looks like a potentially interesting article.  Could someone pleaaaaase read it and let me know the top five points?  I started reading it, but it's just sooooo long.  I don't have that kind of attention span anymore.  Then I started skimming it.  I know the author was trying to demonstrate online dating works or online dating does not work...

http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2011/07/04/110704fa_fact_paumgarten?currentPage=all