SF Is Very Very Small

I keep forgetting SF is very very small.  While I was walking around by Yerba Buena, saw this guy I went on a date with a month ago.  I think we both pretended not to see each other, LOL.  This did not offend me, feelings of no spark were mutual.

No Thanks

Went out with a new guy tonight.  Don't plan on seeing him again.  He gave me a speech about my job and said I looked different from my picture, LOL.  He also wanted to argue.  He tried to make the date a lot longer, no thanks.  We did have a good meal, (the food was good).

Grow Up

New Leaf Guy has been trying to play facebook games with me while he's on his work trips.  I'll check in somewhere and he'll email me something long and obnoxious about how I'm having a great time while he's slaving away.  Then he'll post some photo of a nice meal.  I'm not playing and he's been disqualified, so?

He has sent me a few emails, texts, facebook messages about business related things.  I have responded cordially to those.

Categories

I was thinking about Smart Guy the other day because he texted me...again.  Smart Guy used to try throw me into categories (they included:  alcoholic, slut, prude, cheater, et al).  Every time he thought he figured it out, he learned he was wrong.  Why was there a need to categorize me?  We should have been getting to know each other not trying to label each other.

He was the type who liked to ask "Why" and argue.  The "why" was okay, the wanting to argue was not okay.  He'd basically tried to "prove" my opinion was wrong.  Bruh, it's an opinion.

Dating Coach

Many guys in San Francisco could use a dating coach.  I'm often tempted to offer constructive feedback when I go on a terrible date.  I don't do it.  The worst thing is, I don't think many of these SF men are aware that their dating skills suck.

Self Confidence

I just read about an experiment where women with more self confidence are less willing to date men who are non professionals.

Advice: Stick To Your Schedule

This is for women because I think women do this much more than men.

Stick to your schedule.  I know it's hard to say no when you really like him and he texts you to see if you want to go to dinner tomorrow night because his basketball game got cancelled, the night of your favorite spin class.  Go to your spin class.  If he surprised you with tickets for your favorite band, that's different.

You have friends, family, work, school, et al.  Why should put him first and accommodate his schedule?  Why should you stay out too late and feel like a corpse the entire next day because you agreed to meet him at 10pm for drinks after his basketball game ended? 

I've been too flexible with my schedule before and it was a big mistake.  The guy got complacent and stopped planning ahead because he assumed I'd be available.  He'd start sentences with "I'll let you know."  No.  I reset that by being very unavailable, which caused him to mind his Ps and Qs again.  Your time if valuable.  Even if you have nothing to do, it is still valuable.