Why Dating In San Francisco Is Different From The Rest Of The US

Anonymous shared this article about why dating in SF being different from anywhere else in the country.

I don't think the text communications is that different from the rest of the country.  I also haven't noticed relationships moving that quickly out here in San Francisco.  I have seen chivalry being extra dead, guys not picking up the tab, and there is no proper dating etiquette; I find all of these to be a huge problem.

If you are a guy and reading this, follow proper dating etiquette, be chivalrous, and pick up the tab; I can guarantee you will have much more success than your friends!

Homecoming Queen

As cute as this wedding announcement is, I don't think the homecoming queen would have gone out with the "shy nerd" if he wasn't rich and well bred (like herself).  Once again, I feel the angry comments coming my way.  Think about it this way, would someone with her pedigree and life experience marry an elementary school friend who ended up a McDonald's burger flipper?  I don't even need know her to know the answer, no.

10 Signs He Just Wants To Have Sex With You

This might come in handy with Valentine's Day in a few days.  It's based on what my girl friends and I have experienced.  Some of these are very obvious!!

10 Signs He Just Wants To Have Sex With You - only accurate if you HAVEN'T already had sex with him!

1. You just met once or haven't even met yet and he's given you a pet name or emailed/texted "sweet" messages - hi, honey; good morning, sugar; goodnight, baby; hey, hot stuff; what are you up to, sweetie; et al
2. He calls you "hot" - pretty, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, and others are fine
3. You just met and he's tries to touch you anywhere and everywhere - maybe he's even pretending to see if you are ticklish
4. You just met and all he talks about is sex- specifically what it would be like to have sex with you
5. He blatantly checks you out and isn't even embarrassed when you catch him - my eyes are up here 
6. He blatantly checks out any woman who walks by - waitress, bartender, girl standing in the street, girl walking by the window, et al
7. He asks to come into your apartment/house at the end of the first date - other ways of trying to get in:  he needs to charge his phone for a few minutes, he needs to use your bathroom, he has low blood sugar and needs a snack, he's too drunk, et al
8. His idea of a date is inviting you over "to stay in and watch a movie"
9. He only tries to schedule same day dates
10. He vanishes after the third or fourth date

Pushiness, Lies, and Desperation

I remember going on a date with this guy towards the end of 2014.  I think I was trying to forget about the date, which is why I didn't write about it sooner?

He was in his 50s, looked much younger, and lied about his age.   Sure, he could get away with it, but it was a huge turn off.  The date was okay, we had dinner and a fair conversation.  I left thinking I wouldn't see him again.

Why?  He lied about his age. He complained about being laid off and his job search.  He didn't offer me a ride home even though he knew I was in a rush, his car was parked right outside the restaurant, and he knew I lived in the neighborhood.

That night, he emailed me to say he had a wonderful time and would like to do it again.  The next morning, he sent another email asking for my email address again, rather than communicate through the dating site.  I was thinking of a response, when he sent yet another email!  I got angrier with every passing email.  So pushy!

I could smell his desperation and desperation is not a good scent.  I replied telling him we are not a good match.  He replied saying he was disappointed and he'd like to be friends and maybe I could help him find a new job.  What?

Strikes:

1. Lied about his age
2. Didn't offer a ride
3. Displayed many signs of desperation/pushy

Acceptable Or A Reason To Break Up?

I've been giving this a lot of thought.  I firmly believe if you like someone, all their "issues" are acceptable.  If you don't like someone, all their "issues" are major flaws and reasons to break up.

So, when I find myself getting irritated at absolutely everything (I mean everything, he texts too much, he doesn't text enough, he's needy, he's too distant, he's too busy, he's not busy enough, et al), it means I don't like him enough to stick around.  And when I ignore major things that would normally be problematic, I like him.

This might seem pretty obvious to many of you, but really use it to save time, energy, et al.  When I hear a friend talking about how she doesn't like the way he holds a drink, I know it's time for her to move on, but she always stays with him for a few more months.  Why?  She knew months ago she didn't like him enough.

Don't Listen To This Guy!

Don't listen to this guy!  He wrote a book on how women can get the guy they want.  His "advice" includes:

1. Sleep with him on the first date
2. Pay for dates
3. Call him

Hogwash!  I used to be friends with a woman who would do these things.  What did she get?  A lot of guys treating her like sh*t.

This is the perfect recipe for marrying a man who will undoubtedly do at least one of the following:  cheat on you, treat you like sh*t, and divorce you if you are lucky.

Super Bowl Sunday

It's Super Bowl Sunday.  Saw this article about not cheering against your significant others team.  I agree.  If you really want the other team to win because it's "your team," fine.  However, if you are just doing it to do it, don't; it causes unnecessary ill will and conflict.