Merry Christmas!

How is already Christmas?  Well, Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday (for those who don't celebrate Christmas).

I've been pretty nice and Santa still hasn't brought me a non dchy guy...Santa, what's up with that?

Another Interesting Read

Came across this a couple of weeks ago, another interesting read.  According to the article, guys just love the Asian ladies.  I guess I do get contacted online a lot, but doesn't mean the guys contacting me are all that great.

What A Turnoff

Yuck, such a turnoff when a guy is a clingy!  I agreed to go out to lunch with a guy weeks ago.  Monday, week of, he emailed me the location and time, I responded with agreement.  Then, he emailed me on Tuesday to tell me to come up with topics to talk about on our date.  What?!  That irritated me to no end.  I am busy, I don't have time to sit around and make a list of things to talk about.  At this point, I am already thinking, this guy is f*cking annoying, controlling, and a micromanager.  And, is he assuming that I would have nothing to say if I didn't plan something ahead of time?  Then, he emailed me on Wednesday reminding me of our upcoming date.  So, he thinks I am forgetful or just needs some kind of constant reassurance?  Then, he emailed me on Thursday asking me for my phone number because he wants me to call him if I get to the restaurant before him.  Afraid I am not showing up?  Then, he texted me on Friday reminding me that we have a date coming up.  Because he thinks I forgot again?  Then, day of, he texted me to say he got to the restaurant early.  When I saw him outside the restaurant he was pacing and a ball of anxiety/frustration.  Great.

I wanted to cancel, but already agreed to go out with him and so I went.  He was one of those interrogators, I guess I knew he would be based on his emails.  No, I am never going out with him again.

Bragging

To a certain degree, all guys brag.  There is a huge difference between:

1. Bragging to make you think he is worthy, and
2. Bragging to try to make you feel inferior

I meet a lot of guys in category number two...or maybe they are trying to be in category one and are really overdoing it.

A Date A Week

I've been dating a lot recently and averaging a different guy or two every week (this is a lot for me).  I haven't written about all of them because there isn't much to say and I don't want to rehash train wrecks in great detail.

So, a nice summary...you already know about the older guy I went to dinner with.  Then there was a younger guy I went ice skating with.  He was nice, but there was no chemistry.  Then there was the attorney that I didn't find attractive; too bad, he was also nice.  I declined a dinner invitation from surgeon with his own practice because he chastised me on the importance of marriage and serious relationships before we had even met.  Then I went to a party with a tech guy as his date ("just a friend" is how it was sold to me), he was patronizing.  Oh yeah, he was also acting like I was his girlfriend. 

Besides the younger guy (mid 30s), the others are 45 + year olds.

Just Send An Email

I've had several different online dating accounts for years.  I've noticed that many guys think winking, favoriting, living, visiting, rating, etc is enough.

Guys, if you really want a specific girl to notice you, send a message.  I joined match.com.  In the first 24 hours, I had:

• 150 views
• 18 photo likes
• 7 favorites (guys favorited me)
• 8 winks, and 
• 6 emails

I've only read my six emails.  I don't have the time or energy to look at 183 other things.  I know some guys wait for a girl to look at their profile/wink back/favorite back/like back and then send an email (or even worse, wait for the girl to email him).  It doesn't work

Good For Him!

If this is true (I've heard this is not true), good for him!  I think plastic surgery is fine, but the guy should probably know what you used to look like before getting married if you want children (you know, because looks do get passed down this way).  This would be the same if the guy was the one who had extensive plastic surgery.  If kids aren't in the cards, then no point in disclosing!