Wow

Wow!  Smart Guy is off OkC!  Did he find a girl?  As my bestie said, "She must be desperate."  LOL.  I'm actually relieved to see he is off.  I was kinda scared he would click on my profile (what he used to do).  Seeing his narcissistic dbag profile annoyed the sh*t out of me because it served as a reminder as to how stupid I can be.

Is There A Pattern?

I've heard a lot about people coupling around this time of year.  I wonder if there is a pattern.  Is this part of New Year's resolutions (get boyfriend or girlfriend)?  Did these people know each other before the holidays or did they just get together in the last couple of weeks?  This would be a wonderful social experiment.

I am still on my break from guys.  I don't want to be dating anyone around Valentine's Day.  Too much pressure for a newish guy.  Also, I've decided to be pickier this year.

I Don't Know

I went out with a guy from OkC last week.  I just don't know.  He's smart, able to hold a nice conversation, optimistic, and well educated.  We had a lot to talk about, but it felt very workish.  Oh yeah, think he has a girlfriend (based on my facebook research).  And, don't think he is ready to settle down (a necessity at this point).  Don't think he's all that attractive either. 

He called me and wants to go out again, I don't know what to do.  On the plus side, he knows how to make outgoing calls on his phone and leave a voicemail.

No, Guy

A guy emailed me on OkC, "Do you instant message?"  Not with you!  This was the second email he sent me, I actually replied to the first one (it had much more substance).

Seems like he is bored.  Don't think he's that interested in meeting people if he wants to sit in front of a computer instant messaging ladies instead of seeing them face to face.  Also, reread his profile and he's eh.  Next!

I Am Human

Although it may not seem this way, I am human.  At times, I still get a little annoyed with the whole Smart Guy thing.  Why would I let a guy I don't even want annoy me?  Gave this some thought and now I can definitely put this nonsense to rest.

It really bothered me that Smart Guy didn't realize I am a catch (or at least he certainly didn't treat me like he thought I was a catch).  I might not be a catch for Brad Pitt, Hugh Jackman, Justin Timberlake, etc, but I was definitely a catch for Smart Guy.

Instead of giving him 10+ tries to wow me, I should have just cut my losses and moved on to someone that actually appreciates me.  Lesson learned.

Why Should I?

Was talking to one of my besties and she had been advocating that I give The Brain some time to plead his case.  (BTW, she actually knows The Brain in real life.)  Not to sound like a total brat, but why should I?  Yes, I did ask her this question.  Why does deserve yet another chance?  He's already had one (that's way more than most guys).  Okay, he's really rich, but so what, there are plenty of rich guys, so, there goes that argument.

Just Know

Everyone has fears.  I was reading a book that was talking about fears and how they unconsciously hold us back.  I know many ladies who are scared of being 50 and single with 12 cats.  This won't happen!!!  Just know this!  Or at least, don't turn it into a self fulfilling prophecy.

If you do the math, there should be thousands of guys that are right for you.  Don't believe in perfection, but I do believe in "right."  Let's break down the US population (this is just a demonstration, numbers are only estimates).

• There are about 315 million people in the US (January 2013)
• Say 42% of them are men = 132.3 million
• Say 40% of them are single = 52.92 million
• Say 10% of those guys are guys you would actually go out with due to personality, age, occupation, education, looks, whatever = 5.29 million
• Then you factor in location and whatever else you can think of = tens if not hundreds of thousands of guys that could be right for you

Remember, this is just me playing with math to illustrate there are many available men.  Scrap the idea that there is only "The One" and go for the idea that there are so many guys that could be "right" for you.