Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!  Be safe out there.  And if you are in SF, there should be fireworks tonight.

MIA

Sorry, I've been MIA. I think I have the flu. I've been canceling on guys and many want to meet even though I have the flu?  I said no to all.

Merry Christmas

For those of you who celebrate, Merry Christmas!  For those of you who don't, enjoy not dealing with crazy relatives, LOL

Ready For Holiday Travel

Getting ready for holiday travel.  For those of you traveling, good luck, may the force be with you, and hope it goes smoothly!

Pouring Out

It's been pouring out here in SF.  As I result, I don't look my best (soaked jeans, ugly rain coat, broken umbrella, wet hair, skipped mascara and makeup in general, et al).  The most fascinating part of all this?  More men have been approaching me.

Tinder Response

I've noticed tinder response drop offs as being quite high.  I will take a lot of the responsibility for this, it could be somewhat of a deterrent for those communicating with me because I check it once a week...  However, if he was very interested, this probably wouldn't be a deterrent.

First Tinder Date

Had my first tinder date last night.  We met for a drink.  I shut it down at the hour mark.  We had a nice conversation, however, he liked to argue (red flag for me) and even more important, I didn't find him attractive.

Ghosting Thoughts

NYT has talked about ghosting a lot. This is the most recent thing I read.  It talks about what goes through a woman's head when she thinks she's being ghosted.  I think some readers can relate?  My two cents, if he ghosts, he doesn't deserve to be thought about.

Family Time

I saw family over the weekend.  It was a great time!  We reminisced, ate, and laughed. I should see family more frequently.

SF Chivalry

I've been traveling to New York a lot.  And compared to NY, SF chivalry is nonexistent.  I've heard many West Coasters talk about how New Yorkers are rude.  I disagree.  I have countless stories of able bodied SF men not giving up their Muni seats for the elderly, very pregnant women, et al.  The NYC I saw, did not have this problem on the subway.  Men were even offering me their seats just because.  I've had countless SF men practically push me over to get through an open door.  In NY, I've had countless doors opened for me.  Chivalry may not be important to everyone, but it is to me.

Disqualified Men Season

I mentioned this before and it's increased...it's disqualified men season!  This guy basically told me off for not replying fast enough and kept asking me if I was interested in him. He sent me a "How are you?" text today.  Not replying.  This guy has been texting me for months and I haven't replied (mainly because I keep forgetting, which says I'm not very interested).  I'll think about meeting him again because he was nice and maybe didn't stop talking because he was nervous?  Someone from July 2013 (who I never met up with) also texted me.  It was a text I'd expect to get from a friend - "Hey, how's your week going?"

Another Tinder Bust

Another Tinder bust.  I've met 0 people in person from Tinder.  So, this guy asked me out to dinner.  I said yes.  Then he called me 24x in two days.  I didn't even count how many texts he sent.  I do remember him saying, "I think you're the one."  Needless to say, I did not go to dinner with him.

Unmatching

I've been trying to log into my tinder account more frequently.  I matched with one guy and he sent me a message.  I replied.  Then he sent me a lot more messages.

• What are you doing?
• Tell me more about yourself
• What do you do for a living?
• Where are you?
• Why is it showing me that you are hundreds of miles away?
• What do you think of tinder?
• And many more

I'm unmatching him.  Perhaps he's bored?  His questions are irritating because he could find out all these answers if he asked me to meet up.  I don't need a pen pal.

It Happened Again

It happened again!  A guy emailed me and then six hours later he sent me another email asking me if I got the first one and asking me why I haven't replied yet.  It's been six hours.  Have some patience.  I planned to reply and now I don't plan on replying...ever.

That's What You Get!

Several guys I've dated, gone on a few dates with, et al have been reaching out to me over the last month.  Smart Guy, The Brain, Valley Guy, and more.  Guess they should've thought about their behavior before I disqualified them.  That's what you get!  Perhaps they are contacting me because it's the holiday season, it's cold out, they've finally got their nerve, they're bored, or it's finally occurred to them that I'm a catch.  Don't care why, they were all disqualified years ago.  I will not reply to any of them.  Them contacting me makes me laugh for a minute; you snooze, you lose.  I'd rather spend the rest of my life happily single than unhappily attached, especially to any of them.  I do not have a fear being alone.

The Best Way To Get Over Someone

I've heard the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.  No, I don't practice this.  I do go on many many dates very soon after the end of a relationship.  Even if these dates are boring and awkward, it's nice to know there are many other fish in the sea.  Fortunately, none of the dates I've been on recently have been terrible.  However, I have gone out with guys who can't seem to stop talking and babble endlessly.

So, if you are having a bad breakup, pining after the ex boyfriend, et al, go on dates.  I know many will say, "I'm not ready to date."  Even if you aren't ready, go!  It's just coffee, a drink, lunch, or dinner.  Even if you find out those guys aren't the right ones for you, you'll know there are plenty of guys out there.