Meeting In A Game?

So much to read.  This is a really long article.  I have not read all of it.  Think the gist is a woman met her husband on a Second Life type of game.

OkC Math Hack

Just saw this Wired article from January talking about a guy in LA hacking OkC with math.

It reminds me of that lady Amy Webb who wrote a book talking about how she hacked Jdate to find her husband.  She may have also used math, I don't remember.

Too Many Matches Is Overwhelming

Saw this article a couple of weeks ago.  I agree, too many matches is overwhelming.  And it's true, the more guys that email me, the less I respond.  Tinder may work for some, but not a fan.  Will continue logging in once a day and to see if it gets any better.

Update On Trying Something New

Here is my update on trying something new (aka winking or emailing a guy who liked me in "Daily Matches" on match.com), fail.

The two guys I winked at sent me emails almost immediately.  I replied to their emails and they never wrote back.

The three guys I emailed first replied to my emails almost immediately.  Then, I replied to their emails and they never wrote back.

So, I still think for 80% of the guys out there, when they don't email a girl first and saw the girl's profile, that means they simply aren't interested enough.  And the ladies I know who snagged their men by emailing them first?  Well, those guys fall in the 20% or maybe they think "she'll do" because of age, family pressure, desire for children, and whatever other reasons they may have.

Tinder Bandwagon

I'm now on the Tinder Bandwagon.  I just signed up about 15 minutes ago.  So far, there seem to be a lot of eligible bachelors (assuming messages are sent and dates are planned).  Not sure how this will turn out, but there have been some really cute guys.

I plan to log in and do some swiping for five minutes or so a day (I can only take so much).  We shall see.

Coffee Meets Bagel Update

I've had Coffee Meets Bagel for eight months (or something around that) have "liked" about 20% of my bagels (this 20% is a bit inflated because I hit "like" more than I actually liked), have been contacted by maybe 50% of those bagels, and have only been on THREE dates.  If it wasn't free, I'd be mad.

In the beginning it seemed like a fresh batch of guys, but now that everyone is on it, don't think the guys are much different from the ones who already on Tinder, OkC, Match, etc.

Really?

Really?  Yes, really.  Smart Guy just sent me an email.  Remember, I have not responded to any of his texts or emails since late 2012.  It is now June 2014.

Less Picky

Here's that article that talks about guys in their 40s being less picky.  It also discusses the pickiness of women.

That's Also New

Well, that's also new.  One of my Coffee Meets Bagel guys has been trying to call me for a while and finally got me on the phone today.  He sounded annoyed.  Well, sorry guy, don't call me at 11 pm and expect me to answer, especially if we've never met before.  11 pm is late.  Think he also called me at 8 pm on a Friday night (another WTF are you thinking day/time).  He left me a vmail in his first call and I didn't like his voice, but was willing to do an in person meeting to give him a shot.

So, I spoke with him on the phone for three minutes just now.  I made it clear that I had to keep it short because I am on my way out of the apartment.  He made it a bit awkward by saying something along the lines of how these calls are always awkward, uh, sure...don't know how I was supposed to respond to that.  ALL of his questions were news reporter style. For example, what did you do this weekend, where did you go, what restaurant did you go to, who were you with, blah blah.  I don't like being grilled.  If this is how it is and we haven't even met...  Apparently, he didn't like my answers (or my voice or who cares) and said we wouldn't be a good match.  That's never happened before, but fine with me.

I know I've said this before, maybe I should have more phone chats before meeting in person.  That might not work though because I am trying to find more reasons to give a guy a chance, not rule him out based on whatever I glean from a three minute conversation.  I wish this guy the best of luck, I think he believes the "perfect girl" exists.  I read in some article that guys in their 40s are supposed to be less picky, lol.  Will find that article for you.

This Does Explain The Majority Of SF Guys I've Met

This article basically talks about the tech guys in Seattle and SF and how hard dating is (for the women) in these cities even though men outnumber women.  (I know some readers are going to be irate, just remember, this explains 80% of the men we meet, not 100%.  Well, for me, it probably explains 95% of the men I've met.)

Thanks for sending it to me, Sabrina!

Giants

Went to a Giants game over the weekend.  Met a very cute girl who was telling me about how hard dating is for women in SF, no kidding.  She also told me about her 10+ girlfriends who have been here for 10+ years who have done everything to try to meet their husbands, but have failed miserably.  Great.

Also met another girl who told me about how she lived in SF for two years, didn't meet anyone, and moved to LA.  She told me LA is much better for dating.  Great.

That's New

Was at a bookstore in Inner Richmond.  Two guys smiled at me.  That's new!  Haven't experienced much of that in the Bay Area.  Well, I guess I have, but they are usually guys who are 65+ years old.

Trying Something New

Okay, I am trying something new.  What's that?  Emailing and/or winking at a guy.  As you know, I am very against reaching out to a guy first because I feel like he's just not that interested if he isn't sending me an email after visiting my profile.  However, I know two ladies who have met their guys the SF Bay Area (specifically peninsula) this way.  These guys are no scrubs.  I'm friends with one of the guys (Stanford doctor) and have known him for at least a decade; he is one of the nicest guys I've ever met.  I haven't met the other guy (Google engineer), but have heard wonderful things about him from his fiance (they are now engaged and planning the wedding).

I've contacted five guys on match (these are guys who expressed interest in the Daily Matches).  I was no Shakespeare, I simply wrote, "Hi, I've been told you are interested" to three guys and winked at the other two.  The two guys I winked at wrote me emails.  The three guys I emailed replied.  All five guys took some kind of action within 30 minutes.  Let's see what happens next...

"So Obnoxious?"

I went to the Startup & Tech Mixer on Friday night at the W Hotel.  Valleywag said their last party was "so obnoxious" and I was hoping to find a really obnoxious party; I did not.  I've experienced much douchier nights in the the Marina.  And, the free food was pretty good.  To the best of my knowledge, this is how I'd describe the crowd:

• 50% gay guys
• 40% possibly straight guys (or European/hipsters/bisexual/straight and effeminate)
• 6% girls who were totally decked out (short dresses, full makeup, high high heels)
• 2% girls who were not totally decked out (casual attire)
• 2% definitely straight guys

I'm not very tall, shorter than 5'4" and I noticed I was taller than 70% of the guys there.  I did some mingling, but spent most of my time listening to the guest speakers (and considering the crowd, I'm sure it was a much better and more interesting use of my time vs trying to meet a guy to date). A guy sitting next to me looked like he was having great difficultly finding a way to start a conversation with me, kept staring/fidgeting, blah blah, so I said, "Hi" so that he could get out whatever he had to say.

Sold Out

Thought about going to this Techcruch/HBO Silicon Valley showing tonight when tickets were available (Thursday morning, by Thursday night, totally sold out).  That was fast!  If any of you go, please share your thoughts (especially thoughts on the Press Club after party).