Almost Spring

Is it almost spring?  It certainly feels like it out here in SF, not so much in NY.  The days are getting longer, the weather is getting warmer (sorta, weather in SF doesn't change much), and the guys are looking better (this is probably in my head).  Not ready to come out of my break from dating yet though...

Waste Of Time

Really hesitant about going out with guys I am not all that interested in because I see it as a huge waste of time.  I could be doing so many other things, including laundry.  These guys who ask me out aren't horrible, but I don't see them as being good candidates either.  Yeah, I could get a free meal, but that's really not enough.

The Dating Cycle

I've been paying closer attention to this, the dating cycle.  Around New Year's people:  1) stick with who they've been dating even though they are lukewarm, just because, 2) try to find a girlfriend/boyfriend fast because it is a resolution, or 3) hibernate for the winter.  Valentine's brings people closer or farther apart. 

Then, it's spring/summer which means:  1) breaking up with the person you've been hibernating with all winter because it's getting warm out and you know know you were slumming, 2) getting engaged, or 3) coming out of hibernation and meeting new people. 

And then, back to the holidays:  1) you are part of a happy couple, you do holiday stuff together, 2) if you are part of an unhappy couple, it unravels (usually around Thanksgiving), and 3) if you are dating someone newish, you make it official or call it quits.

Look At That

Look at that, The Brain emailed me.  Guess his Valentine's wasn't great.

Four Texts

Aw man, those two guys I pity-gave my number to texted me.  I probably won't respond to any of these texts.

OkC Event

I went to an OkCupid/match.com event earlier this week.  It was exactly as I expected, lots of guys; lots of guys I not very interested in.

I was there for about an hour and a half with the event spanning two hours.  A guy was always talking to me even though I was not the best dressed (girls went all out, dresses, heels, full makeup, etc); of course, I did not go all out.  I can remember six guys:

1. The shorter guy who didn't get that I didn't want to talk to him.  He was interviewing me, it was annoying.  He had memorized my profile and was asking me about it.  I never even replied to this guy!  He would not stop with the questions - for 15 minutes.  Where do you live?  Where do you work?  Where did you go to school?  Where are you from?  He even asked some of the same questions twice.  He didn't understand that me looking around the room meant very disinterested.  He also didn't understand that my short answers also meant very disinterested
2. The awkward Asian guy, he was nice, but boring.  So boring.  And, he said something about me being judgemental.  Uh, that's probably because I am not interested.  I felt bad for him, so bad that I gave him my number when he asked, with the disclaimer, "I never use my cell phone and it's never on"
3. The nice enough guy that I am not interested in.  He was an easy conversationalist, but no thanks.  He also got my number.  Should he contact me, I will respond with, "Let's be pals" or something just as encouraging
4. The guy that I went out with and even mentioned in this blog.  Think I went out with him twice and never responded to any followup he attempted.  I did not make any eye contact with him.  He was trying to make eye contact with me
5. The guy that probably read "The Game" and "negged" me.  After he did that, I made him feel pretty inconsequential and walked away.  No, I did not feel bad doing this
6. The much older guy that helped me with my coat.  That was really nice of him

Valentine's Day

It's Valentine's Day, so Happy Valentine's Day!  It broke more of my relationships than I can remember, probably due to the extreme pressure.  Guy usually went all out, I usually did not because 1) I am not into Valentine's and 2) I thought it was too early to really celebrate.  Think both guys and girls have big expectations for this day, not good.

I am hanging with a gal pal.

Last Minute? Right

Nerdy Guy contacted me today because he wants to see a movie tomorrow.  Sorry, I don't do last minute.  I didn't say that...I actually haven't even replied yet.  Not sure if/when I will.  Don't care!

Huffington Post Live

Well that's interesting, got a media request to be on HuffPost Live.  It was for last week, but just saw the email.  Hmm, thinking that would mean people would see me?  Oh my...

Happy New Year Again!

Yes, it's our second chance for a fresh start (and boy do I need it).  Happy New Year!  It's Chinese New Year and I am going to restart my resolutions, again...one in particular, out with the old, in with the new!

Toxic and Whiny

Think I need to break up with a friend who has gotten toxic and whiny.  These are two traits I would absolutely not accept in a potential guy, so why should I accept them in a friend?  Yes, it could be temporary, but I really don't think it is.

Oh Yeah, Super Bowl

Gal pal was in town, went out to a house party for Super Bowl. 

Also, saw The Brain (who is now dating the girl from New Year's) over the weekend.  It's really funny that he wants me to care and be jealous.  If he was so happy with this girl, shouldn't he be more concerned with his and her happiness rather than trying to make me unhappy?

Think she's a backup.  He professed his undying love for me that night, I did not return the sentiment, and he is now with her.  Oh, and he also doesn't remember how they got together because he was so drunk on NYE (this is what she told people, unflattering). 

I do things; my hand was somewhere it shouldn't have been for an hour, for all to see; he should have moved it, but he didn't.

I Am Really Confused

So this guy (think we'll have to name him...Nerdy Guy) asked me out again.  This would be date #3.  He asked me to do something on a Saturday night.  I am really confused because I am totally convinced he has a girlfriend from my facebook stalking (his profile is very open).  It STILL says he is "In a relationship" and she keeps posting to his wall, so...

Super Bowl Sunday

It's Super Bowl Sunday and I am sure EVERYONE will be out because 1) it's Super Bowl Sunday and 2) the 49ers are in it - remember, I live in San Francisco.  A girlfriend is in town and we are going to go out.  Her request a place with 1) lots of tvs and 2) lots of hot dudes.

Hanging Out

Times have changed and not for the better.  This article in NYT talks about traditional dating and how it's virtually nonexistent.  If you want a traditional dating experience/courtship, I don't think you should accomodate "hanging out" and last minute "dates" which consist of meeting some guy and all his friends at a bar.

The article mostly focuses on people in their 20s, but I think a lot of it applies to those of us in our 30s.  Dating has become too casual and guys have become lazy.  The article touches on technology possibly being the cause of this "hanging out" culture; I would blame technology.  As I have said in the past, texting, facebook, cell phones, etc. have all made everyone too available.  When I am out, I do not want to be found.  I certainly don't want to be pinged to meet up with some guy in 20 minutes; no of course I don't go!