New Year's Eve

It's New Year's Eve and I am going out!  Ummm, I don't have plans on kissing anyone when the ball drops, but you never know.  A friend is throwing a party with 100 people or so?  Why yes, I did use to date this "friend..."

Friendships Between Guys and Gals

I am a firm believer of - guys and girls cannot be "just friends."  There are some exceptions that would only apply to 10% of the population (girl used to go out with guy's best friend, girl is someone's sister, etc).

This article in Scientific American says guys have more trouble being "just friends" with a girl.  I believe it!  I have guy friends who think that they are in line to be a boyfriend, they are just not up to bat yet.  No!

Crazy

I drive myself crazy every now and then.  I think about things I don't care about.  Why do I do this?  Do I have too much free time on my hands?  Do I need a hobby?  Should I pick up any book and read it?

This is my dilemma...even though I know The Brain and I have had issues in the past, still think he's no so bad.  My memory is apparently so so bad.  On the bright side, because I've seen The Brain a lot, I've totally stopped thinking about Smart Guy.  Everything happens for a reason.  The Brain has helped me permanently remove Smart Guy from my head and life.  Nothing like getting rid of a guy because I'm thinking about another one!

The Brain was kind of a dbag years ago, so was I.  Have either of us changed that much where it would work?

Merry Christmas

I would like a lot of new potential guys when I come out of my break from guys in 2013.

Merry Christmas!

Gratitude

People always say happiness is tied to gratitude.  Generally speaking, I am pretty happy.  Why not?  Here's some stuff I am thankful for:

• A good job with health insurance that doesn't require me to work 80 hours a week
• Being well educated
• Cool friends and family
• Ability to laugh
• A peaceful relatively stress-free life
• Funds to buy whatever I want to buy, go where ever I want to go, eat whatever I want to eat, do whatever I want to do (true, I don't want extravagant things)
• No sh*tty roommates

OkCupid Emails

A friend sent this to me.  It's pretty funny.  I've gotten some good contenders via OkC for the worst emails ever.  One guy said, "Your profile is boring" and expected me to reply to that.  Others are sarcastic and cynical.  Who wants a cynical, complainy, whiny guy?  If you do, I know just the guy for you!

Must Remember

So much to remember.  For example, stop thinking high a OkC match % means something substantial.  Or how about, if I think someone is negative, I must have some evidence supporting this even though I can't remember specific examples (highly doubt I've haphazardly labeled someone as negative).  "Potential" is just that, know when to cut losses.  Stop entertaining the idea a guy because I know he is REALLY into me.

Son Of A ___

Oh come on!  Smart Guy is still visiting my OkC profile.  AND, he texted me something like "How are you?"  (I already deleted the text or I'd probably throw it in here verbatim.)  Let's do some easy math...it's been more than a month since I last saw him and a couple of weeks since I last replied to one of his texts.  So, as a "mathematical and logical" guy (what he claims to be), shouldn't he stop looking at my profile and contacting me?

A Thin Line Between Love And Hate

People always say there is a thin line between love and hate.  Hm, well yes, I would agree that there are intense feelings there.  That's about it.  Think I hate Smart Guy.  Seeing him in my OkCupid "Visitors" list causes my eyes to roll to the back of my head.  I get annoyed just reading his profile and knowing that he exists.  His asinine text messages absolutely infuriate me.  How did it get here?  Not sure, don't think I care to figure this out.  Maybe it's because I've fairly (or unfairly) labeled him as whiny and negative.  Maybe he represents my dashed hope that he would turn out awesome.  Done is done.  Wasted enough time talking and thinking about him, no point in wasting more (unless I actually learn something from this exercise).

I am indifferent to The Brain.  Indifference is not terrible because it means that I haven't completely ruled him out (even though that's what I did several years ago).  Smart Guy on the other hand is totally ruled out.

Food Chain

Saw The Brain in a group setting.  Stayed at his place in his bed, with him in it; no, nothing happened and nothing was supposed to happen.  A friend of his (a girl) came out with us.  95% sure she has a crush on him.  We were about to pile into his car and she said something about sitting shotgun.  HAHAHA, right, know your place in the food chain or at least be observant?  My stuff was already there and she knew I spent the night with The Brain, so...

And, if you were into a guy, wouldn't you be extremely disinterested/hesitant if you knew that another girl was in his bed?  A girl that you knew was hanging out with him all day and night?  I sure would!  Yeah, we all say "nothing happened," and in this case, nothing happened, but wouldn't you be somewhat suspicious?  I'd be thinking, "Who is this girl roaming around his apartment like she owns the place?  Couch isn't good enough?"

To make matters worse (for her), he was super touchy feely with me (arm around shoulder, feeding me bites of his food, etc).  If sitting shotgun and sleeping arrangements weren't odd enough to this girl, you would think these types of things would deter her.  They did not.  Is she that naive?

Don't find her to be a threat...not even close.  Yes, I sound like a bitch for saying this, but you know what?  It's true!  If she was a viable candidate, he wouldn't treat her like he did (as in second class citizen compared to me).  I guess she could be a booty call, and if that's the case, have some self respect if he treats you like garbage.

He Pops Into My Head

Not sure why, but Smart Guy does pop into my head from time to time.  Maybe because I am thinking about what could have been?  He had great potential, but potential is not enough.  Maybe because we had chemistry?  Maybe because we spent so much time together?

Yuck, I don't want to waste time thinking about a guy who has no potential!

Not That Bad

Starting to think The Brain really isn't that bad.  He's got some highly desirable characteristics, such as:

• He knows how to make outgoing calls on his cell phone
• When he takes calls or replies to texts with me nearby, he always tells me who is on the other end (that's courteous)
• He took care of me when I was sick months ago and would do it again in a heartbeat
• He wants to settle down
• He's very smart
• He's extremely nice to me (yeah, I know this could change with time)

The Rules

Yes, it's true, I practice and believe in The Rules.  Don't think it's manipulating/game playing, as much as, knowing one's worth and being treated well.  Lots of ladies make dating and access into their pants/skirts way too convenient.  I've done The Rules with 90% of the guys I've talked about on this blog.  The Brain is still very interested even though we dated over three years ago.  Smart Guy is still clicking on my OkC profile, all the time.  He has been texting me less, this is probably due to my obvious disinterest and non-responsiveness.  Telling you, The Rules work!

Of The Rules, the big ones I follow:

• Being mysterious and light (no one likes serious and to be grilled)
• Not accepting last minute dates (that's just rude, we are not at anyone's beck and call and have stuff to do)
• Not meeting a guy halfway or going dutch (it's called chivalry and impressing a lady, going dutch is something you do with colleagues at work)
• Not contacting him first - unless he's contacted me five or six times first (yes, I added the second part in, but don't think I contact guys, ever)
• Not talking to a guy first (how else am I going to know if he's really interested in me or just talking to me because he's bored - okay, fair I talked to The Brain many years ago, but that was because he was physically in my way and I told him to move)
• Not getting naked with a quickness (no, just no)

Holiday Party

Went to a holiday party yesterday.  It was 97% women.  No joke.  It was at an advertising agency, but you would think they know to invite some male staffers?

He Clicked Again!

Smart Guy clicked on my profile again!  Is this to remind me that he is alive?  We haven't seen each other in a month or so.  Yes, he has reached out to me and I've responded to fewer than 10% of his texts (I get bored, but am quickly reminded of why I don't reply to his texts anymore). 

I don't understand.

What?

I was on OkC and Smart Guy clicked on my profile knowing full well that I can see that he visited my profile.  What was the purpose of this?  I did not click back.

A Break!

I mentioned I am taking a break from dating.  Of course, The Brain contacted me and wants to have dinner.  I didn't answer the phone, this is just what the vmail said.