Talk To Strangers

Might try a new experiment; talk to and smile at ALL strangers.  This could turn into a very funny story.

Silicon Valley

Lots of people tell me I should go to Silicon Valley to meet a guy.  This blurb says no. 

The blurb's top reasons:

• The huge guy to girl ratio means guys are desperate.  This could be true, but it seems to be a good thing for the ladies?
• People are stressed.  Weak argument, people are stressed in most major cities
• Very high expectations.  Also a weak argument, high expectations aren't just a Silicon Valley thing

Silicon Valley still looks like a possibility.

Done Again?

I am done with Smart Guy (again).  Told a friend I really like the idea of him.  The friend said, "That's what people usually say when they break up with someone." 

Things that have set me off:

1. He fishes for compliments
2. He's been trying to make me jealous
3. He has been asking "none of his business" money management questions

Very Busy

Been very busy with work.  So busy that I haven't had time to analyze the crap out of Smart Guy and how his future with me will unfold.  Yeah, I'll see him again.  I really don't think I should know exactly how I feel about him and whether he has a long term position in my life yet.

Really need some fresh faces on OkCupid.

Still Don't Know

I still don't know about Smart Guy.  We've been talking a lot and went out again.  I think we are into each other, but still unsure about him.  Like what I know about him, but don't think I have enough information.  Need more information.

Maybe Is Better Than No

Maybe is better than no.  For example, "Do I like this guy?"  If the guy likes me, maybe is better than no.

What Do I Want?

I don't think women take enough time to think "What do I want?"  I used to think about "Does he like me" a lot.  Wrong question, I should be thinking "Do I like him" and "What do I want?"  These are fabulous questions for a Sunday afternoon.

Expectations of Perfection

Expectations are too high.  Everyone wants perfect.  How is this possible?  Your friends aren't perfect, your family isn't perfect, your boss isn't perfect, etc.  And nowadays, spouses are supposed to be everything; your best friend, your mentor, your companion, etc.  That's too much for one person!  I don't want to treat my husband like a gal pal.  I don't want to tell him about some new diet I am trying out or how many hours I spent researching a new pair of shoes.

Screw the guy that is trying to rule a girl out.  I am not trying to be a hypocrite and don't consider myself one since I am trying to change this terrible habit.  It's easy to cross people off the list, but is having a typo in an email really that bad?  Does that mean he will be a bad husband?  Maybe, maybe not, but come on, this just doesn't seem like a smart way to go about spouse hunting.

Okay, Smart Guy

Okay, Smart Guy is back in the picture.  I read an article (can't remember where) about how girls work themselves into a tizzy when they don't hear from a guy they went out with.  It said something about a guy having a life before meeting her and by the time he gets around to fitting her in his schedule, she is beyond angry and oozing with hostility.  I've certainly done this before.  It also said something about guy time being totally different from girl time.  For example, a week has gone by, but a guy will think it's only been two days.

Went out with Smart Guy recently.  Even though he used to contact me all the time, haven't heard from him since the date and not worried about it.  This is new for me!  A) does this mean I don't care about him?  Or, B) does this mean I am sure I will hear from him again?  B

Still Have Hope

Even though this article in Scientific American basically poo poos online dating algorithms, still have hope that OkCupid could work.  OkCupid match percentages are based on what the users think are important to them.  Users should know themselves better than anyone else, right?

Seems About Right

Came across this article.  It talks about how men will just about talk to anyone (in their league and out of their league).  Seem about right.  I think guys look at online dating as a number game.  The more emails they send out, the higher the responses/potential dates.

Aggressive and Insecure

Who knew aggressive and insecure was even a possible combination???  Wait, I did.  The Brain and now Smart Guy?  Sh*t.

Never A Good Sign?

Ever meet a guy in person (from online) and hear the question, "So, what do you think of match/OkCupid/Plenty Of Fish/etc?"  I have twice.  Both those experiences have not been good.  I think those are the guys looking for a girl who will just put out.  It's like the dck from a couple of weeks ago (yeah, the "frigid" name calling guy  who I saw walking around downtown on Friday and and this guy).

I'll admit it, I've asked the "What do you think" questions to guys I am not interested in ever ever ever seeing again.

Theory
If the guy asks you about your online dating experience while on a date with you (awkward to begin with), lower your hopes and expectations.

Online Dating

I know millions of people date online.  I also know many couples who have gotten married after meeting online.  This online dating adventure doesn't seem to be panning out for me.  I have met some scary, creepy, and sketchy guys.  A couple of guys were not creepy, but there was also no spark.

How am I supposed to meet a nice guy?  Have also met some scary, creepy, and sketchy guys offline.

F*ck, Smart Guy could have worked out so well if I didn't find him kinda scary.

What's Your Number?

I was talking to some younger ladies today (early, mid, late 20s).  They still think knowing someone's "number" (not phone number) is important.  I am in my early 30s.  I guess I used to care about that in my 20s, but now I really don't.  What is it really supposed to say?  No matter what, someone is going to lie.  Why bother asking and what does it matter?

I could marry a guy that never tells me his number.  If he offers, I'll walk out of the room.

I'm Done

I'm done with Smart Guy.  He likes to get under people's skin.  He likes to be condescending.  He likes to know everything, but has no right to know everything.

Logged onto OkCupid earlier today and he was on too.  I honestly don't care.  Another great on paper, but not in reality guy.  Next!

Peter Pan Syndrome

Was at a networking event earlier this week.  Again, met many nice young ladies that can't find a decent guy to save their lives.  One mentioned the Peter Pan Syndrome (never wanting to grow up), which is prevalent (according to her).  Her reasoning:

• Many people do not plan on living in SF forever
• It's too difficult to buy a house, raise a family, etc. without a TON of cash
• Organizations here are pretty flat, so career wise, not much room for growth

Time to think about moving again!