A Few Dates

Over the last few months, I've gone on a few dates.

1. Guy who bragged about how his dog is a "chick magnet"
2. Guy who had really long fingernails I couldn't help but stare at
3. Guy who may have been more into men than women
4. Guy who had interesting things to talk about

I found myself thinking, if guy number one didn't brag about his dog being a "chick magnet," would have I wanted to see him again? No. If guy number two had shorter fingernails, would I have wanted to see him again? No. If I had thought guy number three was more into women, would I have wanted to see him again? No. So by thinking pf someone as the "long fingernail guy" or whatever else, I'm not ruling them out because of long nails, dogs, et al, no, it's because I didn't like him and that was just another straw to add to the camel's back. I'm sure men think like this about women too.

Guy number four is the only one I would have agreed to see again. We didn't have a spark (not that I had a spark with the others), but he was interesting and we talked about interesting things (vs the let's talk about our jobs for two hours conversations).  He has asked me out since and our calendars haven't lined up.  I don't know if I should see him again though because I don't think it'd be fair to him because I feel no spark.

Guys two to four were all nice guys, we just aren't good matches.  Guy number one was the only questionable one.  3 out of 4 being nice is quite good.

It's A New Year

I haven't done much here because I've been working and traveling almost nonstop. I've talked to a few guys here and there. I've also stopped talking to a few guys here and there when they say things like, "What u du for job?" Dating and relationships have been placed on the back burner.

It's a new year and there will be some changes here. I used to let all comments get published. Going forward, this will not happen. Without getting into great detail, I will say I've received several threats to my safety.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is this Thursday and I'm sure we all have things we should be grateful for; we just need to realize what.

So, even if nothing comes of it, I'm grateful for the guy I run into coming into my life.  I thought I was very over Ex Guy, but he was still able to annoy me by contacting me.  Although my annoyance was at a very low level, it was still present.  I think that's a sure sign that I wasn't as over Ex Guy as I thought I was.

After a variety of things like a long vacation and meeting two guys I have chemistry with (including the guy I ran into), I can honestly say I'm 100% over the Ex Guy. Going on a few dates with this one showed me just how over the Ex Guy I am.  The Ex Guy could show up on my doorstep, and I'd just close the door without any positive or negative feeling.  He's been made completely irrelevant.  And, that took way too long.  Had I met some guys I found interesting sooner, I think I would have been 100% done with the Ex Guy sooner.

I've heard that people come into your life at a specific time, for a specific reason.  I believe it.

Yes, I Went On That Date

Yes, I went on that date.  The date that I thought was two friends having dinner, not two people on a date.  I was wrong.  It was a date.  He referred to it as a date and was more dressed up than I had ever seen him.

It was a lot of fun.  He seemed much happier than the first time I met up with him.  Seeing him happier made him more attractive.  He's cute.  We have chemistry.  We had a lot to talk about.  We laughed a lot.  I left the date thinking, he's someone I want to see again.

Then, I thought about it some more.  We had a great time, but I'm not sure he's over his ex.  I don't want to be a rebound.  Sure, he could be truly over it, and I think if that were the case, he'd show me that.  Maybe he thinks he's over it, but really isn't?

He asked me out again, and I was busy.  He also asked me to meet him on an out of state business trip.  I feel like it's too soon for that.  Is he trying to 1) find someone to sleep with and thinks an overnight trip will do the trick, 2) move things along quickly (possibly to fill a void), or 3) it'd really be innocent.  Or, maybe someone else I haven't considered?

How am I going to handle it if/when he asks me out again?  It'll probably be a long time from now because of the upcoming holidays.  We are both going to be out of town a lot.  Time is good.  Time heals all wounds, right?

I'm not ruling him out, but I'm also not holding my breath.  If we're meant to go out again, it'll happen, especially based on our history of running into each other.

Friend Dinner

This guy texted me over the weekend and we're going out this week.  I like that he seems like a happy positive guy even though he's had a rough year and got out of a serious relationship.  I'm just going assume we are two friends having dinner, not two people on a date.  And a different guy from work asked me out today.

Seven Texts

This guy on a dating app asked me for my number.  I gave it to him.  He's sent me seven texts without me replying to one.  I've been busy and forgot.  Well, I wasn't going to respond to his "good morning" text because I find those to be a waste of time, especially since we haven't even met in person.  Then, I was at work for eight hours.  Then, I met up with some friends.  Then, he started emailing me on the dating app.

SEVEN texts and new emails on the dating app.  If a girl did this to a guy, people would call her "psycho."  And it's fine when a guy does this to a girl?

Don't Really Care Much

The guy I ran into at the airport, I ran into him again, at the airport!  We chatted for a few minutes.  He wanted to do something this weekend, but I already have plans.  He kept telling me to text him, but I have nothing to say.  And, I already have plans.  And, I see him as a work friend.  And, if he really wants to make plans, he can text me.  And, if he doesn't really want to make plans, no need to text me.  I don't really care much.