Followup

A followup to the other day's post.  I think I've talked about it before?  I go on dates to have a nice conversation, see if there's chemistry/a connection, determine if we want to see each other again, et al.  I don't go on dates just because he's buying dinner.  And if he's someone who thinks that, he's a waste of my time; he doesn't understand me and even worse, has a WIIFM mentality.

WIIFM?

Ever hear of WIIFM?  Aka, "What's in it for me?"  I don't like this way of thinking, at all.  I dated one guy who used to bring it up when talking about business.  Towards the end of our courtship/relationship, he started bringing it up when it came to me.  For example, giving me a ride home after dinner.  He actually said, "You get a free dinner and a ride home.  What do I get?"  Me (to myself), "After that, me never seeing you again."

When I have dinner with a friend, I don't think that's even a thought that crosses his/her mind.  It certainly doesn't cross my mind.  If a friend buys me dinner and drives me home, it's because they like my company and they like me as a person.  Perhaps they want to make sure I get home safe, perhaps they know the dinner will be filled with laughter, et al.  So, when I find out a suitor is thinking WIIFM, I don't think he's interested in me enough (at least not as a person).

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!  Hope everyone is having a nice time with friends, family, and/or alone.  What are you thankful for this year?

My top three:

1. I'm thankful that I don't work in corporate anymore
2. I'm thankful that I'm very over New Leaf Guy and other guys who weren't right for me
3. I'm thankful that I've been sleeping really well (I believe sleep is best way to stay healthy)

A Long Lost Girlfriend

The guy from the weekend.  The food was good, the conversation was good, the spark was no good (there was no spark...on either of our ends).  I felt like I was talking to a long lost girlfriend.

Have Patience

Not everyone is glued to their phones, I'm certainly not.  I think many guys I interact with this find this to be a problem (based on the complaints I've gotten over the years).  Well, to me, that just says they aren't interested enough if they can't wait a few hours for a text.  Have patience.  Sure, sometimes it's more than a few hours.  For example, guy texts me at 9 pm, I see it at 12 am, decide not to reply at 12 am because it's 12 am, go to sleep, wake up, get ready for work, go to work, and don't remember he texted til 12 pm.

Quickly

Date with a different new guy this weekend, another online guy.  I like that he moved quickly.  He emailed me quickly, asked me out quickly, and set up a dinner quickly.  And no, he wasn't deterred by me taking days to respond to emails.  My online dating emails/alerts get sent to my non primary email account.

That Was Fast

I've gone from being open to see this guy again to saying, no, I will not see him again.  He seems needy.  He keeps asking me what I think of him and if I'm interested in him.  We've gone out twice.  That's not enough time for me to determine if I'm interested in him.  This constant questioning is a big red flag.  Again, we've gone out twice!