Good Things

I feel like good things are coming my way.  Kinda hokey.  So far, it has been a very good year...

Happy Mother's Day

Take your mom to brunch, call her, send her an email, do something.  She'll like it.

I remember thinking my mom didn't know anything when I was growing up.  What we know now vs. when we thought we knew it all.  My mom knew a lot more than I gave her credit for.  I don't know how she kept a straight face every time I said I was "studying" or "watching a movie" when I was at my boyfriend's house.

Wah Wah Wah

I can't recall the name of this, but in social psychology they have a name for when people get really mad at others, for things they don't like about themselves.  For example, you get ridiculously angry when people are late, 5 seconds, 5 minutes, 50 minutes, no difference; that would mean you don't like the part of yourself that runs late.
 
I talked about this in the comments of another post, but wanted to make sure everyone sees it.  When I read angry comments, 1) I think you must really not like the part of yourself that is a bitch, snob, elitist, aggressive, and whatever else I've been called over the years and 2) I hear "Wah wah wah..." from Charlie Brown.

Ex Girlfriends

A female friend told me men think about ex girlfriends.  Not, "I really want her back," but more "I don't believe she did that to me," "I can't believe she didn't protest when I broke up with her," or "I can't believe she dumped me" kind of thoughts.  Is this true?

Do women do this?  I only think about my ex boyfriends when someone asks me about them.  And I usually think, "On to the next."

PMS Does Exist

I saw a part of a TED talk about PMS and how it isn't scientifically proven.  It was presented by a woman scientist.  I shut it off and wholeheartedly disagree with her!  I've had this discussion with many girlfriends.  PMS does exist.

There are times of the month when I want chocolate.  There are times of the month where sappy commercials will make me cry.  There are times of the month when I am very anxious for no reason whatsoever.

Male readers, if it seems like there are times of the month where your girlfriend is "moody."  Be nice or vanish during those days.

A Change

New Leaf Guy (aka Last Chance Guy, needed to shorten the name) is still in the picture.  We saw each other at a friend's party.  We went separately and I knew I was leaving early because I had other plans.  He had brought a few women with him, which I knew he would.  One of them was someone he was interested in a decade ago and they never dated (this is what he told me before the party).  I don't think he wanted me to feel threatened and I wasn't.

I didn't have the "some sh*t is up" vibe, but I did notice a change in his behavior.  I'm glad he didn't take the jealousy path because trying to make me jealous only annoys me, which then causes me to withdraw and move on very quickly.  He's made it farther than other guys I've dated in the past months.  He was doing well and now...

Frankly, I know I'm a prize, and if he doesn't see it, you know what will happen.

Waiting Him Out

I touched on this in the comments area of another post, and it's worth bringing up.

I tend to think men who speak to me are interested in having sex with me.  This isn't something I dreamed up, this is something I learned in my late teens, twenties, and today.  I want someone who likes me for me, not because he just wants to "nail it."  I'd say men who are MIA within the first few dates 1) weren't interested enough or 2) were just interested in having sex (with me, anyone with breasts, anyone with a beating heart, et al).

I've found that the men who wait, like me (obvious, yes).  Sure, some men might continue the dating process because they think date four, five, six, or whatever arbitrary date number will mean sexing it up, but I find that the guys who are only interested in sex will lose their patience quite quickly.

And no, this isn't a game, it's me determining who is genuinely interested because that's important to me.  I am also determining who I am actually interested in.  I remember a line from Clueless, something about Cher being really choosy about her shoes, and they only go on her feet...

I don't want to sound like someone's grandma, but really, I think many women have sex with men they don't really know.  If you are comfortable having sex with men you don't really know, do continue, and no, I'm not judging.  I'm saying, please don't be surprised when they turn out to be assh*les, cheaters, drug addicts, car thieves, et al.  This is information one might come across if one gives the relationship more time to develop.  And wouldn't you like to avoid having sex with the assh*le, cheater, drug addict?  I sure would.