White Fetish

I'm Asian, this white fetish video is funny to me.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

This Happens Every Year

This happens every year around Thanksgiving, the number of guys who contact me on my many dating sites increase dramatically.

2 Traits For Lasting Relationships

Have you seen this article?  It talks about 2 traits for lasting relationships

More On Catcalling

I feel like there were enough comments on my previous catcalling post to warrant a follow up post.  Bottom line, catcalling depends on the content, delivery, and attractiveness on the guy.  If George Clooney shouted, "You're hot" as you walked by (assuming you are a woman...or maybe a man, who knows), you'd probably be okay with it.

No I do not think self worth should be tied to the amount of catcalls one gets or doesn't get.  I am simply saying, I'm more okay with attractive guys catcalling (depending on content and delivery) than unattractive guys catcalling.  I'm also more okay with attractive guys approaching me, than unattractive guys.  You don't want attractive guys versus unattractive guys approaching you?  Come on.

For all the ladies who are offended by catcalling, take it easy.  Why should you let this negatively impact your day?  Brush it off and keep moving.  Easier said than done, sure.  I used to get really worked up over this and now I just don't care.  Why?  Because I don't want to give someone else the power to ruin my day.  It's like, great, some guy just shouted "You're hot," I know I'm hot, a guy saying this or not saying this is irrelevant.  It's also better than some guys saying, "You're fat," though this would also have no impact because I know I'm not.  At least the first guy is trying to say something nice!

You don't have to agree with me, but take this to heart; the amount we let someone negatively impact our lives is tied with how we perceive things.  Maybe you might be less offended if you think the guy catcalling you has good intentions versus this whole objectification thing.

Think about a random woman saying, "I like your shoes."  I'm sure you almost never get angry about this and storm off in a huff because you think she thinks your self worth is tied to her liking or not liking your shoes.  To the Anon girl who said, "...why should I be happy some guy found me attractive? I'm not here to be appraised and either accepted or rejected by you. We really shouldn't base our self-worth on what some guy you don't know and don't care about thinks of us..." apply it to the shoe comment and you'll see they really aren't that different.

Screw You

Some guy apparently didn't like my reply to his email.  He replied, "!!!????????????????????????????????"  Screw you.  Would any woman actually reply to that?  I immediately blocked him.

He Strikes Again!

Smart Guy strikes again!  Think the last time I heard from him was earlier this year, can't remember.  I do remember the last time I saw him being sometime late December 2012.  I have not responded to any of his attempts to talk to me because he's a douche.

Hate This?

I remember really hating this about New York.  However, if they were all incredible looking guys I'd consider dating, I'd welcome it.

Shelf Life

I always hear women have a "shelf life" due to child bearing years.  Well, guys and gals, take a look at this NYT article talking about paternity age and mental illnesses.

Douchebag

I just named a guy douchebag in my phone.  I don't normally save potential date numbers (or even the numbers of guys I've gone out with seven times).  He called me five minutes ago and wants to meet up tonight.  I legitimately have plans, which he didn't believe, and demanded to know what my plans were; no I did not disclose this, none of his business.  He also said it's such a shame that I don't get to meet him tonight and would really miss out.  What a douchebag. Google Voice is awesome, you can block numbers with one click!

Icebreakers

I was digging through my emails and can't remember if I talked about this.  I went on a date many months ago and the guy requested I think of some icebreakers we could use on the date.  I do remember going on the date and never wanting to see him again (there were more reasons than the icebreaker thing).  Has this happened to anyone else?  Icebreakers?!

You Do?

That coffee date guy emailed me to say he wants to go out again.  You do?  Why?  I replied a nice, thank you, but no thank you email.

The Coffee Date I Kept

The coffee date wasn't much better than watching paint dry.  He was nice enough, and not at all talkative; there was a lot of silence.  He'd ask me a question, I'd reply, ask him a question, and get a three word answer.  I get it, maybe he just wasn't into me, fine.  So why not end the date and why so surprised when I ended the date?

On Second Thought

On second thought, I don't know if I'm going to see this guy again.  Since I saw him, he's sent me five text messages (I replied to one early on) and one email.  This is a bit much.

That Didn't Work

Seriously, every time I swear off dating, I end up going on even more dates than normal.  I have four dates this week.  That one on Thursday, brunch earlier today, coffee and lunch tomorrow (two different guys).

The brunch today was okay.  He didn't tell me he expected me to put out soon, so that's a huge improvement.  He didn't grill me, which was awesome.  I don't think we have chemistry and don't find him attractive, but if he asks, I'll go out with him again because I didn't leave the date wanting to kill myself.

Now, tomorrow...I will keep the coffee date and I'm about to send an email to cancel the lunch date.  Why?  We spoke on the phone, and he seems utterly clueless and I feel like it would be one of those dates where I would be grilled and annoyed.  Also, I smell his desperation and just don't see it working.