Dating In New York

I can't say I really know how dating in New York works.  I went on three dates.

• Guy #1 - Divorced guy, mid 40s, higher up in investment banking.  Very take charge in reaching out, setting up the date, etc., which I like.  Nice guy, but not for me.  Big oversharer.  Also don't think he is really ready to date since he brought up his ex wife and a few ex girlfriends.  I really don't know why guys bring up exes
• Guy #2 - Never married guy, late 40s, hedge fund guy.  Nice guy and looked nothing like his photos. Think he was nervous (based on him talking about the NYC subway system for 20 minutes, ie, nothing to say, grasping at straws)
• Guy #3 - Never married guy, early 40s, lawyer.  Nice guy, much shorter than he claimed to be.  Also brought up an ex gf

Three other guys wanted to go out and dates were not set.  One guy wanted me to go to Brooklyn (a place convenient for him and not even close to being convenient for me).  Another guy was whiny in his texts and vmails; he also didn't know how to make plans (no, I was not impressed with the fact that he is a young surgeon).  The last guy left the ball in my court and I forgot he existed.

Sorry, Austin

I've never been to Austin, TX.  People have told me the Austin guys are very similar to SF guys.  I don't think this rips on their dating scene, but it does rip on just about everything else.  Sorry, Austin.

It's kinda nice that I'm starting to see more than the "SF sucks" type of articles.

Dinner Tonight

Dinner tonight with a guy in his mid 40s.  He was very direct in his emails, none of this "How are you?" repeated over the course of five text messages.  No, instead it was, "Would you like to go to dinner?"  I think directness is very attractive.

Goal Oriented

One of my very good (and incredibly intelligent) New York friends has spelled it out for me.  New Yorkers (in general) are all around goal oriented.  Maybe this is why I've had so much trouble adjusting to life on the West Coast.  The guys I've met in the San Francisco Bay Area don't seem to have personal life goals.  Sure, they have career goals, but that seems to be where it stops.

New York

East again, NY. Love New York summers (or summer in general)!  Will I be going on dates while I'm here?  Yes.  Do I have a couple lined up?  Yes.  Did I just move to New York?  No.  Am I still thinking about moving out here?  Yes.

Man Up

I don't know who Matt Walsh is, but several people have sent this to me over the past month.

This is what I'm talking about!  Guys - be decisive, take charge, and man the f*ck up.

Face To Face Interactions

Saw this on techcrunch a couple of weeks ago.  It talks about how people are having issues with face to face interactions.  Of course, I am going to ask, is this nationwide or mainly San Francisco/Silicon Valley issue?

Better To Be Single

Someone sent this (on why it's better to be single) to me in February, yeah, just skimmed it.

Interesting Chart

Finally looked at an email from Coffee Meets Bagel.  Haven't had a chance to really read this, but seems like we already know the results of their study.  1)  Men like younger women and 2) women don't like younger men.  Please correct me if I got this study totally wrong.

Texting Like A Girl

Saw this old article about texting/writing emails like a girl, funny

This Is Networking

So this is networking...was at a networking event (in SF).  There were about 90 men and 10 women.  One old guy and two younger guys approached me; that's it.  As for the other ladies?  Maybe they talked to some of the guys, but when I took a look, they were sitting by themselves, talking with each other, and standing by themselves

I guess one side of the argument could be, none of the 90 guys were interested in meeting women and/or off the dating market.  However, it was a networking event.  Maybe one of these women was a CEO for a big company, a recruiter for a startup, a top attorney, etc?  So, why not mingle with the opposite sex?

Kindness And Generosity

Really long article, haven't read it, but did read the subtitle of "...kindness and generosity" being the key to long lasting relationships.

I'm Taking Another Break

I'm taking another break on the whole guy hunt (for now, if I stay in SF, probably forever).  I'm going to spend my time thinking about what I want to do for the rest of my life (or at least the next couple years).  It'd be nice if I could answer these questions:

• What do I want to do?  Get a new job?  Go back to school?
• Do I want to stay in SF?

 I've got a vacation coming up.  I will of course observe the men in these cities and report back.

Happy Independence Day

Happy Independence Day!  I decided to fly East and watch some fireworks.  Hope everyone is having a good one and it isn't too cold and foggy (for the SF readers).

100 First Dates

I remember hearing the odds of finding the right person = you meet 100 people, you consider 10 of them, you go out with 3 of them, and then you find 1 right person.

I just heard, you have to go on 100 first dates before finding the right person.  Seems high, is it?  Just thinking about going on 100 first dates is making me tired.