Happy Halloween

Happy Halloween!  What a great day to meet people (during the day when they are still sober).  Don't you love how guys like to cross-dress and gals like to dress in almost nonexistent "costumes?"

By the way, I've started talking to random people, guys, girls, it doesn't matter.  Why not?

Same Faces

All I see are the same faces on OkCupid.  I've heard the way to fix this is un-answer ALL your questions and re-answer different ones.  Have heard this should be done every couple of months.  Not sure what to do since some of these questions are really important.  However, I need new faces!

Mean vs Nice

Haven't decided if I'll be mean or nice yet.  A little worried about karma, which makes me want to be nice.  However, he is a d*ck and doesn't deserve nice.  He's an unintentional d*ck (socially awkward), but still a d*ck.

Smart Guy is absolutely done.  I can't/won't deal with him anymore.  I don't enjoy our interactions and how flabbergasted I am after every date we have.  It's like he's interested, but a bit resentful because I am not trying to strong arm him into a relationship.

I can either respond to his texts telling him we are done (nice) or say nothing (mean).

Effort

Smart Guy talks a big game; it's all talk!  He's good at telling me he wants another chance and all that jazz.  Pay attention to actions not words.  The level of effort he has shown in person has consistently decreased over the past two dates.  He has:

• Had a lot of s*ht in his teeth (a lot)
• Worn paint splattered clothing
• Worn pants with a hole so big I knew the pattern on his boxers
• Eaten half a sandwich I was still working on
• Not tried to plan engaging date activities
• Talked about two if not three different ex girlfriends
• Complained about everything
• Whined, yes whined

More Smart Guy

I think I made it pretty clear to Smart Guy that I am not really feeling it.  That has made him pursue me even more.

No Brain

Saw The Brain again.  He has not changed.  Not again!

Text Messaging

I heard if a guy that normally does not end sentences with periods suddenly starts ending sentences with periods, that means he's angry.  Is this true?  If so, someone is very mad at me.

Text messages are also dangerous.  Since I am not on the sending or receiving end of these, they are funny.

Also funny, Texts from Last Night.

Ignored Signs Of Clingy

It's my fault.  I ignored signs of clingy, such as:

• Contacting me 20 minutes after our first date
• Giving me a pet name before we even met
• Talking to me 24/7 even though we had only gone out once
• Constantly text messaging throughout the day, every single day
• Asking me where I was, what I was doing, who I was with

Finito

Smart Guy is done.  Can't do it anymore.  He lacks consideration (I was giving him the benefit of the doubt, shouldn't have).  He wasn't there for me when I was sick a month ago (yes, I still remember this).  He doesn't care about what I want.  Told him I prefer emails, dislike gchat and text messages.  So, what does he do?  Text messages and gchats me.  He's selfish.  Everything is about him; where we go, what time we go where we eat, etc.  I remember, we were at dinner and shared calamari, it was in the center of the table.  Instead of pushing it towards me, I remember him pulling the plate towards him.  Never seen this before!  What kind of guy (or person) does that?  He also complains...a lot...more than any bitch I know.

Moving Slowly

I get confused when guys move very slowly.  I think, "Well, he seems interested, but he isn't trying to do much else."  This is confusing because most girls think guys want to hook up, but when they don't try...

Keep Trying To Reach Me

Firm believer that if a guy is really interested, he will call, write, text, etc even if I don't respond to all of his attempts.  Think about it, every time you are eh about a guy, you can't seem to shake him.  I've had guys call me everyday for 30 days straight with me only picking up on one call.  I've had guys stop by my apartment after not being able to reach me through email or the phone (a little stalkerish, but I get it).

Difference Of Opinions

I go on dates to give guys a shot.  I've gone on more than six dates to give Smart Guy a chance.  Unfortunately, he might not be seeing it the same way.  It seems like he thinks things are much more serious than they are.  Well, I don't know what to do about this.  Think my friends are right, I might in a relationship and his girlfriend in his head.  He tries to talk to me everyday too.  Until he tries to claim this girlfriend thing out loud, I am going to pretend I am unaware.

OkCupid Activity

There has been a flurry of OkCupid activity.  Why has there been so much activity?  I got five emails in one day and I haven't updated my profile.  Too bad I don't want to talk to most of these guys.  Guys, if you write a generic email, you will not get a response!  If you write something dirty, you are not getting a response!  If we are polar opposites, you are not getting a response!

Complicated

Technology has made dating much too complicated.  Most of us google/facebook/linkedin stalk new guys/gals we meet.  I know a lot more about my first dates than they think I know.

Check out this chart.

I still stick by NOT texting a guy after a date.  It's not just texting, it's calling, emailing, facebooking, etc.  If a guy likes you, he WILL contact you.  Besides, aren't you too busy with your other 15 guys to be staring at your phone waiting for this one guy?

"Pullback"

I heard guys do the "pullback" when dating.  Pullback meaning things are going swimmingly well, then they need to pullback to regroup.  Well, I guess I do the same thing.  In my case, wouldn't say things are going swimmingly well, but I do need some time to think.

Girlfriend?

My friends are telling me Smart Guy thinks we are in a relationship and I am his girlfriend.  That's odd, I don't remember having a DTR (define the relationship or) WAW (what are we) type of conversation.  Yes, we typically see each other on the weekends, more Saturdays than Fridays.  Yes, he does hold my hand.  I am no one's girlfriend without a discussion.  Furthermore, I have some issues with him.  For example, I was very sick last weekend, which he knew.  He didn't even ask me if I was okay or if I wanted him to bring me anything.  That's a very bright RED FLAG!