What To Do?

I am torn; I have too many conflicting views on relationships.  I figured out I am the avoidant type (big surprise), as in I don't like to feel trapped and usually keep my distance.  However, I can also say this is because I haven't met the right guy?

I have also heard that people should throw "type" out the window.  I've actually heard this from a lot of married people.

What to do?

Younger Guys

I have been thinking about going younger for a few months now.  I think I should do it!  I like that younger guys are more playful and don't really have wrinkles/deep creases.  Goodfella thinks I should go younger because guys in their late 30s are usually set in their ways and very resistant to change.  Totally superficial, but what about all those years of sun damage (= serious wrinkles)?

Back To Basics

Okay, I am going to take this a step further.  I will continue my two date rule, but I will ONLY date guys that I find attractive.  Yes, brains are hot, personality is hot, sense of humor is hot, etc.  However, I have dated all these guys and I didn't find them hot...at all.  It doesn't matter how funny he is or how he can build complex financial models.  At the end of the day, if I am not attracted to him, it is doomed.

This is what I am calling going back to basics.  I think back to college and how I didn't care what he was studying, what he wanted to be when he grew up, etc.  The only thing that mattered: do I think he is hot?

I know this could be difficult, but it shouldn't.  I just need to stop knowing what school he went to, where he works, how big his house is, etc.

Two Date Rule

I have a two date rule.  I always go out with guys twice just to make sure I am not being too harsh.  I think I should probably stop doing this because it has only gotten me into situations where I am left saying, "Ugh, why did I go out with him again?"