Back From Vacation

I'm back from my long vacation where I visited four countries in Europe.  I'm glad I had the opportunity to see new places, spend time with friends, and clear my mind. 

I told myself I'd be more open to dating and meeting new people after this trip.  Well, as soon as I landed in the US, one guy from the past (we never moved passed talking) sent me a message, and another I've worked with in the past asked for my number (we ran into each other at the airport).  I don't think either of them will go anywhere, but I will say that I will try to enjoy the process of spending time with them (should it get to that point) rather than dreading the whole dating thing.

Long Vacation

I still hear from the Ex Guy and I'm still not really talking about it because there's nothing to talk about.  I've asked myself a new question though.  Even if he did fix whatever needed to be fixed, would I even want him?  I don't think so.  The good times were so good and the bad times were so bad.

My focus has not been on dating for the last month.  I've been working on trip planning.  I am going on a long vacation this summer.  We'll visit three countries (at minimum) in Europe.  I think I usually take a vacation from dating over the summer?  It sorta seems like most of this year...

Not Yet

A few of my guy friends have gotten engaged recently.  I find myself thing, no thanks, not yet.  I'm not at that place.  Maybe if I met the right guy, I'd be at that place?  I'm not looking for the right guy right now though.  I'm not looking for any guy. 

I feel like there are a lot of things I need to take care of before I find the right guy.  For example, more travels with girlfriends I know I'll have a blast with.

Weekend In Paris

I was in Paris over the weekend with two girlfriends.  Well, a girlfriend and her friend.  I'm never traveling with her friend again.  Paris was beautiful and cold.  It was my first time there.  Most of my past big trips have been with men I've dated, guy friends, male family members; and, they've taken charge of the planning, transportation, dining, et al.

From this trip, all three of us learned that we don't need a guy to go on a big trip.  We can get around on our own just fine.  I had much more fun traveling with this girlfriend than any guy I've dated.

Asking Myself Some Questions

Instead of thinking about men, dating, and relationships, I've been putting my energy into asking myself some questions.

1. If I didn't have to work for money and could do anything I want, what would it be and why?  
2. If I could live anywhere in the world, where would I live and why?  
3. If I could visit anywhere in the world, where would I go an why?

I think these are good soul searching questions for anyone who feels a little bored, confused, or just blah.

I'm sprucing up my apartment while I work on these questions.  I also bought new luggage so I have one less excuse as to why I'm not traveling the world.  I've noticed many people make excuses to themselves.  I'm one of them and I'm working to change that.  When I tell myself some kind of excuse, I've been asking myself, what am I avoiding or why is that my current thinking?  For example, I can't travel the world because I don't have an international sized carry on.  Now that I've bought one, I find myself saying, I can't go anywhere because it's hard to line up schedules with friends.  Well, why can't I go alone?  Of course, I can.

On A Break

I've been on a break from men and dating.  I still check my various apps and sites about once a week, but my heart's not in it.  I think there's a lot I want to see and do before I meet someone.

I was talking to a girlfriend, she one of those girls who is almost never single.  She's also on a break from men and dating.  She's putting all her energy into finishing school and working a lot to get a new car.  Another girlfriend of mine has been divorced for about a year, she's on a break from men too.  She's focusing on getting a group of us together every month for a girl's trip.  Let's go!

The Who Didn't Matter

I haven't heard from that guy that I went out with a couple weeks ago and that's fine.  From the date, I got the sense that he was too fresh off his divorce, which was finalized not too long ago. 

Also, his followup texts rubbed me the wrong way.  Instead of suggesting we go out to dinner again, a movie, a hike, et al, he kept suggesting activities that would require a plane.  That seemed odd to me.  We just met and he was talking about trips to Europe and Asia with the closest destination being Mexico.  Sorta made me think he was just trying to get laid if he was skipping very ahead to overnight out of the country activities.  It also made me think he was just dying to get into another relationship and the who didn't matter.