Birth Control Failure Probabilities

This NYT article was floating around a few months ago.  It talks about birth control failure probabilities over the course of 10 years.  It's pretty scary because it makes it seem like virtually all forms of birth control will have more than a 50% chance of failing by year 10.

Too Comfortable

It's always irked me when guys mind their Ps and Qs on the first few dates, then they start getting too comfortable and think they don't need to try anymore.  Or maybe, the beginning was all an act? 

I know this is something that happens to other women.  One gal I know has "dates" with her boyfriend, which consists of her bringing take out to his place and watching him play Xbox all night.

I'm going to start telling guys they need to shape up, as soon as, I start seeing signs of bull s*t.  With New Leaf Guy, I'd become very unavailable, which got him to shape up, but I only saw a temporary improvement.  Calling him out also did nothing, so disqualified.

Advice: Speak Up

This one is for the women and it could also be for the men.

If you don't like the way he treats you, speak up instead of pretending to be "fine" and blowing up later.  Deliver the message in a nice way, easier said than done (no screaming, no yelling, no accusations, et al).  Don't nag, if he doesn't fix the issue, decide to deal with it or drop him.

Example:
What you want to say:  John, I don't come over to watch you play video games all f*cking night
What you could say:  John, I know you love video games.  When I come over, I come over to see you, not to watch you play video games

If he is a smart man and cares about you, he will put the controller down and ask you what you want to do or have a suggestion for what to do.  If he is a stupid man, he will continue playing (you might want to drop him...I don't need to explain why).

Very Wrong

Because this guy has said five different versions of "Goodbye" to me over the past five days, I thought he'd give up and go away.  I am very wrong.  Time to block.  "?????" as a text or anything else is so rude.

Wrong

Wrong, that guy just texted me again.  How is "?????" an acceptable text from anyone?  Isn't that the equivalent of texting in all caps?  This guy sucks.

We Have An Answer?

We have an answer?  After not responding to several of his text, texts that I felt were too irritating/pushy (what did you do last night, who did you go out with, why are you so busy you can't reply, ?????, et al), every couple of hours,  I received "Goodbye." I didn't respond to a text he sent 72 minutes ago or all morning.  I breathed a sigh of relief.  Then, he texted a picture of a boat leaving a dock (like this ship has sailed)?  LOL, good riddance!

Thinking About My Tirade

I was thinking about my tirade on guys contacting me with no real reason.  Let's use this guy as an example.  When we first exchanged numbers, he texted me that day to ask me out for the next night.  I didn't like that, but overlooked it.  My interest level did not change.  When he sent me several texts later that night with no reason (other than to tell me what he's doing...remember, we've never met before), my interest level decreased a bit.  When he sent me 18 texts in 14 hours, which then turned into 22 texts in 24 hours (with me still only replying to that one from the night before), I got very annoyed and was ready to block him.

I started thinking about this.  If I was very interested in him to begin with and he had done all these things, would I still be very interested in him?  No.  He's pushy and sending me texts like "?????" every few minutes/hours is obnoxious.  Rather than blocking him, I am going conduct a social experiment.  I will not respond to any texts unless they are texts asking me out.  I suspect this never happens to him since he is a very successful man.  Quite frankly, I don't care if he stops texting me and I never meet him.

He's like this now and we've never met.  How would he be if we actually dated?  Exactly.