Chivalry Is A Must

What happened to good old chivalry?  Guys who open doors, let girls walk into elevators first, and give up bus/train seats to pregnant or old women are a rare breed these days.  I just don't get it.  Is it an age thing?  One of my coworkers rides the bus to the Financial District from the Marina.  Apparently guys never give up their seats.  She is very much pregnant.  What?!?!?

If I go out with a guy and he shows an unchivalrous behavior, there is no second date.  If he is rude to the waitstaff, no.  If he wants me to go dutch, no.  If a random guy jumps into an elevator ahead of me and smiles at me, I glare (this happened this past week).

So You Want A Job

Went to another networking event.  It must be networking season.  Lots of people out there are unemployed in San Francisco.  Nothing with networking to find a job.  However, a few things I noticed tonight which lead to dos/don'ts for a networking event:

• Do not get sloppy drunk (this should be obvious)
• Do not gesture wildly and hit people
• Do understand body language and signs of boredom
• Do watch your tone; asking, "Where do you work?" is different from "WHERE do YOU work?"
• Do not follow people around
• Do not make fun of my major (so you want me to help you find a job, but you are ragging on my major?  Genius)

This should all be common sense, unfortunately, it's not.

Personal Space

I went to a networking event last night.  You know what's worse than a guy (you are totally disinterested in) who won't stop talking to you?  A guy you are totally disinterested in talking to you and encroaching on your personal space.  I must have backed up 10 feet.  He decided to come closer every time.  Why, oh why?  I would have been really unpleasant had he not been a friend of a friend.

No Plus One

I would rather go to a wedding alone than bring a guest.  I only attending weddings of very close friends and family.  It is a great chance to catch up with everyone; I don't live nearby.  I also do not want to deal with the hassle of having to entertain my guest who will not know anyone.  Also, I don't want a "guest" to meet my family and childhood friends.  These are people who have seen me grow up (assuming I am a grownup) and people I grew up with. 

Could I have commitment phobia?  Yes.  I wouldn't say it is a phobia...it's more an aversion.  I do not like new groups to meet well established groups (the groups that will never go away).

Not Right Now

Maybe I am simply not ready.  I know a pretty decent guy.  I have known him for more than ten years and he happens to live in San Francisco.  By decent, I mean ridiculously cute (I have always thought so).  We are supposed to meet up.  We have been talking about meeting up for months if not years.  I haven't reached out to him.  It's not because I don't think he is serious potential, as much as, I just don't feel like going down that path right now. 

Okay, I have been proven wrong again.  I used to think I would be totally ready to dive in if I met the right guy, but now I don't think that's true.  I am not saying this guy (I'll name him Dreamy Guy because I thought he was so dreamy when I first met him) is the guy, but he really does have potential.

Jeez

Oh jeez, The Player is reaching out to me again.  How about, go away?  I never respond and he continues.  It would be much worse if I responded because he would be getting a reaction.  I think I am going to defriend him on Facebook and block his number.  I know how to defriend, blocking a number can't be that difficult...right?  If I ever run into him again, it's going to be funny.