I didn't want to start this again (back to Monday's post on that San Francisco Magazine article), but something is bothering me.
So, question (paraphrased) I asked one of my readers, TJ:
Why can't they (men who date/spoil hot young women and hot young women who only date successful older men) have a mutual
interest in and genuine feelings for one another?
I think we (as a whole, society, people, whatever) jump to conclusions too quickly and stick our noses where they don't belong. If they are happy, why should we concern ourselves and judge? I don't think we should. I'm not sure if you noticed this, but I usually take the less socially accepted stance on things because I try to make a conscious effort not to judge others (and frankly, I don't give a sh*t about what other people are doing as long as it's not hate crimes, gang wars, et al).
I think I'm about to get a sh*t storm of angry comments.
And I will paraphrase what I said in my response to you:
ReplyDeleteIt's great if mutual and genuine feelings of interest develop (like in an arranged marriage), but the bottom line is that it isn't initially the case for one party (i.e., the one being paid). Pretty Woman comes to mind, even though it's a cheesy movie.
I try not to judge, either, but let's call a spade a spade. Women are exchanging their time and company for cash beyond what a man would pay for a standard date. People can do what they want, it's just not how I roll. I wouldn't feel right about it.
But your question doesn't take into account the context of the original post and article, which was the idea of men paying women to go out with them. If two people are genuinely in love, I have no issue with it.
Thanks, TJ. Good point on the arranged marriages!
DeleteDifferent strokes for different folks
TJ, if two people are genuinely in love, why would one person need to be paid to go out? Remember how Julia Roberts felt when she realized her feelings but remembered she was being paid? She felt like crap.
DeleteI don't have an issue with these sugar baby arrangements, but they are in no way real relationships. They are not entered with the hopes of falling in love like arranged marriages are. Call it a business arrangement.
I think they can be real relationships. Maybe they start off as business, but it can turn into something. I compare it to the guy who is just looking for sex, "dates," then ends up marrying her. His goal was sex, but he fell for her
DeleteSabrina, I think you misunderstood me. AG was referring back to the blog post about women who get paid to date, and I was saying that if two people are genuinely in love then nobody would get paid. So I think we agree. Context was lost in this post, because the question didn't include the whole being paid context.
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