Saturday, February 28, 2015

Not Moving

I have a dinner date with a new guy tonight.  I've considered cancelling because he keeps wanting to move the date up.  Plans for dinner tonight have been set for a week.  Starting Tuesday or Wednesday, he's been sending me at least an email a day.  They've ranged from, "This week sucked" to "Can you meet up tomorrow?"  Why do guys try to move dates up?  I saw it as boredom and desperation.

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Tinder Marriage

I've heard of people getting married from Tinder.  No one I know personally, but here's an article that's been making the rounds. 

If you found your spouse on Tinder, leave a comment!  Where do you live?  How old are you?  How long have you been married?

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

The List

Have you ever heard of "The List?" Two sisters wrote a book telling women how to tell if a guy will propose. Things they said included:
• He’ll make the first move.
• He’ll call her within 24 to 48 hours to set up a first date.
• He’ll make the first date easy and fun.
• He’ll call her within 24 hours to set up subsequent dates.
• He’ll want to talk to her every day and want to spend all of his free time with her.
• He’ll demonstrate unconditional loyalty.
• He’ll talk about marrying her in concrete terms and he’ll propose—or will let her know his intentions.

Are there men out there who don't try to make a date easy and fun? Call within 24 hours to set up subsequent dates, not sure about this, usually guys ask right at the end of the first, don't they? What?!?! Want's to talk every day and spend ALL his free time with her sounds like a desperate guy with nothing to do.

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Dating Apps

Funny CNN video talking about the dating apps.  The thing that stuck out?  Many of those interviewed said they lost faith in humanity (or something along those lines) from using these apps.  I have met a lot of guys I normally wouldn't meet in my everyday life, maybe there's a reason for that because I've not wanted to see 99% of them again.

Friday, February 20, 2015

TechCrunch Crunchies

I went to the TechCrunch Crunchies award show a few weeks ago.  I can sum up the attendees as:
  1. TechCrunch and VentureBeat employees
  2. Big names in tech, some brought their bodyguards and dog - Marc Benioff, Travis Kalanick, Jim Goetz, Drew Houston, Elizabeth Holmes, et al
  3. People with startups - mostly guys
  4. Gals dressed like they were trying to find boyfriends or "working"
I saw three girls change in the bathroom and doing full hair and makeup.  Ladies, couple of things:
  1. The big names and very successful guys you might be trying to meet do not attend the 2,000+ person afterparty; they have their own, this year, it was sponsored by Yahoo
  2. Many of the very successful guys are already married

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

115 Years Old And Single

Saw this article about a lady who is almost 115 years old!  Didn't read the whole thing, but did see that one of the reasons she thinks she's lived this long is because she's been single most of her life.  I believe it!  She can happily do whatever she wants when she wants.  She doesn't have someone in her house to argue with, there's no reason to go to bed angry.  Bad moods are not transferred to her and so much more.

I have many married friends; it's about 5% happily married and 95% unhappily married.  This applies to both men and women.  Even the happily married ones have gripes, complaints, et al.  Many of them say if they ever got divorced, they'd NEVER get married again.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Empty Promises And Manipulation

I find it fascinating when guys think they'll get into my bed, get me to like them, get me to pursue them, et al through the use empty promises and manipulation.  If I was still 18, it may have worked; unfortunately, for them, I'm in my mid 30s and have almost seen and heard it all.

There's a guy who I've gone out with a handful of times.  He's been making a whole lot of empty promises - lavish vacations, fine dining, mansions, et al.  Does he actually think it's working?  Although I do believe he likes me more than the average female, I also think he really wants to get into my bed.

I used to like this guy as a friend and a person, before he started making these outlandish promises.  Now, I am very much unimpressed and stark raving mad.  He's trying to manipulate me!  I don't take kindly to attempts at manipulation.  He better watch the f*ck out.  Innocent until proven guilty?  What he hasn't done has already proven his guilt!

Sometimes, a guy can calm me down, it depends on the issue.  Let's see what he does and when; I don't think he'll just vanish into thin air.  I might be at the point of no return; I'm currently channeling a rabid dog.  I have two other guys pursuing me, one is working much harder than the other, but they are both doing better than this guy.

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Guys and Valentine's

Do guys actually care about Valentine's Day or do they just think a date on Valentine's means a better shot of getting laid?  I had over seven guys contact me over the past week wanting to take me out for Valentine's.

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day to those who care.  I am not one of them.  Never have, probably never will?  It feels so forced and awkward.   If you have a man, he should be wonderful every day of the year, not just today.

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Why Dating In San Francisco Is Different From The Rest Of The US

Anonymous shared this article about why dating in SF being different from anywhere else in the country.

I don't think the text communications is that different from the rest of the country.  I also haven't noticed relationships moving that quickly out here in San Francisco.  I have seen chivalry being extra dead, guys not picking up the tab, and there is no proper dating etiquette; I find all of these to be a huge problem.

If you are a guy and reading this, follow proper dating etiquette, be chivalrous, and pick up the tab; I can guarantee you will have much more success than your friends!

Monday, February 9, 2015

Homecoming Queen

As cute as this wedding announcement is, I don't think the homecoming queen would have gone out with the "shy nerd" if he wasn't rich and well bred (like herself).  Once again, I feel the angry comments coming my way.  Think about it this way, would someone with her pedigree and life experience marry an elementary school friend who ended up a McDonald's burger flipper?  I don't even need know her to know the answer, no.

Sunday, February 8, 2015

10 Signs He Just Wants To Have Sex With You

This might come in handy with Valentine's Day in a few days.  It's based on what my girl friends and I have experienced.  Some of these are very obvious!!

10 Signs He Just Wants To Have Sex With You - only accurate if you HAVEN'T already had sex with him!

  1. You just met once or haven't even met yet and he's given you a pet name or emailed/texted "sweet" messages - hi, honey; good morning, sugar; goodnight, baby; hey, hot stuff; what are you up to, sweetie; et al
  2. He calls you "hot" - pretty, beautiful, cute, gorgeous, and others are fine
  3. You just met and he's tries to touch you anywhere and everywhere - maybe he's even pretending to see if you are ticklish
  4. You just met and all he talks about is sex- specifically what it would be like to have sex with you
  5. He blatantly checks you out and isn't even embarrassed when you catch him - my eyes are up here 
  6. He blatantly checks out any woman who walks by - waitress, bartender, girl standing in the street, girl walking by the window, et al
  7. He asks to come into your apartment/house at the end of the first date - other ways of trying to get in:  he needs to charge his phone for a few minutes, he needs to use your bathroom, he has low blood sugar and needs a snack, he's too drunk, et al
  8. His idea of a date is inviting you over "to stay in and watch a movie"
  9. He only tries to schedule same day dates
  10. He vanishes after the third or fourth date

Friday, February 6, 2015

Pushiness, Lies, and Desperation

I remember going on a date with this guy towards the end of 2014.  I think I was trying to forget about the date, which is why I didn't write about it sooner?

He was in his 50s, looked much younger, and lied about his age.   Sure, he could get away with it, but it was a huge turn off.  The date was okay, we had dinner and a fair conversation.  I left thinking I wouldn't see him again.

Why?  He lied about his age. He complained about being laid off and his job search.  He didn't offer me a ride home even though he knew I was in a rush, his car was parked right outside the restaurant, and he knew I lived in the neighborhood.

That night, he emailed me to say he had a wonderful time and would like to do it again.  The next morning, he sent another email asking for my email address again, rather than communicate through the dating site.  I was thinking of a response, when he sent yet another email!  I got angrier with every passing email.  So pushy!

I could smell his desperation and desperation is not a good scent.  I replied telling him we are not a good match.  He replied saying he was disappointed and he'd like to be friends and maybe I could help him find a new job.  What?

  1. Lied about his age
  2. Didn't offer a ride
  3. Displayed many signs of desperation/pushy

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Acceptable Or A Reason To Break Up?

I've been giving this a lot of thought.  I firmly believe if you like someone, all their "issues" are acceptable.  If you don't like someone, all their "issues" are major flaws and reasons to break up.

So, when I find myself getting irritated at absolutely everything (I mean everything, he texts too much, he doesn't text enough, he's needy, he's too distant, he's too busy, he's not busy enough, et al), it means I don't like him enough to stick around.  And when I ignore major things that would normally be problematic, I like him.

This might seem pretty obvious to many of you, but really use it to save time, energy, et al.  When I hear a friend talking about how she doesn't like the way he holds a drink, I know it's time for her to move on, but she always stays with him for a few more months.  Why?  She knew months ago she didn't like him enough.

Monday, February 2, 2015

Don't Listen To This Guy!

Don't listen to this guy!  He wrote a book on how women can get the guy they want.  His "advice" includes:
  1. Sleep with him on the first date
  2. Pay for dates
  3. Call him
Hogwash!  I used to be friends with a woman who would do these things.  What did she get?  A lot of guys treating her like sh*t.

This is the perfect recipe for marrying a man who will undoubtedly do at least one of the following:  cheat on you, treat you like sh*t, and divorce you if you are lucky.

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Super Bowl Sunday

It's Super Bowl Sunday.  Saw this article about not cheering against your significant others team.  I agree.  If you really want the other team to win because it's "your team," fine.  However, if you are just doing it to do it, don't; it causes unnecessary ill will and conflict.