Saturday, April 25, 2015

Pinpoint

I've been trying to pinpoint why I suddenly lost interest in the New Leaf/Last Chance Guy and I think it boils down to three things;
  1. He spent our entire last dinner date talking about work.  He could have talked to a wall and it probably would've been just as nice of an experience for him
  2. I think he's been doing and saying everything he thinks is "right" to get into my pants (no, we have not had sex) and him showing a lack of interest in my day/life/week/whatever became very apparent on the last date
  3. He's coasting because he thinks he has me where he wants me and all effort appears to be out the window I am going to phase myself out
What now?  I am going be unavailable because I want to see if any positive feelings towards him reemerge (this could really be related to hormones and I could be overreacting).
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  1. TJApril 27, 2015 at 9:07 AM

    I think that makes sense. Go with your gut and see if he steps up. Funny, because I was just telling someone how the last few guys I dated seemed to just say/do what they needed to in order to get what they wanted.

    I'm seriously at the point of wanting to ask guys, even before the first date, what their intentions are, because I'm sick of wasting time.

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    1. Adventuresaurus GirlApril 27, 2015 at 7:36 PM

      I think guys have had lots of practice learning the right things to say/do. Hmm, I thought you were happy with the latest guy?

      If you ask a guy up front, he'll lie! Actions speak louder than words

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    2. AnonymousApril 27, 2015 at 9:44 PM

      I absolutely agree with TJ. I'm sick of guys stringing me along and when the time for commitment comes, they say they are not ready for any commitment. I thought it was me at first, but I'm beginning to see a pattern with all these guys who think they will be young forever.

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    3. Adventuresaurus GirlApril 28, 2015 at 12:20 AM

      I've found that the longer a lady holds off sex, the more leverage she has. He'll either go away because he didn't get what he wants or he'll wrack his brain trying to get you to be his...

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  2. TJApril 29, 2015 at 9:13 AM

    AG, last guy ended up being a dud. I was trying to force a connection that wasn't there, because he seemed good on paper. In addition, he was married to his school work and it made him forget/miss things, which is a huge pet peeve of mine. If you're into me, you'll be sure to remember shit!

    Actions do speak louder than words, and withholding sex is an interesting strategy. I'm torn on that idea. It's gone both ways for me. I do think holding off for a few dates is beneficial, regardless.

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    1. Adventuresaurus GirlApril 29, 2015 at 5:00 PM

      Sorry about the last guy, TJ. That sucks, I've totally tried to make the good on paper guy work too. Hey, there are other fish in the sea! It's always fun to take a break too!

      I see it as less withholding and more of I don't know if I am interested in him enough to have sex with him. Usually, guys are on their best behavior the first few dates, and then unsavory things come out... I'd like like to see the unsavory before I agree to let him...

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  3. AnonymousApril 29, 2015 at 9:42 AM

    Definitely. Perhaps wait a month or 2?

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    1. Adventuresaurus GirlApril 29, 2015 at 5:02 PM

      I don't have a time frame, it's more of how well do I think I know him? Usually, the more I know someone, the more I lose interest because it turns out that I liked the idea of him, not him. Or, he got sh*tfaced and started a bar fight, et al

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