Wednesday, February 15, 2017

More Of A Friend?

That Saturday night date was good.  We had a lot in common.  We had a lot to talk about.  He was sociable and aware of social cues.  Unfortunately, I don't know if there's a spark.  I think I see him as more of a friend?  If he asks me out again, I'll go.

He's been texting me, but hasn't asked me on another date.  I don't consider a date an actual date unless there is a time, place, and day.  He's been throwing out ideas of things for us to do.  I've agreed to the ideas, but there aren't proposed times or days, which makes me think he might not be that sincere or interested. 

Let's see if a second date actually gets scheduled.  If it does, fine.  If it doesn't, fine.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Feeling Pretty Good

I have a date tonight and I'm actually feeling pretty good about it.  He hasn't sent me one pointless text!  That's so great!!  His texts were very direct and he asked me out in his second text.  The rest of the texts were date logistics like time, place, day.  I like it when guys are to the point.  None of this "How was your weekend," "Hi," "What was your last vacation," et al texts.

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

No Longer Much Of A Crush

My new crush is no longer much of a crush.  We've been texting a little here and there.  I'd say he's not interested enough, I'm not interested enough, or both.  If either of us were that interested, we'd be finding a way to be in the same zip code, not exchanging pointless texts.  There's no point in saying "Hi" from time to time.  Even though we met in person and not online, I really hate "Hi" texts

He's getting the irrelevant treatment (part of my dating and relationship resolutions).  I have NO plans of replying to his next text (if he even sends one) unless it's a "Hey, I'm going to be in town, let's have dinner" type of message.

Friday, February 3, 2017

Five Dating And Relationship Resolutions

Currently, I have five dating and relationship resolutions.  I might add more later.  These are the ones that are most important for me right now.

  1. Be more present.  I can't change the past and I can't predict the future.  Why waste time and energy thinking about either one?
  2. Accept things as they are, not how I think they should be or how I'd like them to be
  3. Stop giving guys the benefit of the doubt and cancel when I have a sneaking suspicion the date will be terrible.  I can't remember a time where I wanted to cancel, went, and it turned out to be great.  (If you read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell, he basically says you become an expert at something once you do it for over 10,000 hours.  I know I've had more than 10,000 hours of going on dates, analyzing texts, emails, and conversations, and talking about men, dating, and relationships.)
  4. Treat a guy with the utmost level of irrelevancy until he gives me reasons to make him relevant in my life.  I will not spend more than one minute talking about guys with my friends before or after a date.  I will not play the "what if" game.  I will not let guys who don't get the hint annoy me.  Et al.
  5. Not take things on my calendar so seriously.  For example, one of my girlfriends keeps asking me to lunch and rescheduling.  Going forward, I'll leave it penciled in on my calendar, but if that day and time rolls around and I'd rather do something else, I'm canceling and doing that something else

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Aziz Ansari's Book

I finished that book by Aziz Ansari, Modern Romance.  What I believe to be the main points:
  1. Hi, Hey, Heyyyy, et al don't work (what I've always said)
  2. Meet as soon as possible (agree)
  3. Too many choices makes it harder to choose (I've talked about this before)
  4. Treat people as people, not just pictures on a screen
  5. Go on an interesting date, not the standard drinks, movie, or meal
  6. Don't snoop 
I agree with five of these.  I'd like to agree with all six, but I'm not sure about #5.  If I were to agree to go on "an interesting date," which lasted longer than a standard date, and he turned out to be a bust, I would not be happy.  The risk seems a bit too high with that one.

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Happy Lunar New Year!

Happy Lunar New Year!  Second chance to make and follow some New Year's resolutions.  But really, why wait for New Year's to do this?  It can be done year round...  I had some in my head, but I think I've already forgotten half of them.  Time to start writing them down.  I'll post a few of them on here (at least the dating and relationship oriented ones).

Thursday, January 26, 2017

A Bit Confused

That bad date guy sent me a text to ask me out for a second date. Since I've already turned him down in person by saying, "We aren't a good match," I won't be replying. I left absolutely no room for interpretation. I was a bit confused when I got his text (or perhaps bewildered is a better description).