Sunday, September 17, 2017

That's Not What I Want

I went out with a guy I met online a few weeks ago.  He seemed like a nice guy in person.  I tried very hard to get past his height.  He's much shorter than 5 feet and I'm shorter than the US women's average of 5'5".  We had a nice dinner and he asked me out again.  I agreed because I really wanted to give him a chance and get past his lack of height.

Days leading to the second date, he was texting me.  Then the texts took a turn, for example, "Let's go back to your place after dinner so we can have some private time."  I told him no and cancelled the second date.  To me, he's a guy who's just trying to get laid, and that's not what I want.  I do like that he was upfront about it because it saved me a lot of time.

Saturday, September 16, 2017

A Month Or So Ago

Let's go back a month or so ago.  The guy I ran into at the airport texted me, a lot.  He's asked me out to lunch and we went.  He's a nice guy who I see at work every now and then.  I don't consider himself to be a long term prospect because he just got out of a serious relationship, has some young kids/baby mama drama from a different woman, and I'm not sure I find him attractive.  I don't find him unattractive, but that's not a great vote of confidence.  If anything, he'll be a work friend?  I wouldn't mind being his work friend, but from that lunch we had together, it seems like he's interested in more.

Monday, July 31, 2017

Back From Vacation

I'm back from my long vacation where I visited four countries in Europe.  I'm glad I had the opportunity to see new places, spend time with friends, and clear my mind. 

I told myself I'd be more open to dating and meeting new people after this trip.  Well, as soon as I landed in the US, one guy from the past (we never moved passed talking) sent me a message, and another I've worked with in the past asked for my number (we ran into each other at the airport).  I don't think either of them will go anywhere, but I will say that I will try to enjoy the process of spending time with them (should it get to that point) rather than dreading the whole dating thing.

Monday, June 12, 2017

Long Vacation

I still hear from the Ex Guy and I'm still not really talking about it because there's nothing to talk about.  I've asked myself a new question though.  Even if he did fix whatever needed to be fixed, would I even want him?  I don't think so.  The good times were so good and the bad times were so bad.

My focus has not been on dating for the last month.  I've been working on trip planning.  I am going on a long vacation this summer.  We'll visit three countries (at minimum) in Europe.  I think I usually take a vacation from dating over the summer?  It sorta seems like most of this year...

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Not Yet

A few of my guy friends have gotten engaged recently.  I find myself thing, no thanks, not yet.  I'm not at that place.  Maybe if I met the right guy, I'd be at that place?  I'm not looking for the right guy right now though.  I'm not looking for any guy. 

I feel like there are a lot of things I need to take care of before I find the right guy.  For example, more travels with girlfriends I know I'll have a blast with.

Monday, May 1, 2017

Weekend In Paris

I was in Paris over the weekend with two girlfriends.  Well, a girlfriend and her friend.  I'm never traveling with her friend again.  Paris was beautiful and cold.  It was my first time there.  Most of my past big trips have been with men I've dated, guy friends, male family members; and, they've taken charge of the planning, transportation, dining, et al.

From this trip, all three of us learned that we don't need a guy to go on a big trip.  We can get around on our own just fine.  I had much more fun traveling with this girlfriend than any guy I've dated.

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Asking Myself Some Questions

Instead of thinking about men, dating, and relationships, I've been putting my energy into asking myself some questions.
  1. If I didn't have to work for money and could do anything I want, what would it be and why?  
  2. If I could live anywhere in the world, where would I live and why?  
  3. If I could visit anywhere in the world, where would I go an why?
I think these are good soul searching questions for anyone who feels a little bored, confused, or just blah.

I'm sprucing up my apartment while I work on these questions.  I also bought new luggage so I have one less excuse as to why I'm not traveling the world.  I've noticed many people make excuses to themselves.  I'm one of them and I'm working to change that.  When I tell myself some kind of excuse, I've been asking myself, what am I avoiding or why is that my current thinking?  For example, I can't travel the world because I don't have an international sized carry on.  Now that I've bought one, I find myself saying, I can't go anywhere because it's hard to line up schedules with friends.  Well, why can't I go alone?  Of course, I can.