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Wednesday, April 15, 2015
Wrong
When I meet a married man and he talks about his wife and kids, I think that's a very clear sign that he's not coming on to me because he's talking about his wife and kids. Am I wrong?
Yes. I had an affair with the guy who always talked about his family and had a new baby... It's all in the past but im still tortured about it. There is another guy friend to came on to me really strong at one point in spite of us constantly talking about our families and kids. Another guy a new at work used to always talked lovingly about his wife and three kids. Just recently divorced his wife and remarried his long-time lover before which he had a string of other mistresses. I found this out from his ex friend who gave up on the friendship due to his constant philandering. In my eyes, he was a perfect family man. Total lie.
Um... I was (and am) married at that time as well, and there was no talk about leaving the respecting spouses. I'm just saying: while we had communicated before the affair started, he was always mentioning his wife and a baby. Still, the chemistry was undeniable, he kissed me when the opportunity presented it-self, and it all went from there. Thanks for asking - this is a deeply kept secret and I never talk to anyone about it.
Thanks for sharing, really appreciate it! I've always wondered how it works. I know it's different in every scenario and have heard a lot about the topic. If I am prying, totally understand if you don't want to answer. How long did the affair last and what were your age ranges at the time?
Yes, I'm very happy in my marriage, and was happy at the time of the affair. I don't know what's gotten into me... I had just never felt such desire for a person, not even for my husband whom I love very much and who's very attractive. The affair lasted for about a year and he was significantly older - I was in my early 30s and he was in his late 40s. May be I was bored, sexually, and the guy was so crazy about me, it was really hard to break off... But I did and was so happy about it and still am. This moral stain will never go away but I've learned to forgive my-self. I KNOW I will never do this again to the one I love.
Yes. I had an affair with the guy who always talked about his family and had a new baby... It's all in the past but im still tortured about it. There is another guy friend to came on to me really strong at one point in spite of us constantly talking about our families and kids. Another guy a new at work used to always talked lovingly about his wife and three kids. Just recently divorced his wife and remarried his long-time lover before which he had a string of other mistresses. I found this out from his ex friend who gave up on the friendship due to his constant philandering. In my eyes, he was a perfect family man. Total lie.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing! Did he ever hint that he'd leave his wife for you? Or was he honest that he was going to stay with his wife?
DeleteUm... I was (and am) married at that time as well, and there was no talk about leaving the respecting spouses. I'm just saying: while we had communicated before the affair started, he was always mentioning his wife and a baby. Still, the chemistry was undeniable, he kissed me when the opportunity presented it-self, and it all went from there. Thanks for asking - this is a deeply kept secret and I never talk to anyone about it.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing, really appreciate it! I've always wondered how it works. I know it's different in every scenario and have heard a lot about the topic. If I am prying, totally understand if you don't want to answer. How long did the affair last and what were your age ranges at the time?
Deleteare you happy in your marriage?
ReplyDeleteYes, I'm very happy in my marriage, and was happy at the time of the affair. I don't know what's gotten into me... I had just never felt such desire for a person, not even for my husband whom I love very much and who's very attractive. The affair lasted for about a year and he was significantly older - I was in my early 30s and he was in his late 40s. May be I was bored, sexually, and the guy was so crazy about me, it was really hard to break off... But I did and was so happy about it and still am. This moral stain will never go away but I've learned to forgive my-self. I KNOW I will never do this again to the one I love.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing the details! I always thought men and women who cheated were unhappy in their marriages, boy, I'm wrong
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