Article On Infidelity

I skimmed this article on infidelity.

That Was Flattering

So, that was flattering.  I went to Palo Alto yesterday.  While I was on the platform waiting for the train to go back to SF, a very young guy (maybe 20?) kept checking me out and smiling at me.  He rushed onto the train behind me and sat across from me.  Then he started chatting.  When I got off the train in SF, he ran to catch up with me and practically walked to Union Square with me.

Another Date, Different Guy

I went on another date tonight, different guy from the five strikes guy.  There was absolutely no chemistry, but the date itself (two people meeting each other to chit chat) was okay.  We chatted, had some laughs, and ate some food.  He did not grill me or force me to agree with his viewpoints, huge improvement from that other guy last week.

More Than 50% Single

Saw this article, so, seems like more than 50% of us are single.

Low Social EQ/IQ?

I don't remember...low social EQ or IQ?  Whatever, that five strike guy I went out with has it.  He emailed me to ask me out again.  Something about taking a ten hour day trip together (not even kidding, wish I was).  This means, he truly had no idea I was 100% disinterested and didn't realize I was counting the seconds on our one hour and four minute date.

I responded with a nice email saying we aren't a good fit because I don't think he was trying to be a jerk; I think that's just how he is (think Sheldon on The Big Bang Theory).

FIVE Strikes

FIVE strikes.  The guy who called me for a date and I wasn't that too into his looks contacted me about 60 minutes before we were supposed to meet to ask where and what time we were meeting.  These are things we had already discussed a few days beforehand, strike #1.  Strike #2, 20+ minutes late even though I gave him the option to meet later. He insisted he could make it at the time we had initially agreed upon. So, he'd rather waste my time than push back the date, right.

Strike #3, talked about work the entire time (and in great detail, he is a tech person, I am not and didn't understand a thing he was talking about; he didn't seem to care, even when I tried to change the subject several times).  Like a bull in a china shop, he was super loud, spit while talking, etc.  Strike #4, talked about how great marathons are and was trying to convince me that I'm "wrong" for not being interested in marathons.  He even went as far as to suggest I'm "wrong" for never having done a marathon.  He brought up how I should try a marathon about 10 times, talk about a broken f*cking record.

Strike #5, I made it abundantly clear the date was over, yet he kept talking and trying to extend it.  Oh yeah, he also called me "disorganized" because I wouldn't disclose what I was going to do over the weekend.

His personality reminds me of Smart Guy with the whole having to be the smartest guy in the world thing.

Before the date, I didn't know this guy was a computer engineer.  Now I do.  I'm not saying all computer engineers are like this, but what I am saying is ALL of the computer engineers I've gone out with think others are "wrong" if they have different opinions.

Talking To Strangers

I skimmed this article about talking to strangers.  I think the key takeaway was most people aren't friendly?  Remember, I skimmed this...

Sure, I Guess

I agreed to go out with a guy with whom I've exchanged a few emails a couple of weeks ago (I haven't logged into that site for weeks).  I don't remember anything about him, but he asked nicely (over the phone), so I said yes.

Cute And Married

A lot of my girlfriends in SF have been asking me about the guys at Disrupt.  It was 85%+ guys and yes most were focused on getting funding, making contacts, etc.  As one can guess, there were a lot of malnourished looking guys (skinny, lanky, short, etc) and some buff looking guys.  And there were some cute guys, but they were married.

What A Shame!!

Even though I was at TechCrunch Disrupt SF 2014 to network, ended up meeting a cool guy on the last day (yesterday). What a shame, he lives in SoCal. He was cute, a tall drink of water (lol), smart, and knew how to flirt/hold a conversation (ie make light conversation while getting information vs interview style grilling). This might be the first guy I've been excited about since I moved here six years ago...and he doesn't live in SF.  He asked for my contact info several times and wants to keep in touch, we all know how that goes...

TechCrunch Disrupt SF 2014

Yup, I've been attending TechCrunch Disrupt SF 2014.  Yup, I've been dissed by another programmer trying to make conversation with me.  He said something along the lines of, "What do you mean you don't know how to program?!?!"  I'd like to know how to program, and on his end, I guess I would sum it up by saying, what an ignorant tool.  Once again, it's the non intentional rudeness thing, like this guy.

Day two today :/

Oh God

Oh God, I watched the first three episodes of Bravo's The Single Project. On the bright side, this proves I haven't met the most obnoxious men or women in the world.  LOL

4 Horsemen Of Doom

I remember hearing about the 4 horsemen for relationships in a sociology class many years ago.  I agree with them (just think back to when you or your partner exhibited any of these things and what happened).  The 4 horsemen:

1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Defensiveness
4. Stonewalling

I am a stonewaller, I'm sure this is of no surprise to anyone, lol.

That Was So NY!

That was so NY and it was great! A guy working at the doctor's office flirted with me.  And, it wasn't creepy!  He was really nice, joked around, and said he hoped he'd see me at the corner bar at 5pm.  In my 6+ years in SF, I've only met one or two guys who know how to flirt, yeah, scary.

Happy Labor Day

Happy Labor Day 

Saw this article, it looks really time consuming, nope, wouldn't do it.