Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Old
A good friend of mine was in town over the weekend. We were joking around about getting old...being tired, not being able to deal with loud bars, needing naps, etc. Where can I meet a guy that doesn't frequent the nightclub scene and enjoys going to bed before 1am? Extra points if he drinks fewer than four times a month, yes, I said month.
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Wow, I feel the SAME way. It seems like every guy I meet in SF still likes to drink almost daily and stay out late. What happened to the men who like to chill, hang out on the couch, and watch a movie? Do they all have to sky dive during the day and drink until 1 AM?
ReplyDeleteFrustrated!
Love chill sober nights!
DeleteI like the active types, but that's because I'm similar! I just need to find a guy who loves going out (but dive bars, NOT clubs), hiking, camping, traveling, and has his sh*t together.
ReplyDeleteThe outdoorsy guy is definitely in SF
DeleteHe sure is! Just have to find the one who has his act together. I don't mind if you're a lush (I am too), but I still also behave professionally at work, pay my bills on time, volunteer, and exercise.
DeleteAlright Sabrina, I think we should go out as a team and meet some guys. I was reading that the quality guys (the ones who have their sht together) tend to be out more for stuff during the day, happy hours, and industry events, no so much the Fri/Sat night guys
DeleteHey, I have a friend who's trying to launch a new social/dating site called HelpCute.com. They match you up based on your profile, but instead of having you go try to hookup while your out on a friday, or send you on a dream date, you're supposed to help each other out-like you would say you need help moving your couch, and a guy would respond. They're looking for beta testers. I think they're hoping to combat this issue of only meeting people when drunk/who want to be drunk.
ReplyDeleteThese guys you ladies are describing exist. It's just missed connections I guess. Some people enjoy outdoor activities or chilling at home but those things don't define them. So sometimes it isn't apparent from an OKC profile or even from a casual chat at a party.
ReplyDeleteThese things really are just the shell that surrounds the all important gooey center of a compatible personality. If you meet someone that you really get along with, you'll both want to get into each others interests.
I learned this from my last relationship where I ended up watching way more reality TV than I ever would have done.....which is zero. But I did it because I loved spending time with her.
Wow, sorry about the reality tv, J. I also don't watch reality tv.
DeleteI would say similar interests is part of the compatibility formula, am I totally wrong? If a guy's top three interests were: drinking, running marathons, and watching reality tv; for me, it would not be a match worth pursuing
Bah, it's OK...I considered it quality time. :)
DeleteI wouldn't say you're wrong. It's just how you view things. Me? I've never put much weight in a person's interest as to let it affect whether I'll date them. Find out if you like their personality first. If you do, then start fleshing things out in regards to shared interests. Otherwise I would feel like I'm leaving too many opportunities behind.
But that's me. Not saying it's right or wrong. It's just right for me is all.
Great point J!
DeleteI think when dating, or on dating profiles, people tend to tell you what they actively like to do, as opposed to the homebody routine. Many women like and expect to be wined, dined, and impressed by a guys "dating resume" if you will, so I think many feel that pressure to show that. I am not surprised anymore at the lack of homebodies. I have come to realize we're still young, we should party like rockstars while we still can, right?! Granted, there's a time and place for it.
Lol, my rock star days are over. Glad you are having a great time!
Deletej, my best friend got me (and her husband) hooked to reality TV. He makes that sacrifice for her because secretly, it's not a sacrifice :)
DeleteI do not think people need to have similar interests for a relationship to work. It's more about having similar values: drugs/no drugs; alcohol use; wanting kids; if they are religious; education. I think it's more important to understand the other person's interests and respect them. In the end, these things matter more when raising children and having a family.
ReplyDeleteThe older I get, the more importance I place on interests. I didn't use to think interests were all that important, but a lot of resentment can build when you cater to your partner...you find yourself running marathons and being at the club til 2 am.
DeleteValues are definitely important too, but interests might be underestimated
I wholeheartdely disagree. Difference in interests has broken up more than one of my relationships. It's really important to a lot of people.
DeleteYeah, interests are an integral part to day to day life and how time is spent
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