Sunday, February 22, 2015

Dating Apps

Funny CNN video talking about the dating apps.  The thing that stuck out?  Many of those interviewed said they lost faith in humanity (or something along those lines) from using these apps.  I have met a lot of guys I normally wouldn't meet in my everyday life, maybe there's a reason for that because I've not wanted to see 99% of them again.

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  1. That video was kind of depressing in a funny way. My ex-roommate just married someone she met on OKC, but my experiences have left me with a bad taste in my mouth (I'll let you decided if I mean that literally). The dating apps, especially those like Tinder, foster this attitude that everything is casual and people are disposable. A few weeks ago I had plans with a guy from Tinder, on a Friday, for which I turned down several other options. He bailed on me less than 2 hours before we were supposed to meet. Would the same thing have happened if I'd met him at a bar instead of through Tinder? Who knows. It's the whole chicken/egg thing.

    I'm currently dating someone I technically met through OKC, though we have several mutual friends and have likely met before and would have met eventually through common events. So it doesn't feel quite the same. We'll see how THAT goes...

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    1. Hi TJ, glad you found someone. Good to know it was through OkC, I like knowing where people meet, LOL.

      Sorry about that Tinder guy, 2 hours before is very rude. Did he have a "good excuse?" Very very sick, apartment flood, et al...

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    2. AG, his excuse was something like "I'm tired, can we have a rain check?" Needless to say I deleted him immediately and didn't respond.

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    3. Has he contacted you since? How old was he? I'd expect this from guys in their 20s, not 30+

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    4. He has not. I believe he is 32? But, as you know, men in their 30s around here act like they're in their 20s, those in their 40s act like they're in their 30s, etc. Which is why I think you came to the very good conclusion that dating an older man is better.

      But I actually came back here to tell you that the OKC guy I'm dating is someone who kind of blew me off at first - and I basically told him "Best of luck" and crossed him off the list. He resurfaced a month later and I decided to give him another chance because I WAS STILL SINGLE and I liked his profile. Boy am I glad I did!

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    5. Older men just seem to know how to be gentleman, maybe from years of other methods not working, LOL

      How long have you and new guy been dating?

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    6. Yeah maybe those older men finally figured it out. Hmm, I think it's been a month? Not sure - I'm bad at tracking that stuff. But I'm getting the +1 wedding invites now, which of course scares the hell out of me.

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    7. AG: Read this blog post! Made me think of you and the whole "older man who has his shit together" idea.

      http://desperatesarah.blogspot.com/2013/05/act-like-lady-think-like-man.html

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  2. would you date a guy who smokes weed? i'm dealing with that issue right now. Met this guy who is great and we get along well, except that he smokes weed to the point where he got a medical mj card. It's hard for me because I don't do that stuff.

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    1. It depends, is he still able to do things you'd want a guy to do? Or, is he the guy who never gets off the couch?

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    2. He does and is a functioning weed user. He makes a lot less than I do so I wonder if things got serious he would get lazy

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    3. LOL, for me, the issue would be his paycheck, not his weed. I believe the guy should always make more than the girl because I've seen bad cases of resentment

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  3. I've been to a number of a weddings where the couple met online - 2 were OkCupid, one was Match (but they met 8 years ago), and one was Craigslist personals (for real!). Both of the OkC couples met in SF.

    I don't think that meeting online hinders a relationship's success, it's just as random as meeting in a bar or in a class.

    I also have two friends going strong (1 year +) who both met their boyfriends on Tinder.

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    1. Thanks, Sabrina, good to hear! Wow, Craigslist??? Are your Tinder friends younger?

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    2. Nope, 29 and 33. Both their boyfriends are the same age.

      And actually, I just realized my friend who is 35 met her boyfriend of 6 months on Tinder too.

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  4. I don't get the stuff about resentment if your wife makes higher salary. Isn't her gain is your gain? It's like being jealous of a sibling. I would be happy and proud if someone I love is doing great things.

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    1. Men making more money is a masculinity thing

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