Ladies, is this just me or pretty normal?
I get very bored, very fast when I think a guy is trying to keep me "on the hook." This is usually the guy who stays in pretty good contact via texts, calls, emails, smoke signals, et al, talks about doing things in the future without specifying a day, and you don't actually go on dates.
I think there is a guy trying to keep me "on the hook" and I'm bored. If he really wanted to, he might be able to turn it around? I don't know. Would a grand gesture help?
Do you ever call these guys out on it? Like tell them texting is great but you've forgotten what they look like or something? I've lost patience for that crap, so I pretty much call 'em out, suggest we get together, and see what happens.
ReplyDeleteI usually move on without calling them out because I am bored. How are things going with you?
DeleteThey're going well! Still dating the guy who at first blew me off on OKC and going on a date with another one tomorrow (if he doesn't stand me up, haha). If tomorrow's date doesn't go well, I'll likely disable my accounts and focus on the current dude. :)
DeleteGlad things are going well!
DeleteAG: Did you see this? Thought you'd get a kick out of it:
Deletehttp://www.thebolditalic.com/articles/7089-i-hate-the-person-who-wrote-this-cl-ad-and-you-should-too
Makes me think of Jareth from Labyrinth. :)
Also, you may like to know that OKC date for tonight pretty much canceled. A "lecture" for a tech bootcamp course got scheduled for tonight, so he won't be available until 8:45 p.m. That's too late for this (FiDi) working girl. I told him they must be grooming him to become a tech bro SF flake. He took it all in stride, so I may give him another chance. ;) But makes me mad that he found out YESTERDAY and didn't bother telling me until this morning -- after I'd done hair and makeup and dressed nicer than usual in anticipation. Good thing I have backup plans!
Hi, TJ, thanks! LOL, Sabrina sent me the same thing yesterday. I wonder how many serious responses he got.
DeleteSorry about the OKC cancellation. Did he tell you why he didn't tell you about it yesterday? That is totally annoying! Have fun with your backup plans!
That's actually what my boyfriend used to do and I was very close to just calling things off. Admittedly I was also dating another guy (who I liked more) and we weren't an 'official item' since we hadn't had 'the conversation' at that point in time. The one day, after I said "We need to talk", he picked up his game, just when the other guy showed his 'true colours'.
ReplyDeleteSo this does happen a lot! Things are all good with the boyfriend now?
DeleteYep, things are good now. And when I asked him about it. He said I seemed "to cool" so equally he backed off as he thought I wasn't interested...
DeleteThanks!
DeleteA good girlfriend of mine is going through something similar. This guy is a lot of talk (including about future things) but NO action. Lots of texting and emails, but no follow through. They've gone out 4-5 times and text a TON, but she has to initiate all their real life meetings. I advised her to stop taking the bait.
ReplyDeleteI agree, she should stop talking to him. Same with the guy I mentioned, if they were that interested, they would be asking us out, not emailing, texting, whatever
Deletewow, I'm going through the same thing. He keeps in touch, yet no plan on hanging out. I AM SO SICK OF THESE MEN
ReplyDeleteSorry it's also happening to you! Think we have to move on from these guys who are "keeping us on the hook"
Deletehow about if you like the guy and there is NOTHING else out there or going on
ReplyDeleteWe are literally going through the same thing! I keep telling myself that I shouldn't waste my time and thoughts on someone who isn't wasting his time and thoughts on me.
DeleteI want the guy who is very interested me, not some guy who is keeping me on the back burner for when his first, second, or whatever choice falls through. Think you do too?