Saw this article about a lady who is almost 115 years old! Didn't read the whole thing, but did see that one of the reasons she thinks she's lived this long is because she's been single most of her life. I believe it! She can happily do whatever she wants when she wants. She doesn't have someone in her house to argue with, there's no reason to go to bed angry. Bad moods are not transferred to her and so much more.
I have many married friends; it's about 5% happily married and 95% unhappily married. This applies to both men and women. Even the happily married ones have gripes, complaints, et al. Many of them say if they ever got divorced, they'd NEVER get married again.
No one can make you happy. You have to find happiness within yourself.
ReplyDeleteYes, but others can make you unhappy!
DeleteSeems a bit dramatic that only 5% of your friends are happily married. Why did they even bother?
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DeleteI'm divorced. I'll never get married again.
ReplyDeleteThanks, sorry, how long were you married and how old are you?
Delete14 years, got married at 30. Much happier not married.
DeleteThank you for sharing with us!
DeleteThis is so weird when I hear people saying this. I'm not discounting their reality, but I know way more happy married couples than unhappy. I am so much happier married. You do, however, have to pick the right person and I think a lot of people dont, they focus on the "achievement " of being married instead.
ReplyDeleteIt's so weird hearing you say this, LOL. Not saying that you aren't perfectly happy being married. Maybe these two camps of happily married versus happily single can be oversimplified into: A) people who cannot live without the company of others and B) people who can?
DeleteThe vast majority of my married friends are happily married, I'd be shocked if more than 5% were unhappy. It doesn't mean they don't have their ups and downs, but that's any relationship. I even have one divorced friend who looks back at her marriage fondly, even if it didn't work out.
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