Yeah, I went to the kickstarter/Dating Ring/fly out NY women to meet SF men party and may have just confirmed that I really do need to move out of San Francisco if I ever want to get married.
There were a lot of guys. A couple of guys confused me because I thought it was a party for heterosexuals, but maybe it wasn't? Saw two guys having an awesome time on the dance floor, lifting their shirts up, and rubbing their stomachs up against each other. I have no problem with gay guys, I love gay guys. However, I have a sneaking suspicion that they weren't gay, and rubbing stomachs was just something they wanted to do because they thought it was funny. It might have been funny for them, but probably made some of the ladies rule them out.
I started conversations with men and women because I was bored and it was crowded. Kinda awkward not to talk to someone when their face is about 10 inches from yours. Found it interesting that one guy talked about how great he is and how he's dated "so many women," but none of them have measured up. Yes, this is the topic he brought up at a party.
Gave one guy my number because he seemed nice and wanted to go out sometime; if he calls, I will go. He's not my standard type in terms of looks, but I'll give him a chance. One guy invited me to a party which will be happening in a couple of weeks. Got two cards for business networking purposes.
If I'm being honest, I'd never touch things like this with a 10ft pole. It goes into the bin of "trying too hard". I don't besmirch you for trying this stuff out. But if I found myself being able to justify attending something like this I'd have a self intervention and maybe step back from dating for a while. But who knows, maybe it's a completely different scene that I just don't get.
ReplyDeleteI don't like being all new age-y but sometimes I feel like if I just relax, shit will take care of itself. It's all about preparation right? If you prepare yourself to succeed so that you are in a position to take advantage of any situation that may come by, chances are that it will eventually happen.
So maybe it's the same for dating. Get your head in the right space and then when that right person comes along, you are ready to make it happen. I know I've come across a couple of really cool girls and one of us just wasn't there yet and things didn't happen.
I had to go check it out. I felt like one of those animal behaviorists you see on the Discovery Channel, it was great! Went in with the expectation that I wouldn't meet anyone and that it'd be like watching a train wreck.
DeleteI think you are totally right about being in the right space, for dating, think the right space is being happy with every aspect of your life (job, living situation, friends, etc). I've found a good place (mentally) and will probably give SF another shot. It also helps when I hear of women flying across the country from NY to meet men.
Happy Memorial Day!
Haha, it was your own personal zoo lol.
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