Friday, May 6, 2016

Not To Run

When things are going well, I'm not sure I want to continue.  When things aren't going well, I want them to continue.  Do I scare easily?  Perhaps.  Do I like the challenge?  Perhaps.  Do I like fantasy more than reality?  Perhaps.  Things are going well with that guy and I'm reminding myself that's what I wanted and not to run.

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  1. I get this. Things are going so well in my current relationship, that I'm constantly looking for reasons to get mad/pick a fight or wondering when the other shoe will drop. Not used to things being easy. It's a nice change, for once, so I'd recommend rolling with it, as long as your feelings are rooted in what you mentioned and not disinterest in the person.

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  2. Allow me to start the comments going with: You are awesome
    I was a dating fiend back when I was single. No, I wasn’t leading anyone on … but I dated a lot, mostly “one and done.” When I met them face to face I decided that they weren’t for me for one reason or another.
    That said, I did (in my head) institute a rule about using dating sites past a certain point. If I had three dates with a woman and was interested in a fourth I stopped reviewing dating sites or dating other people until it either worked out or blew up in my face. My thought was that there’s always going to be someone out there who is smarter, hotter, lives closer, is cooler than the woman I’m dating. It doesn’t mean that they’re BETTER than the woman I’m dating, I would just be fixating on possibly the only thing that the new woman had that the current woman I’m dating had. And that ends up with a high on your first date until you realized that you tossed away a whole lot of awesome to get that one better trait.
    I didn’t start having “exclusivity” conversations or anything like that. Just at the end of the third date I would put all of my attention into that one person and not go out with anyone else or view dating sites.
    It worked for me — but it’s not for everyone.
    And I won’t speak for the rest of your readers… but I am really excited for that day when you post that you’ve met the most amazing guy ever. (My wife might disagree with you … but we’ll both be very very happy for you.)
    http://flirtingwithher.com/top-10-topics-to-talk-about-with-a-girl/

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    1. With the internet, I think there's a big problem with daters thinking there is an unlimited supple of singles for them. Great that you figured that out early on and finding the right person for you

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  3. I think when someone is younger it's a challenge, and girls like challenges, they are not too comfortable having things so easy in their life.

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    1. I'm starting to think this is right for women of any age?

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