As much as I've been meeting new guys, dating, and talking about finding the right guy, I've realized that I don't think I actually want to find him right now (or maybe ever). I love hanging out with myself, doing stuff by myself, and having the time to figure out who I am and who I want to be. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want.
Unfortunately, I feel extremely pressured to find a guy and spend the next 50 years (which is a really long time) with him because I am in my 30s. I blame society for this belief that women have an "expiration date." Yes, it is true that some women may have difficulty conceiving should they want children if they are in their 40s, but not everyone wants children. I've never known so many married people without children before moving to San Francisco. Also, men believe they can be dads whenever they want whether they are 18 or 88; sure, that's true to a certain degree, but not without risks. I saw this article years ago, so guys, if you are sitting on your high horses, time to dismount.
I do still believe that if/when I'm ready to meet the right guy I will. Some may say I am being foolish, I disagree.
There is definitely a ton of pressure on women to find someone and "settle down" (I hate that phrase so much) because society assumes that 100% of women want to be mothers to biological children.
ReplyDeleteSociety does favor the couples - whether it's seating arrangements at weddings or paying a single supplement for travel - but I'm hoping that trend goes the same way as non-married cohabitation or interracial marriages.... i.e. irrelevant.
You seem to have an awesome life, AG! Don't let anyone make you feel bad for being single.
Thanks, Sabrina!
DeleteI didn't get married until age 48. And had an awesome life. Don't listen to the haters.
ReplyDeleteAnon, just curious, where do you live?
DeleteA lot of these people who get married in their 20s and early 30s are divorced by their 40s. I am. I wish I had waited for the right guy and done it right.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear that, the second husband will be better ;)
DeleteMaybe taking a short break would be a nice breather. That's usually when the right ones falls into your lap. ;-)
ReplyDeleteA short break or moving to a new city. A friend is moving to Denver, can't wait to hear her tales!
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