A new year, a fresh start, ahhhh. I'm not sure if this qualifies as a resolution (I typically don't make these...at least, not only at the start of a new year). People seem to automatically do a "Year in Review" type of thing around the holidays; I certainly do, but I digress...
So, a new thing I'm doing in 2014: not going out with guys just because I already agreed I would. Let me explain, there have been several instances in 2013 (and probably beyond) where I have agreed to go out with a guy, was massively turned off by something he said over email/phone/text/etc before the date, but went out with him anyway because I had already agreed I would. This has never worked out for me! Think I'd be doing the guy a favor if I just say, "Hi, sorry, I have to cancel" or something like that.
I'm still mad at myself for having gone out with this guy. I was already annoyed with him before we had even met! If I liked him, I might have thought to myself, "Oh, that's cute that he keeps contacting me and wants to know more." However, since I didn't like him, I was left thinking, "Ugh, I should have cancelled. What a horrible date. What a waste of time and I feel a violated because he rapid fired 150 obtrusive questions at me." No, I didn't answer all his questions and I still feel this way.
Don't be mad at yourself. Even a bad experience is a lesson learned and a memory! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you! I definitely learned something, lol
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