All the world's a stage - Shakespeare
I agreed to have dinner with New Leaf Guy. I am going to pick a very expensive restaurant and order the most expensive items on the menu to get the "flaking is bad" message out there (he should already know flaking is bad, flaking is bad in all settings, romantic, business, et al). I am going to act like I believe his lame "I did let you know" excuse. (I know many readers have said this Google Hangout/Chat issue is real; I would say about 2% of me believes it applies in this case.) I don't care if it was a lie or the truth; I know it's over and we will be business contacts.
Why did I agree to dinner instead of my normal ghosting (what I really want to do)? I need this to be peaceful. SF is small, he knows a lot of people, and I don't want him bad mouthing me (something I can 100% see him doing).
How "order the most expensive items on the menu" and "get the "flaking is bad" message out there" are linked together? Aren't you supposed to split the bill?
ReplyDeleteAlso this reminds me of a story where a girl was going out with a guy to an expensive restaurant ordering a lot of stuff (the story says it was more than she could deal with) and the guy ordered nothing. Later in the evening he left and never returned so she had to pay for all of that herself. So watch out! :) And have a good evening in any case :)
Split the bill? I do not date men who require splitting the bill. I feel that's very business like and a sign that he's cheap (someone I'd never go out with again)
DeleteThanks! I heard a similar story. Was that in a major city?
That's a really immature way of handling the situation by making this guy buy you an expensive dinner. How about communicating and using your words? Or just ignoring the guy if you dislike him so much? Your response just seems catty. This is not a date, therefore the bill should be split.
DeleteAre you a man or a woman? As a mid 30s woman, I can safely say that while I am open to splitting a check in a business setting, it almost never happens, my companion always insists on treating.
DeleteI think you are assuming that paying for an expensive meal would be a hardship for him. It isn't. If you had read previous posts related to the topic, you'd know I had already communicated using my words, this was a bonus and something women do...often. If you had fully read this post, you'd also know why I can't ignore him.
Hold your judgment and name calling. I could say you are "catty" and "immature" for judging others. Are you Mary Poppins? Doubt it
Eff this guy! Make him get your uber home, too.
ReplyDeleteYes! Thanks, Anon!
Delete> Split the bill? I do not date men who require splitting the bill. I feel that's very business like and a sign that he's cheap (someone I'd never go out with again)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing :) It's a popular belief among people I chatted with in Ukraine that splitting the bill is the default option even when dating :)
> Thanks! I heard a similar story. Was that in a major city?
Unfortunately, the only other detail I can remember is that the guy was a foreigner :) I've heard it in Kiev (capital of Ukraine ~3million people)
Hi Ivan, ah, you aren't in the US! I think the story I heard was in NY
DeleteBesides the US, the man paying for dates is not a common practice in the Western world. It's the exception elsewhere, not the norm.
ReplyDeleteI don't see the connection either, of how an expensive dinner equals teaching him a lesson, especially if he can well afford it. Despite the fact that you have a common social network, there's no need to see him face to face. Have a phone conversation at most. Why waste your time?
Hi Sabrina, glad I live in the US. Think it's also very common for the men to pay for dates in Asia
DeleteHe can afford it, but he can be a bit tight fisted. I attempted the phone conversation, but he still insisted on meeting in person. I need to go peacefully