I remember seeing articles about Facebook causing breakups, an example is attached. I can absolutely see this being the case. Think about 20 years ago, you would have no idea if your husband/boyfriend was making new friends who happen to be women. Today? You can see all of it, every second of every day. Even if you 100% trusted your man, you wouldn't be somewhat uneasy? I would want to know how he met these women and why he feels the need to see all her photos, comments, et al.
One of my girlfriends won't add her husband on Facebook because she doesn't want to cause concern or be concerned. Too many questions can arise from ambiguous posts - Who were you there with? I thought you cancelled lunch with me because you were buried, but you checked in at that restaurant? Who's that girl you just added and how do you know her?
I guess it depends on the situation. I found out a lot of information (negative) about men I've been dating, due to their Twitter or Facebook accounts, which were early day alarm bells. These days I am Facebook friends with my boyfriend, but both of us aren't very active on it and we talk to each other very candidly if something was bothering either one of us... I guess it depends on the relationship...
ReplyDeleteThat's great that you two are very open with each other!
DeleteI feel like it isn't very manly if a guy is really active on facebook. lol
ReplyDeleteLOL! Agreed!
DeleteI never "stalk" any guys I date on social media. I don't put their name in a search engine, I don't look at the visible aspects of their Facebook. Why bother? Your social media profile does not define you, and many people have a completely different online persona than their real one.
ReplyDeleteI added my boyfriend on FB after 7 months of dating and to this day, I've never looked at his profile. Not his pictures, not his wall, nothing. I have zero interest in anything about him that he hasn't told me directly.
Your willpower is very high!
DeleteI just have no interest! The past is the past, and I also don't care/don't need to know what he's doing all the time. If he says "I had dinner with an old college friend", I don't ask the person's gender or too many questions. What matters is how a guy treats you and treats your relationship.
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