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Saturday, March 1, 2014
This Was An Interesting Read
I thought this was an interesting read, especially the part about moving if there doesn't seem to be many single guys.
I had an experience in the Mission last night and I really wanted to share.
So when I go to the Mission, I generally go to the same handful of bars that I enjoy. Gestalt, Kilowatt, Dalva.....pretty much all the spots on 16th between Valencia and Guerrero. The crowds have pretty much remained the same.
But last night, me and a friend decided to do some bar hoping up and down Mission and Valencia. And my gawd was I surprised. It's actually been a while since I ventured through these parts and shit has changed. Bar after bar filled with geeky little tech kids and pretty attractive girls. My first thought was "OMG, Adventuresaurus Girl was right!". As we went along I kept getting more and more annoyed with the crowd. Seriously tiny guys who would try to joke around with me as I was in line for the bathrooms. "Yeah dude, I know we're in line and no it's not funny".
So as I became more inebriated, I started bumping into these kids on purpose to see if anyone got in my face. I wanted to see some kind of danger or excitement. All I got were apologies from them when it was me who clearly and purposely ran into them.
But the kicker was that the girls were all clearly hotter than all the dudes. I was talking with one cute girl and she was fun, but then her geeky friends come up to us and start asking me all sorts of stupid questions about my tattoo and where I work. WTF dude? I couldn't get her one on one for the rest of my time at the bar and next thing I know they're gone, no number....nothing. I just got geek cock blocked!
So yeah, the Mission sucks ass now and I'm bummed. I'm hoping my little corner holds out from the lameness.
Bah, it was a bad weekend. I come from a rough family in a backwoods part of Pennsylvania. I never ever want to fight because I was forced to when I was young. But, I clawed my way out of that shit situation and I'm still a bit feisty for the effort. That tends to come out from time to time. :/
You should stop projecting your deficiencies and insecurity on these tech kids. You deserve a "cute" girl too, but bashing on how these guys are tiny/geeky to make yourself feel better about NOT having an attractive girl by your side is a cop out, and a sheepish perspective on life. These tech kids with these "hot" girls, might come from the same social circle, same college. Maybe they bond because they come from the same upbringing, same whatever -- point being, who the hell gives a sh*t. No one's there to judge -- except you. And it's that judgment you carry for people, instead of trying to be happy for people, that causes you to interpret situations you're uncomfortable with as lame, so as an excuse not to change yourself. Then you revert into some fake alpha male crap about bumping into them to see what they do? Get over yourself.
Whoa, sensitive much? Let me say this. The Mission used to be cool, a bit grimy and sort of dangerous. Now it's gentrified and filled with kids who have way too much money and want to feel too safe. But I guess that's what money and privilege does. They want to have a nice little bubble where they are safe from danger and judgement and rejection.
Maybe what I said is a bit harsh, maybe it was a bit insensitive. But it's not fun seeing a city you lived in and loved for far longer than most of these kids have, be changed and not for the better. This is the first time I was witness to this and it upset me.
What I do know is that you don't know me and so all the insults you're throwing mostly involve a venting of your own anger and frustrations at an easy target. That's cool, I take no offense to them.
I had an experience in the Mission last night and I really wanted to share.
ReplyDeleteSo when I go to the Mission, I generally go to the same handful of bars that I enjoy. Gestalt, Kilowatt, Dalva.....pretty much all the spots on 16th between Valencia and Guerrero. The crowds have pretty much remained the same.
But last night, me and a friend decided to do some bar hoping up and down Mission and Valencia. And my gawd was I surprised. It's actually been a while since I ventured through these parts and shit has changed. Bar after bar filled with geeky little tech kids and pretty attractive girls. My first thought was "OMG, Adventuresaurus Girl was right!". As we went along I kept getting more and more annoyed with the crowd. Seriously tiny guys who would try to joke around with me as I was in line for the bathrooms. "Yeah dude, I know we're in line and no it's not funny".
So as I became more inebriated, I started bumping into these kids on purpose to see if anyone got in my face. I wanted to see some kind of danger or excitement. All I got were apologies from them when it was me who clearly and purposely ran into them.
But the kicker was that the girls were all clearly hotter than all the dudes. I was talking with one cute girl and she was fun, but then her geeky friends come up to us and start asking me all sorts of stupid questions about my tattoo and where I work. WTF dude? I couldn't get her one on one for the rest of my time at the bar and next thing I know they're gone, no number....nothing. I just got geek cock blocked!
So yeah, the Mission sucks ass now and I'm bummed. I'm hoping my little corner holds out from the lameness.
I wonder if you're good enough with seeing some excitement, or the idea is to have a fight? :)
DeleteBah, it was a bad weekend. I come from a rough family in a backwoods part of Pennsylvania. I never ever want to fight because I was forced to when I was young. But, I clawed my way out of that shit situation and I'm still a bit feisty for the effort. That tends to come out from time to time. :/
DeleteYou should stop projecting your deficiencies and insecurity on these tech kids. You deserve a "cute" girl too, but bashing on how these guys are tiny/geeky to make yourself feel better about NOT having an attractive girl by your side is a cop out, and a sheepish perspective on life. These tech kids with these "hot" girls, might come from the same social circle, same college. Maybe they bond because they come from the same upbringing, same whatever -- point being, who the hell gives a sh*t. No one's there to judge -- except you. And it's that judgment you carry for people, instead of trying to be happy for people, that causes you to interpret situations you're uncomfortable with as lame, so as an excuse not to change yourself. Then you revert into some fake alpha male crap about bumping into them to see what they do? Get over yourself.
ReplyDeleteWhoa, sensitive much? Let me say this. The Mission used to be cool, a bit grimy and sort of dangerous. Now it's gentrified and filled with kids who have way too much money and want to feel too safe. But I guess that's what money and privilege does. They want to have a nice little bubble where they are safe from danger and judgement and rejection.
DeleteMaybe what I said is a bit harsh, maybe it was a bit insensitive. But it's not fun seeing a city you lived in and loved for far longer than most of these kids have, be changed and not for the better. This is the first time I was witness to this and it upset me.
What I do know is that you don't know me and so all the insults you're throwing mostly involve a venting of your own anger and frustrations at an easy target. That's cool, I take no offense to them.