If I hear from that guy I met up with on Monday, what do I do? He reminds me of Valley Guy -- not a good thing. He seemed better than Valley Guy because he was more interesting and less arrogant. He didn't sweep me off my feet though. Should I follow my two date rule and agree to see him again?
I probably won't hear from him. I wasn't very nice towards the end of the meeting (I was probably bitchy). Things happen for a reason.
Hey, I've scanned through entries in your blog, just because it's like chips or sunflower seeds - start with a handful and pretty soon, the bottom of the bag is looking back at you.
ReplyDeleteIt reminds me of this: http://xkcd.com/642/.
Not sure moving from SF would be an improvement. Look up living in Lincoln Park (Chicago) or Arlington (VA). You'll find the same scene, same complaints - both regarding men and women.
Here's my perspective, as strongly introvert: I wouldn't approach people (men or women) socially until having observed sufficiently in a non-artificial environment to get a good-enough read of the person.
I do this because I'm not a social butterfly and casual interaction with many people (consisting of regurgitated sound bytes) isn't energizing (as it is with extroverts) but draining, quickly transitioning to aggravating when it comes to opportunists/carpetbaggers - people short-timing everything, including relationships.
Likely, this is easily mistaken as being passive, shy, unwilling to face potential rejection (or being/pretending to be an elitist prick). However, in a quick hit-n-run context people don't appear to be anything other than fungible units in a herd. Eminently disposable. There's little difference between trailer park residents and corporate cubicle dwellers (a.k.a., "conslutants"); just different ends of the spectrum, indistinguishable in essence when looking at absolute value.
In short, stop looking. Pretend you're Batgirl.
A quotable-quote from Steinbeck:
It has always seemed strange to me... the things we admire in men, kindness and generosity, openness, honesty, understanding and feeling, are the concomitants of failure in our system. And those traits we detest, sharpness, greed, acquisitiveness, meanness, egotism and self-interest, are the traits of success. And while men admire the quality of the first they love the produce of the second.