New Year

Okay, it is a new year and I am behind on posts.  We will take a look into what has happened in the last 2-3 weeks.

Felix

I heard Felix out and have seen him a couple of times (and I am right about the 48 hours thing).  He has stepped up, but I am not entirely certain that it's more than a fluke.  Furthermore, still not sure about him.  Just like anyone else, he has some very good qualities and very bad qualities.  I am going to have to give it more time to see how they stack up against each other. It would be disappointing if even more bad qualities appear without any good...  Disappointing because I would have wasted so much time and energy.

From what I have heard he is absolutely entirely interested in me, but I don't see it.  He's very nice, but distracted, stressed, unhappy, whatever, and it shows.  At times I find myself catching his mood from seeing him (not good).  He was doing so well when we just hung out as friends and on our first date.  I know he is going through some stuff right now, but is that a symptom or a cause?  And even if one is going through stuff, that wouldn't change them from being optimists at heart to pessimists right?  I think he might be a pessimist, but hid it incredibly well for the entire time I have known him.

Ivan brought this to my attention a while ago, Felix is a "bitter bachelor."  He's bitter because some girl from the past tore him apart and his personal life is not where he had hoped it would be at this age/point in time.  Well, a little advice for Felix, if he keeps this up, he will only become more bitter with time because he will not get that wife, 2.5 kids, and a picket fence.

The Brain

I have seen The Brain once or twice over the last couple of weeks.  More importantly though, he emails and texts me even when we have no plans.  He just wants to say hello and see how I am doing.  I know I am on his mind and that might be the most important thing when I consider guys.  I know he is 100% interested and actively trying to find ways to see me again.

From my limited interactions with The Brain, I think he is genuinely a cool guy.  He's funny and makes me smile, so he's got the right personality.  He knows how to joke and let go of ghosts/issues which makes him laid back and relaxed.  He doesn't want to depress me with things that are bothering him, quite honorable in my opinion.  However, personality alone is not enough.  Right now, I have no desire to see him naked.  Will I if I get to know him better?  I think it can happen, Felix is proof.

Okay, so I haven't know The Brain that long, so everything can change as I get to know more of him.  I know.

Felix vs The Brain

I think The Brain would make a much better boyfriend/husband than Felix.  I believe The Brain is capable of making me happier than Felix because our personalities work better together.  And, Felix has major demons he needs to banish if I am to continue considering him as a serious candidate. 

I want to see if Felix can outshine The Brain even though he is miles behind.  The Brain is just as busy as Felix, but makes a huge effort.  Felix, what the hell are you doing?????  Way to screw it up man, to go from first choice to last choice (if a choice at all).  And, to be completely oblivious to this...that takes a lot of skill.

It would be great if I could just combine these two.

Really Shy

Some guys really are shy.  I've heard of the whole "He's Just Not Into You" thing and I believe it applies more often not.  However, there are those cases...the cases that have to do with the "really shy."  I know The Brain is interested, but when I see him (because he invited me somewhere), he looks like he's about to turn around and make a run for it.  At least he is able to shake it off.

And then we have the kind of guy who cannot shake it off, for example, Felix.  He is incapable of making plans and sticking to them if they are set 48+ hours in advance.  Apparently, 48 hours is the most amount of time he can handle before freaking out, over analyzing, and ejecting himself.

Tis The Season

Tis the season for guys from the past to emerge out of the woodworks.

So far Oblivious Guy has emerged.

Some of you want a reminder on Oblivious Guy.  Simply put, he was oblivious.  He has been known to call/text/email over 20x/day without me answering or replying once.

I Really Feel The Guys

I can now say I really feel the guys. I was at a party and chose to converse with girls rather than the incredibly socially awkward guys.  Well, I am not sure which option was worse.  One girl latched onto me and wanted to make me her BFF.

Issues with the girl which also represents 95% of the girls at the party:

1. Unattractive
2. Terrible personality and poor conversationalist; I would be too generous if I said average.  I had to sit through all of it; the topics included: hair, hair salons, make-up, high heels, dresses, perfume, and more.  I was bored as a girl, I can only imagine what goes through a guy's head
   
3. Unintelligent
   

With even one of these oh so lovely traits, you would think these women would be pleasant; no, not the case.  They were arrogant!!!  The uglies thought and acted like they were hot.  The boring and catty thought they were just too cool for everyone else in the room.  The stupid were too ignorant and slow to figure out people were being condescending while conversing with them...yes, I am really good at this, apparently better than I had thought.

I must stop being nice to and feeling bad for the socially awkward guys.  I am sure they don't want or need my sympathy unless it helps them score; not likely.

The Brain asked me out, but I had a conflict.

Alright

Arthur, come on!!!  Get a clue.  You too Player.

I met up with another one of the guys I met a party a couple of weeks ago over the weekend.  Apparently, parties are where I go to meet single guys.  I have mentioned this guy in previous posts, but he his getting named The Brain.  Obviously, I think he is smart and he is going about pursing me in an intelligent manner.  It started out a bit rough, but he has changed his tactics and is doing much better.  I'm thinking about giving him a shot.

Oh Felix.  He's going to be facing some serious competition soon.

Encouraged?

All of my guy friends want me to hear Felix out.  All of my girls want me to lynch him.  Hmm.  Guys are right in saying that Felix is one of the only guys I might be interested in dating, and I have met at least a hundred guys.  Girls are right in saying it's rude to keep rescheduling.

This has gone on for so long.  I need to break out MS Project and create deliverables if Felix sticks around; there's just something not quite right with that.

Oh, I don't know what to do.

I have been polite to The Player.  Unfortunately, I think he is getting encouraged and my politeness is being misread.

Lost

Everyone has lost.

The Player is still contacting me.  I would like to have the friend talk.  It's tough to do since I don't pick up or  return his calls.  I just do not have time to field his spur of the moment invitations; I find them to be quite irksome.

Felix has lost.  Over the last few weeks, we have been discussing getting together.  However, after numerous conflicts, reschedules, etc., he is done.  He seems to want to pursue something, but doesn't have the balls.  It's annoying having to agree on a day, just to have to agree on another day, just to have that changed too.

Odie has lost, but I think I will see him sometime within the next three weeks or so.  Maybe he'll get another chance...