Mistreated

I was thinking about that young girl at brunch last weekend again.  It reminded me of some stuff, I'd like to overlook.  It was never that bad, but I remember when I was younger (late teens and early 20s) and would tolerate obnoxious behavior from the guys I was dating.  Ultimately, I got fed up and bailed, but the fact that I stuck around for even a couple of dates or weeks is plain embarrassing.

Maybe it's a youth thing?  I can't think of one girl I knew who didn't have an "*sshole" boyfriend at some point in her life.  And we (as women) only let them be "*sshole boyfriends" because we let them stick around.  Clearly, that's not the case anymore, LOL.

Oh, Again?

Oh, again?  The guys I've met and have actually gone out with (on more than two dates) just don't get it.  Someone liked me on OkCupid today.  It was...Valley Guy.  Yeah, I don't think so, thanks.  What's even more interesting?  He's the same age as he was three years ago (and he was already lying back then).  He's in his mid 40s (possibly late 40s), not late 30s as he claims to be.  And, he's also using the same photo which taken 20 years ago.

That Poor Girl

Over the weekend, I was standing in line outside a busy brunch spot.  There was a young couple behind me (maybe early or mid 20s) and I couldn't help, but overhear what was being said.  The guy was a total dck and loud.  Some the things he condescendingly said to her:

• You've only been here once?  You go on and on about this place like you are a regular.  Was that one time really that great?  That one time does not make you a regular, you know?
• Well, that's not very descriptive (she was describing some dish).  Your description was horrible.  Were you just trying to do a really sh*tty job describing it?
• Do you even know what we should order?
• This wasn't well thought out on your part
• This line is so long, I better not get a ticket 

She couldn't get him off her back and asked him if he wanted to wait in the car.  He said no (which was really terrible, not just for her, but for everyone in this line).  By the way, she was on the verge of tears (I'm guessing from anger, I'd be pissed).

That poor girl.  She can do better, no one deserves to be criticized for 30 minutes straight.  She was also way cuter than him.

10 First Date Faux Pas

10 first date faux pas according to SFGate and what I usually encounter:
1.  Too much information (wow, he just told me about his travel stomach issues)
2.  Eating off my plate (wtf)
4.  Talking about the ex (this almost always happens)
5.  Uncomplimentary remarks (this even happens when I'm not on a date)
7.  The me show (always)
8.  Last minute scheduling (happens way too much, pretty infuriating)
9.  Expecting to get some (happened twice, not even in NY, this was in SF)
10.  Ignoring signals (I've packed up all my stuff, looked at my watch 20 times, and he ordered another drink)

#3 is splitting the check.  No, I do not split checks, feels too businesslike and I believe in chivalry.  If a guy has a problem with this, he's not the guy for me, and no, we will never see each other again.  It's the principal and the act of providing (doesn't matter if the cost is $2 or $200).  It's the engineers who seem to have a problem with this...and one lawyer.

Too Many Choices

Have you seen this op-ed in The New York Times?  It's interesting and I agree with it.  When people are faced with too many choices, they can't make decisions (that theory really came from The Paradox of Choice, which I have read, it's a really interesting book).

In terms of dating, I don't think technology has helped us.  It's made finding people more difficult because there are too many choices (not all good choices).  People rely on the digital world (texting, email, etc) so much that people aren't good at interacting with others face to face anymore (out of practice, never learned, blah blah).

And people go into checklist mode when they meet someone from an online source (job, education, hobbies, blah blah).  I remember when it used to be, "Bobby, in my math class is so cute and funny."  There was no, "Does Bobby have hopes to be blah when he grows up?  Does he plan on going ivy or state?  Does he swing dance on the weekends?"

And This Is Why You Can't Get A Girl

I went to a networking event and met a friend of a friend.  He asked me what I do for a living.  I told him.  His response, "So, you add no value; you're basically useless and just take up space."  Instead of arguing with him, defending myself, whatevering with him; I simply turned around and started talking to someone else.  He tried to get my attention for the next ten minutes.  I ignored him.

I know he wasn't trying to be a d*ck, but he was a d*ck (I've met a lot of these types of guys); kinda reminds me of Sheldon on The Big Bang Theory.  I did think, "And this is why you can't get a girl" about a hundred times even after I got home.

Date Conversation Topics

Time magazines talks about stuff like dating?  I guess so, see here.  Lol, controversial topics, such as STDs and abortion are suggested.